Be the Bigger Person
Are you tired of getting dragged into arguments, and never knowing how to get out? Use a simple technique that I call "being the bigger person". This is something that I have learned to use with my younger sister. When you're the bigger person, the arguments stop- YOU'RE DONE! Finally, you can say, "Aahh..."
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Steps
- First, address the person on how the argument is going to affect the BOTH of you later on. Make sure include key points such as: Stress, Anger, and Irritability.
- To avoid retaliating in anger, breathe in deeply and count to a number in your head, whether it's three all the way to one hundred.
- The only reason why people argue is because they don't want to feel defeated by their "opponent." If you realize that the opponent's feeling of victory or success in each argument will fade as you continue to act like you don't care, you'll be less hesitant to stop the argument.
- If all else fails, ignore the person and walk away.
Tips
- Smile at the person after the argument so that they feel like their efforts really couldn't make a dent in you.
- Even when you are addressing the person, or turning around, don't show any negative attitude, because then would know that their harassment really does affect you.
- Be conscious of your state of mind when you smile. If you are feeling anger or aggression, it may be interpreted that way and engage the person again in conflict.
Warnings
- Your efforts may make the situation worse because the person will dislike you even more because of your strength. If so, apologize (no matter how much you don't want to) and start from a clean slate.
