Dance at a Middle School Dance

Dances can be extremely nerve-racking. You wonder who is going to ask you to dance and then worry about what to do if no one asks. Then you are concerned about what to wear, and are wondering how you are supposed to dance.

Steps

  1. On the night before the dance, get your hair done, a cute top and jeans or a skirt, and a pair of matching shoes. This is your first dance, and you should feel comfortable. For guys, just wear a nice graphic tee and a pair of jeans. If its formal just a nice white, button up shirt and a pair of black slacks/pants with black shoes. Remember, white socks do not go with black shoes. Be sure to put your best hair on,(like a wedding ) and use conditioner. l
  2. Skip the cocktail dress, and depending on your school, unless it's semi-formal, consider skipping a dress entirely. Don't act like anyone else, be yourself. If you want to get someone to dance with you, don't be afraid to jump out of your seat, and ask who you want to dance with.If whoever you ask turns you down, THEY should be ashamed, not you.
  3. Become familiar with the songs. Listen to the radio and get to know most of the words to popular music. Also, learn dance songs such as Teach Me How to Dougie, You're A Jerk, Wobble, Wop, Single Ladies, Cat Daddy, Cupid Shuffle, Cha Cha Slide, Macarena, Like the Bernie, and Crank That. The DJ will most likely be playing these songs, and if you know them, it'll make you feel part of "the crowd".
  4. Also, don't be afraid to dance with no one at all. Sometimes its just more fun to dance with your best friends. Just don't make your dance group too big, there needs to be space for everyone!
  5. Dance like people are almost not there, just try to get the beat right though. Or else people might look at you like "what are they doing?!". No one can resist a crazy girl or guy. Consider dancing and having fun. The girl who dances and has the most fun is the most gorgeous girl in the room. Just go all out, jump up and down, and have fun! People aren't jealous of the people with the pretty hair; they are jealous of the people having the most fun!
  6. Make sure you do not sit in the benches or chairs by the wall, trying not to attract attention, when you really want to dance. People might look at you and wonder, "Why isn't he/she out on the dance floor?" Just care less about what the others think of you. If you really want to dance, get out there and have fun.
  7. When you are having fun dancing to the techno beat or R&B/hip-hop joints, the DJ will unexpectedly say something like, "Hey you lovebirds out there, get ready for the slow dance." Then they will put on slow music and you need to find someone to dance with. Some of you will be too shy to dance with someone unknown so it’s OK to dance with your girlfriends. But for those with their partner, be ready to slow dance; or if you don't want to or think no one will ask, go to the bathroom or get something to eat or drink. Relax a bit because you might be tired out with the faster songs. Listen to the beautiful music and the lyrics of the slow dance. The guy will put his hands on your hips (or higher if you guys want to get comfortable) and you will put your arms on his shoulders. Just sway and move your feet side to side. It might seem awkward at first, but everyone feels a little embarrassed, so just relax!
  8. If you can't find a friend to go with, find one there. Many people from your school go to dances, so try to find someone new. But make sure they're not weird, because you'll get burned about it later.
  9. Beware of the cool kids! Many of them go to school dances, so you have to be careful. Make sure you're not in the big clump of wannabe's near their group of friends, because you'll be considered annoying. And many of them take pictures with their phones for social networking sites (Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, etc.) so you don't wanna be the kid in the background striking a crazy pose and having people call you "Disco Girl"! Thus concluding, that if you aren't one of them, don't be near them!



Tips

  • Go for it, don't hold back! It's just one night, to have fun and chill out. Take it easy and don't worry or you might miss the opportunity.
  • If you don't have someone to dance with for the slow songs then it's a good time to take a break. Grab a drink or chat with your friends!
  • Be yourself and just have a good time. That is the best advice!
  • Don't be afraid to ask someone to dance. Who knows, they might like you back! And if they don't, don't take it personally.
  • Don't worry too much about seeming "cool." It's more important to just have fun with your friends; that's when people will notice how nice you seem.
  • Even if you don't have the best moves, it's better to dance than to not dance at all.
  • Mix with people. Most of them are your friends that you see every day at school. If not make a few new friends! There's no harm in creating new friendships!
  • If you can't find a partner for a slow dance and don't want to be left out, dance with a friend! There's no shame or embarrassment.
  • At casual middle school dances, you won't see a lot of actual dancing. There may be dances like the "Jerk" that everyone seems to know (and you should learn so you don't look stupid) but on most of the songs people will just bounce up and down. If the song says "she hit the floor" or "get low" or something like that, people will crouch down then get back up.
  • If you're made fun of or mocked, care less. So you dance like a nerd, but you're having fun and that's what counts. Eventually you'll forget about it.
  • Don't be shy. Be BOLD! Go up to someone and ask them to dance!
  • Go out there and dance like nobody's watching.
  • Don't say something stupid, but don't be constantly in fear of saying something stupid, either.
  • Remember, this is a middle school dance! You don't need a big dress, high heels, or full-on suits at this age. Sometimes, the person trying to look way to mature looks ridiculous. Be yourself, have fun, and look your best.
  • On slow songs, if you don't have a group or a person to dance with, swaying a bit to the music a bit is proper.
  • When picking a partner, make sure you pick someone that you do know and that you will have fun with. Otherwise, you will get mocked for going with a weirdo and not be close and friendly, also, take someone at your skill level, it makes it easier to dance with them.
  • If you don't have a dance partner, or if you do not want one, then stay with a group of friends. If you want a guy to ask you to dance, then stay with a group of friends then go over to a spot where the guys are at. It is a stereotype that just girls stay in a pack- boys do too. Do not be afraid to ask a guy to dance. If he won't make the first move, then you do!

Warnings

  • When picking a dance partner, don't be shy. Talk to your crush and ask him/her.
  • Don't be alone! Sulking because you don't have a date will not make you seem sociable or open to others. Don't cry either because that will make everything worse.
  • If you are dancing with a guy or girl and people near you are making fun of the two of you just ignore it, as long as you two are happy* it shouldn't matter.
  • Just because you're not dancing with your crush doesn't mean you should just stand in a corner. Dance with someone else who is anyone. Don't say no if someone asks you. It'll build your confidence to just dance at all. Similarly, you can ask anyone to dance, even if it is not your crush. You might have some fun while you're at it.

Related Articles