Ask a Girl to Be Your Valentine

If you like a girl, asking her to be your valentine is a great way to let her know how you feel. There are lots of creative and fun ways to ask her, or you can just be direct. No matter how you ask, make sure you have a good plan for the two of you to spend time together on Valentine’s Day.


Being Creative

  1. Send her a gift. Buy her a pizza and write something clever, like “I know it’s cheesy, but will you be my valentine?” in the lid. Get her a small stuffed animal, and hang a sign on the animal’s neck with the question “Will you be my valentine?” Send her a box of chocolates or candy hearts with the question on the lid.[1]
  2. Write her a note. Make her a homemade valentine’s card. Cut it out of red or pink construction paper. Use your best handwriting to tell her you’d like her to be your valentine. You could also buy a valentine.
    • Choose a card that reflects your relationship. Pick something romantic if you’re already going out with her or something more laid back if you’re friends.
  3. Give her flowers. Send her flowers or give them to her in person. Attach a little note to the flowers that asks her to be your valentine. Use the card even if you give them to her in person.[2]
  4. Bake something for her. Surprise her with homemade goodies. Make sure you follow the recipe, especially if you don’t bake regularly. Ask her to be your valentine when you give her the treat.
    • Joke about it if your creation doesn’t end up tasting great. For example, you can say that you did your best to bring her something sweet, even if it can’t measure up to how great and sweet she is.
  5. Cover the ground with chocolate kisses. Buy some chocolate kisses. Try to get them in Valentine’s Day pink and red if you can. Glue them to the ground where you know she will be, like her front step or in front of her locker at school. Write her a note saying, “Now that I have kissed the ground that you walk on, will you be my valentine?”[3]
    • You can also glue them to the ground in a line along a path that she commonly walks.

Asking Directly

  1. Find a good time to talk with her. Don’t just rush up to her to ask if she’ll be your valentine. Figure out when you can have a few quiet moments together during the day if you see her regularly. Call her when you know she’ll be home.
  2. Keep it simple. Don’t worry too much about what to say. Tell her you’d like her to be your valentine. If you want to add anything, list a few of the things you like about her. You’d could also remind her of things you have in common or enjoy doing together.
    • Focus on saying things you like about her as a person. Try saying things like, “I like how nice you are to other people” or “I admire your confidence” or “You’re really creative and funny.”
    • Remember to tell her how nice she looks.
  3. Practice your spiel if you’re nervous or shy. Work up your courage to ask her in person by rehearsing what you want to say. Be calm and confident. Don’t worry about what she might be looking for in a valentine and focus on being yourself.[4]
    • Start by saying hi: “Hi, it’s so good to see you!”
    • Show an interest in her by asking “How are you?”
    • Be sure to tell her you’d like to spend time together on Valentine’s Day: “I’d love to get together on Valentine’s.”

Minding the Details

  1. Dress nicely when you ask her. Make an effort to impress her with your outfit and hygiene because this will show you think she’s worth that effort. Avoid looking sloppy or like you don’t care. Don’t worry about dressing in your best clothes -- you just want to look put together.[5]
  2. Ask her in person or over the phone. Talking with her in person will impress her and show her you’re sincere. Send her a text or a private message on Facebook or Instagram to break the ice if you’re feeling shy. Follow up with a phone call to make it more personal.[6]
  3. Suggest a specific date for Valentine’s Day. Ask her to dinner or lunch or invite her on a picnic. Suggest something fun, like ice skating or another activity you both enjoy. Be prepared to treat her since you’re asking her out.[7]
    • For example, you can say, “I’d love to take you out to dinner, and then we can go to glow golf.”
    • If the weather is nice enough you can suggest, “Let’s spend the afternoon at the lake. I’ll bring a picnic and we can rent a boat. What’s your favorite picnic food?”

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