Make Your Long Distance Boyfriend Feel Special

Long distance relationships require trust, respect, and lots of love to keep going. If you want to make your long distance boyfriend feel special, then you have to make an extra effort to show him you care. You can make him feel special by taking time out to express how you feel and sending him something that lets him know you are thinking of him.

Steps

Expressing How Much You Care

  1. Write an old-fashioned love letter to send by regular post. While you can send an email instantly, getting a package, or letter in the post is a much more intimate and a heartfelt effort. Letters also create a keepsake that just can’t happen via email.[1]
    • Don’t worry about writing the perfect poem or something profound, the fact that you made the effort to write is enough. You can draw a picture, find a heartfelt pre-made card or even send a postcard from a special place.
    • If you want to try to write something special, try telling the story of how the two of you met. Give him special details that create a bond that only you two share.[2]
  2. Send an email out of the blue. Keeping a long distance relationship special means making an extra effort, including sending an email just because instead of always replying to their emails. This can be as simple as a quick message to say they are on your mind or sending something funny.
    • Keep in mind you may not always get a reply right back, we can’t expect the other person to always be available but you can make an effort to send them an email they can read when they are.
  3. Make him the last person you talk to each night. No matter how busy you each get, taking the time to set aside routines like ending every night with each other on the phone or video chat makes the other person know they are important. Make plans to make time every day for each other.

Sending a Pick-Me-Up

  1. Send a funny e-card. You can find a silly GIF to send via chat or post a cute meme on their social media. Humor is a fun way to share an inside joke or a smile even when you aren’t together. You don’t always have to try to be “romantic” to stay connected. Sharing laughter is a good way to avoid becoming depressed due to being apart.[3]
  2. Send a silly picture of yourself. Pictures are a fun way to include each other in daily life and can be sent instantly. They can also help to keep the other person from getting jealous as they are regularly included in daily life.
  3. Make a slideshow that features photos of you two. Celebrate the times you are together and countdown to the next time you will visit each other. A slideshow with a special song can be a fun way to save memories.
  4. Mail him a care package of his favorite things. This doesn’t need to be something “romantic”, instead a sign that you are paying attention and know him better than anyone else.
    • As a special way to count down to an upcoming visit, you can also send special gifts he can use while traveling or for the visit. If he is flying send him a survival kit for the flight or a new scarf in his favorite color for a winter visit.

Connecting with Your Love

  1. Schedule regular video calls. Being able to see the other person instead of merely talking to them or emailing them lets you share a better connection. You can even share video visits in different places like a favorite spot you enjoy together to bridge the gap.
  2. Plan to meet in person every once in a while. Visits include plenty of quality time whether or not you choose to do a lot of activities or just spend time together relaxing. Quality time and creating memories is what is important, not what you actually end up doing.[4]
    • You do not want to put too much pressure on each other to do things that are grand or big events, it’s the quality of the time you have that is most important. Too much pressure to make everything perfect can ruin a visit.
  3. Engage in activities together. Play online games. Watch a TV show at the same time. Use technology like Skype to be able to share a meal or attend an event while apart. Doing things together doesn’t always have to be in person.[4]
    • If you are not sure about what type of activities you can do together miles apart, look into things like a new video game or hobby on the next visit that can carry over to when you are apart. It can be fun to learn something new or meet on line to play a new virtual reality game you both like.
  4. Don’t forget special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Making an effort to remember special days whether or not you spend them together in person can go a long way in making the effort to keep relationship special and active.[5]
    • You may not always be able to spend special days together, but taking the time to celebrate in your own way can make them still very special. This can include sending a gift, or a video chat to include your partner in the holiday.
    • Keeping a calendar can help to remind you of special days and focus on future visits. If you want to help him remember those dates as well, make him a cute calendar with pictures of the two of you with the dates already filled in.

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Sources and Citations

  1. ↑ http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/long-distance-relationships-giving-it-go
  2. ↑ http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-02-06/features/sc-fam-0205-lifeskill-love-letter-20130205_1_love-letter-love-poems-heartfelt-task
  3. ↑ http://counsel.mst.edu/selfhelp/vpl/distancerelationships/
  4. ↑ 4.0 4.1 http://tinybuddha.com/blog/4-lessons-about-love-and-long-distance-relationships/
  5. ↑ https://well.wvu.edu/articles/long_distance_relationships__how_to_keep_yours_going_strong
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