Get a Gothic Guy to Like You If You're Not Gothic
Have you ever had that crush on the guy in the corner, the one who is dark and mysterious? You want to approach him but looking down at your pink ballet flats and white lacy skirt, you realise that might not be a good idea. How do you approach him? What do you say?
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Steps
- Realize that this Gothic guy you fancy is just like any other person. He's just not afraid to be himself. When deciding to approach him you have to keep a few things in mind.
- He might or might not be the stereotypical Gothic guy, so when you muster up the courage to speak to him just be a calmer version of yourself.
- Do not go overboard! Tone your personality down to a lower level, until you see what he's like. So instead of skipping over to him and rambling on and on about cheer practice, walk over and sit next to him. Introduce yourself. Then, strike up a simple and benign conversation like, "Are you from around here?," Or, "What song are you listening to?" and try to stay away from topics such as sports or things that involve any kind of extrovert behavior. This way you can hear his response and determine what he's like without alienating him and putting social barriers between the two of you.
- Remember that if you don't hit it off right away do not be discouraged. Do not expect any smiling or laughing from him unless something is funny. He also might be trying to be cool around his friends. You can smile when you leave but don't wave goodbye, say "Hey," but not "Nice to meet you." Try to stay unemotional as possible and above all don't be cutesy and alienate and embarrass him. Wait a while, and approach him later in the day, this time when he is alone. He might even ignore you - especially if you are with your friends - thinking that you're making fun of him (he gets this a lot). If this happens it doesn't mean he doesn't like you, just try again later.
- Know that if you two do hit it off do not stay around forever, leave after about five minutes and try not to talk with him while he isn't around other people. This way it's not so obvious that you like him, it just looks like you're friendly. Stop by to talk to him religiously. Soon your friendship will grow, and maybe you two will end up together!
Tips
- A lot of the time the personalities of Gothic boys do not match their appearances. They could dress in chains and black but at heart be a sweet cute boy. You have to keep this in mind while talking to them. If you assume they are dark and gloomy, your conversation might turn out all wrong. Most goths are friendly if you show respect to them.
- Goths are individuals. They don't all think with only one brain wave. So, just because one gothic boy doesn't like you, it doesn't mean the one you like will be the same way. If the guy likes you, he likes you, if he doesn't, then he doesn't.
- Sometimes opposites attract. If you aren't goth, have no fear because sometimes goth guys like to be around a cheerful (but not hyper-cheerful) girl. Sometimes the reason they dress Gothic in the first place is because they are expressing sorrow or inner turmoil, and having someone there who is sweet and obviously cares will help them.
- Goth is not just a fashion sense, it's a subculture. So, most of the time, they dress in dark colors and chains because that's the kind of things they're interested in. But this doesn't mean that they won't like you.
- Always remember to smile, just because they are Gothic it does not mean they don't like nice people.
- Don't be forward. You might freak them out if you ask to many questions or seem to stalk him. Remember to let the conversation flow, asking simple questions about him, and telling some things about yourself. (Like: You: What is your favorite band? Him: Bauhaus ...Then You: Me too! I also love the Siouxsie & the Banshees. Him: Oh really? That's funny cause I do also...) The only exception is if he keeps making eye contact with you, then it's up to you to make the first move.
- Quiet coffee shops and bookstores that aren't frequented by tons of people are an excellent first date, trust me.
- Be prepared, some Gothic guys are just acting Gothic, some are truly down and depressed. You never know how they will react!
- Never change yourself so he will like you better. A lot of the time boys like girls who are different because they are interesting and new. Also, if he does not like you for who you are, he's missing out!
Warnings
- Goths aren't some strange otherworldly blood-sucking creatures. They're people too.
- Do not change yourself for them! You are who you are, no one should change that.
- Don't try to change him!
