Discover a Secret
Is there a secret going around that everyone knows except for you? It can be awfully aggravating not to socially "be in the know." Fortunately, even the tightest lips slip from time to time - knowing how to pry a secret out of a friend means knowing how to either trick or persuade this friend into letting down his or her defenses!
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Steps
- Ask yourself why you want to know this secret. Is it really worth finding out?
- Ask the person you suspect it relates to. If the person didn't want to tell you the secret, then you're going to have to take some other measures.
- Be nice to the person, and try to be really good friends (read: how to make friends) and try to hang around this person a lot.
- Ask them "So, what happened today?" every so often.
- Tell them a secret of your own. If you don't have any, then just make one up. This is so that they trust you, because you told them a secret, they will return the favor.
- Ask them about the secret that you are dying to know when you think you're ready.
- Ask some of your friends about it if you think the secret is big enough that they would know; it will have probably got around the school.
- Blurt whatever comes to your mind first if you have to guess. And try to think of who this person has connections to, and name those connections first.
- Spy on them, but only as a last resort.
- If your friend doesn't tell you the secret even after all these steps, just keep trying and trying and keep asking and begging the person every now and then, soon the friend will just get fed up and tell you. If that doesn't work, then you'll have to just keep trying!
Tips
- Don't get caught if you are spying!
- If this person doesn't want to tell you the secret, don't push it like this it'll only make them frustrated and closed off to you if not beginning that already. A secret should be pushed only if you know it's desperately important (like something that could be harmful to them or others, or something bad that someone did to them or others etc.). If it's only something like a silly school rumor or a "who likes who" then pushing that person to tell could make them lose respect for you because you're not giving it to them and/or potentially ruin parts of your friendship. So before you go priding in your friend's business remember that they are not you and have there own (business)and sometimes people just like to keep it that way. Be certain you want to take these steps depending on how serious the uncovered secret could be.
- Try to be closer to his/her friends, because they will probably know the secret as well.
- Ask another friend to ask them and pass it on to you secretly!
- Secrets are secrets! And your new friend will normally want to keep it like that. Develop connections with people. When you have some sources, finding things out becomes easier every time.
- Don't let your new friends know you're suspicious about the secret.
- When asking them about the secret in the last part (and this is only if you're very desperate!) Give them a puppy face and desperately beg on the floor.
- Don't let the person know you want the secret.
- If you're going to keep an eye on them don't make it too obvious. They will suspect you.
- If all that doesn't work maybe just forget that there is even a secret.After all it is a secret.
Warnings
- If you don't end up finding the secret, try thinking of a "worst case scenario" about the secret, and you'll convince yourself that the secret isn't as big as you thought it was.
