Be Mysterious over Text Messages

It is hard to maintain mystery when you want to get to know someone. Especially with the rise in popularity of online dating it is easy to become far too open, far to quick. These tips will help you maintain your mystery and leave a man wanting to know more.

Steps

  1. Reveal amounts of information. What you had for dinner is not interesting, a book you’ve recently read is.
  2. Wait. You are a woman with things to do. As hard as it may be, leave a minimum of 20 minutes between each message... the longer the better.
  3. Suggest things with answers then after he makes the assumption question this. “You: You need someone to look after you… Him: Aw yeah, come look after me. You: Who says I was talking about me?”
  4. Keep kisses at the end of a text to minimum. None is best.
  5. If he asks how your day was don’t go into too much detail. If he doesn’t ask what you did, don’t tell him!
  6. If he asks what you’re doing be vague. Especially if you’re watching come dine with me
  7. Don’t always be open with your feelings. This doesn’t mean lie about your feelings but when you are open he will appreciate it and aim to get you to open up to him again.
  8. Jokes? Allude to them occasionally. This will make him feel like he is beginning to get past the mystery when he really is nowhere near
  9. Choose your words carefully. Women tend to be more mysterious. Longer words will seem more intense.
  10. Ask him questions. When he answers don’t seem that bothered.
  11. As weird as it may feel, try to include his name in texts. This will make him believe he is the man on your mind… Until you don’t reply for hours.
  12. Be passionate about the things you enjoy. A woman who is passionate is very mysterious.

Tips

  • You don't have to be mysterious all of the time. Alternating between mysterious and then flirty and fun can be a great way to show him what he could have.
  • Try not to go too far. You may have him think you just simply don't want to talk to him.
  • Do not text him first unless you have a purpose. Eg. Need to ask him a question.
  • Keep up the mystery on dates; compliment this persona with a look.
  • If you are worried about how you sound, if you feel a little weird, he will like your imperfections if he really likes your usual mysteriousness.

Warnings

  • Gauge his reaction – if he does not seem to be responding well change your approach slightly, you don’t want to come off as rude and stuck-up.
  • This can often backfire, especially in teens. If you use it and he stops being interested, it's your fault, not his!
  • This does not work in relationships.

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