Capture the Interest of a Nerdy Girl
Whether you're a jock who is crushing on the beautiful smart girl or a nerdy guy who just doesn't know how to Break the Ice With Women, capturing the interest of a nerdy girl is a rewarding feeling. Smart, unique, and kind of Be Odd, nerdy girls are the most diverse "species" of girl.
Steps
- Figure out what she's interested in. There are many different types of nerds and knowing her type is one of the most important things you can do. (A fuller explanation is found at the base of this article.) She can be a one or more of the following:
- If she's wearing a black shirt with neon accessories, and listening to techno or playing the Tetris theme on her instrument, maybe she's a techie.
- If she has on a shirt that says "Roll for initiative" on it and refers to herself as "Adora" the Eladrin Paladin devoted to the Raven Queen, then she's a Be a Professional Roleplayer.
- If she dresses in pleated skirts and is fluent in Japanese and likes to rave about Soul Eater, Death Note, or Naruto, then she is an Be an Otaku (Anime Geek), otherwise known as an 'otaku' or 'weeaboo'.
- If she spends all day and night working on or planning out her science project then she is a Science.
- If she is overexcited about resurrecting her old video game platform and spends her free periods playing video games, then she is a gamer.
- If she is a math whiz and is the top "Mathlete" then she's a Join Your Math Team.
- If she is always seen reading or carrying a book or two, she's obviously a bookworm.
- Do a little research. Now that you know what she's interested in, look up some of the things she likes:
- If she's a techie, look up Benny Benassi's "Satisfaction", and "Able to Love".
- If she's a role-player, get a free trial! World of Warcraft or some other MMORPG (Massively Multiplayer Online Role-playing Game) such as Star Wars The Old Republic or Runescape, and see how you like it.
- If she's a fan girl, figure out which Anime Character Imitation she raves about most and watch an episode or two online.
- If she's a science nerd, learn a little bit about the Study the Quantum Mechanical Equation of Schroedinger.
- If she's a gamer, try playing a few video games.
- If she's a math nerd, brush up on your math skills.
- If she's a bookworm, make reading a hobby. If she sees a book in your hands, she would look your way to see what you're reading and even ask how the book is. Also, you may want to try to figure out what her taste in books are.
- Smile at her to show her that you are friendly. Wave at her in the hallway or nod to her when she sits down in your Learn Classical Mechanics (Physics) class (or your after school Prepare for Biology tutorial). Just make her know your face so if she sees you, it might click in her head "Ooh it's that guy!"
- Break the ice. You can do it. All it takes is one two-letter word: "Hi". Maybe you want to say something else, for instance, "I couldn't help noticing your..." (but please don't say anything perverted!).
- "Roll for initiative." If you aren't familiar with the game Dungeons and Dragons, rolling for initiative is when everybody rolls their d20 (20 sided dice) and the person with the highest roll goes first. Wait for her to say something. If she just smiles shyly at you, take the initiative and say "What's up?"
- Learn about the way she thinks about things. Maybe she's an optimist (in which case, try not to be a Debbie Downer), perhaps she's cynical towards the human race (try not to anger her too much, and instead get on her good side), or it's possible she's a thoughtful person with an open mind, but it's also possible she's arrogant and Avoid Acting Snobbish. If you learn what kind of person she is, getting on her "good side" is a lot easier.
- Ask her to friend you on Facebook, if she has an account there. Recently, Facebook has become popular even amongst the nerd community. On Facebook you can use the chat application on your web browser for casual conversation and you can look at her info (just don’t be a Facebook stalker) to find out a little bit more on what she likes. You could also follow her on Twitter.
- Ask her for her cell phone number if she has one. If she doesn’t have a cell phone, ask for her email address or her Play Station or Xbox Live names. Find some way to contact her, even if it’s through the post.
- Follow her blog if she has one. It’s always nice to see one more follower on a personal blog. It shows her that you're interested in what she has to say. Comment on her posts, and rate them (if she has the option). If you have a Facebook or Twitter account, post her posts on your wall, and give her some "link love". She will especially love these kind actions if she's a computer geek, or is your friend on Facebook.
- Be funny! Whether you act flirty with a few Be a General Geek pickup lines ("I'm a fermata, hold me!") or you tell an elaborate joke about the last episode of Doctor Who, being funny is definitely one of the best ways to find your way into a girl's heart.
- Join her D&D group, join a raid in WoW, sit down and watch your favorite Star Trek rerun together while whispering words of love into her ear (in Klingon!). Do anything to get involved in her life.
Types of nerds
- Explore the variations of nerdy girls. As mentioned above, there are many types of nerd girls. Some of them might be a mixture of these types or they might be their own type all together, but the following types represent the most common:
- The techie, otherwise known as the computer geek: is in love with everything technology. Often, they listen to techno music, but not every techie does. They nearly always know how to code, and have their own website and/or blog. They usually have a knack for little gadgets and enjoy getting the latest model of their favorite phone platform. Techies are usually gamers as well. The best way to relate to a techie is to learn a little bit of html (it's not too hard), listen to techno, and to join a forum or chat-room that you particularly enjoy.
- The sci-fi nerd: loves Star trek, Star Wars, Be a Doctor Who Fan, Battlestar Galactica, Stargate, and everything science fiction. They might nerd-rage over which science fiction series is better, what the best season is, and whether the first 3 Star Wars films made (IV-VI) are better than the last 3 (I-III).
- The comic book junkie: spends all of her time in the local comic book store, reading the latest issues of their favorite series. They either have gone, or are planning to go to Become Like a Comic Book Superhero (for Young Teens) dressed as their favorite characters, and have a knack for keeping the pages of their comics flat and straight, as if freshly printed for years. Take these girls out to the comic book store (yes, the good one) and allow her to rant about the inaccuracies of the latest Marvel film.
- The film geek: loves movies, especially from the 30's to the 60's. They love to make movies, write scripts, star in home-movies, and have probably even entered theirs into a film contest. These girls would gladly go to the movie theatre with you, but don't be surprised if she pays more attention to the movie than to you.
- The theatre geek: is usually obsessed with being on Broadway and being an individual. They are often theatrical and loud, even off the stage, and love making a grand entrance. Usually, they can sing, and will often break into song while doing the dishes. Take these girls to see a theatre production such as The Rocky Horror Show.
- The science nerd: seems to spend all of her time working on her science projects and learning quantum mechanics or marine biology. They love to learn new things. Take these girls to an aquarium or a museum.
- The mathlete: is quick-witted and skilled with numbers. She loves to stimulate her mind with long equations and impossible-to-do problems. It's hard to find an ideal date for a girl like this, but dinner and a movie would definitely be a good idea, perhaps finishing off the date with a stimulating game of chess. Or you could take her to a math conference and hear some thought-provoking lectures on algebraic K-theory or partial differential equations.
- The bookworm: is smart and clever. She has a passion for knowledge, and her mind is filled with a lot of trivia information from all that reading. If you want to "accidentally" run into her, your best bet is going to the library or the bookstore. And of course, if you manage to get her to go on a date with you, always include going to a bookstore somewhere in the arrangement. So, you could go have dinner and then go to the bookstore to browse books together. Or before a movie starts, give ample time to go to the bookstore together.
- The role-player: spends all day playing World of Warcraft and might play Dungeons & Dragons or another RPG with a group of people once a month or so. They live in a fantasy world, and sometimes take it to the extreme, doing things such as live action roleplays, otherwise known as LARPing. Take this girl to the renaissance fair.
- The fan girl or otaku: loves all things anime, and often Cosplay at a Convention (roleplay with costumes) as their favorite characters. Usually obsessed and ready to glomp every Mello or Naruto they find at a convention, these girls are super happy and friendly (for the most part). Take these girls to an anime convention and buy them lots of Make Japanese Mochi.
Tips
- Be yourself! You don't want her falling in love with the person you're pretending to be!
- If the girl you like is a bookworm, she has a good chance of being kind of shy around people she doesn't know well. Try breaking the ice by asking her questions about her favorite book and not to skip any details.
- Have an open mind and be patient. Try to get into the things she talks about, even if they sound "lame".
- Keep learning and take care of your brain fitness. Not just for nerdy girls but in most cases a smart guy (not presumptuous) is cool. Even if she is a science or math specialist, they will surely find some interest in a person who is able, to certain extent, to talk and understand about many different topics.
- Watch out for the nerds that can only talk about their own subjects. You need to enjoy talking to her!
- You can say it in many different creative ways, but all you really need to do to win any woman is tell her she is pretty, smart, and cool.
Warnings
- Do not use her to do your homework for you, to make another girl jealous or for any other reason whatsoever. That is cruel, and she may try to get back at you.
- Don't assume that because she's a nerd that she will be easy to get. While that may hold true for some girls, it is definitely not to be taken as a "rule of thumb" because every girl is different.
- Don't go all out for her, especially if it's an everyday thing. Although it's nice to take an interest in what she likes, showing up to her house with suspenders, stereotypical nerd glasses, and a giant bow-tie might kind of weird her out. Especially if you dress like that every day.
- Do NOT refer to any girl as a nerd unless you know her well and use it as a term of endearment or to illustrate their intelligence. Also, as with any woman, never tell them they deserve better than you and when they ask you a question the answer is never 'I don't know'.
- Realize that although nerd girls may share the same general interests as nerd guys, their subgenres may not always mesh. Female nerds who like sci-fi tend to gravitate more towards development of characters and relationships than towards plot elements such as cool spaceships and hardware, space battles, mecha, and other plot elements that male nerds traditionally appreciate. In comparison to past decades, there have been more SF/Fantasy shows and films that minimize action-adventure and place character relationship drama as the central element. Also, there are many more genre shows and films with female lead characters and protagonists. It should be noted that this paradigm shift in genre entertainment has met with mixed responses and criticism. Some feel that it is an improvement over what was perceived in earlier offerings as flat characterization. Others criticize it as turning the genre into soap opera. It might be a good idea to find out where she stands on the issue, especially if you lean more towards the latter, more than the former.
