Make a Sexy Video

There are many reasons you may want to make a sexy video. You may want to make a sexually provocative music or dance video. You may also want to make a sexy video for a long distance romantic partner. The two of you may also want to make a video together. Filming yourself or your partner in sexual situations can be a fun activity. However, make sure you take precautions when it comes to distributing the video. You do not want to get in trouble down the road if a suggestive video of you surfaces.

Steps

Making Decisions about the Video

1. Choose great lighting. To start, you want to make sure you get flattering lighting. Videos with sexual content often have dim bar-like lighting, which can be a nice touch. However, when setting your lights, make sure you do some practice takes to make sure your lighting choice is flattering for your body type.
   • Some cameras work better with certain types of lights. Dim lighting may not show up particularly well on an web cam. However, slightly higher quality cameras may work better if lighting is dimmed.
   • Take a few practice shoots. If you're making a video for your own use, chances are you're not using fancy stage lights. Just try experimenting with how many lights in your home are turned on or off. If you have a light that dims, try experimenting with dim-lighting. If you've never made a sexy video before, you may be a little shy. Dim or dark lighting may make you feel more comfortable.
   • If you're filming with another person, take a few practice shots of the two of you together. Keep in mind certain lighting can create shadows, and you may end up casting shadows on one another's bodies. Make sure this effect is not distracting before filming your video.
2. Decide on your wardrobe. Now you can decide on your wardrobe. Choose a sexy, flattering outfit for your video.
   • If you're planning on doing a strip tease in the video, select an outfit with layers. It can be fun and seductive to slowly peel off one layer of clothing at a time.
   • If you're doing a dance in the video, you want to pick clothing that's fun and revealing but that also allows you to move. For women, skin-tight leggings and a low-cut tank-top may work. For men, try a loose pair of jeans and a tight t-shirt. Many women find blue to be an attractive color on men.
   • Keep in mind your comfort is most important. If you don't feel sexy or confident in an outfit, ditch it. If you're not feeling good about yourself, this can easily show up on camera.
3. Consider music. Music can be a nice touch in a sexy video, especially if you'll be stripping or dancing. Try to take some time to consider if you'll have music playing during the video.
   • If you're doing a dance or striptease video, consider a song that is fast-paced that you can move to. Something like "S&M" by Rihanna or "Crazy" by Aerosmith could work well.
   • If you're doing a video with your partner, consider a slow, seductive song instead.
   • Many people make sexy videos to promote their own music. If you're making a video for your own song, make sure you record a good version of that song before making the video. You want to make sure the song has a high quality sound, so people viewing the video will remember your song.
4. Talk to your partner, if he or she will also be in the video. Many people make videos with themselves and romantic partners for personal use. If this is the case, you and your partner should have a frank talk ahead of time about what acts you'll be performing. You want to make sure both you and your partner are comfortable with what's being filmed.
   • Talk ahead of time and mutually agree on what acts will be performed in the video. Never push your partner into performing an act he or she is not comfortable with.
   • Discuss nudity. Will both of you be nude on camera or are you okay with partial nudity? As with sex acts, if your partner is not comfortable with getting naked, you should not force him or her to do so.
   • You should also talk about how to store the video. In the digital age, pictures and videos are becoming less and less private. If you and your partner want the video for personal use only, make sure you talk ahead of time about how to store the video. You may not want to keep the video on a computer, for example, if that's a possibility. If you're storing the video on a computer, take measures to make sure everything is secure and password protected.
5. Think about your audience. Who are you making the video for? Many people make sexy videos for long distance partners, in which case your audience is your significant other. However, you may be making video to upload online or send to multiple recipients. If this is the case, make sure everything you do in the video is something you're comfortable with a larger audience seeing. You should also consider the future. If you're uploading something online, it will be available to an audience for years to come. Make sure anything you're distributing to a wide audience is something you're comfortable with people seeing in the future.

Deciding on Content

1. Do a strip tease. A strip tease can be a fun and sexy way to start off a sexy video. There are a variety of moves you can use while engaging in a strip tease.
   • Walk slowly when you begin your strip tease. Walk away from the camera, taking deliberate, slow steps. Then, turn and face the camera.
   • Use your hands to show off your body. Glide your fingers up and down your legs, hips, stomach, and chest. Move your fingers slowly over your body until you reach a button that can be undone. Slowly begin undoing each button. If you have longer hair, consider whipping your hair around a little as you go.
   • Move in a rhythmic manner as you remove your clothing. Take off one layer at a time. If you're playing music, try to dance to the beat of the music as you go.
   • You do not have to get completely nude. If you're not comfortable with nudity, you can strip down to your underwear or a layer of lingerie.
2. Try dirty talk. If you're not playing loud music during your video, try dirty talk. This can be particularly helpful if you're making a video for a long distance lover. Dirty talk is a fun way to get your partner in the mood, even if you cannot physically be there.
   • It can help to put yourself in the right mindset prior to engaging in dirty talk. Read racy fiction, watch some pornography, read erotica, or spend time fantasizing about you and your partner. If you're nervous, do some deep breathing ahead of time to keep yourself calm.
   • Try to let the dirty talk come naturally. Think about what you want to do with your partner. Talk about what the two of you have done in bed in the past, and mention any fantasies you have. Talk in a slow, breathy voice. Breathe heavily, as you would when aroused, as you talk.
   • Talk about your partner as well. Talk about how sexy you find your partner, specifying what about him or her turns you on. Discuss how your partner feels and tastes. Use his or her name.
   • If you're comfortable doing so on screen, consider masturbating while talking dirty. This can show your partner you're turned on by him or her.
3. Dance in a sensual manner. Not all sexy videos are meant to be graphic. You may be making a sexy video to market yourself as a model or an actor or actress, or as an accompaniment to a music video. If this is the case, consider filming a sexy dance.
   • You can study popular sexually charged music videos. Artists like Lady Gaga frequently dance in provocative manner in videos. Watch a variety of sexy music videos for inspiration.
   • Pick dance moves that you're personally comfortable with. If you're not into doing a move, this can show up in subtle ways during your performance. Try to relax and engage in dance moves you genuinely enjoy. If you don't feel confident, you won't come off as sexy.
   • Gyrating the hips, shaking your behind, and moving in a slow, teasing manner are all popular dance moves for a sexy video.
4. Talk to your partner about what acts to film. If you're filming a sex tape with your partner, talk it out ahead of time. Decide which acts to film, and also talk about angles. The angle from which you film makes a big difference in terms of the film's quality.
   • Discuss what you'll be filming ahead of time. A sexy video with your partner does not necessarily have to include penetrative sex, and shouldn't if you or your partner is uncomfortable with this. You can film things like oral sex, mutual masturbation, or simply film the two of you engaging in dirty talk. Making a sexy video should be a fun, mutually enjoyable activity, so don't push your partner to engage in anything that makes him or her uncomfortable.
   • Consider angle. You do not want the focus to be solely on your partner. Consider using a small, lightweight camera you can pass back and forth during filming. This gives your partner a chance to film you, capturing the angles of your body he or she likes best. Make sure the two of you talk about what body parts are and are not okay to film ahead of time.

Distributing the Video Wisely

1. Keep the video private if it includes sexual acts. If your video includes sexual acts, it's a good idea to keep it private. Unless you work in the adult film industry, you could potentially get in trouble with your school or place of work if a sexual video of you surfaces. Store sexy videos offline and always password protect computers or other devices that contain adult videos.
   • Many people share content online, through social media sites like Facebook. People commonly express regret at posting sexual content online after some time has passed. Even a mildly sexy video can be cause of embarrassment for you down the road. Also, if an employers googles your name and finds you connected to sexual content, this could affect your employment depending on the ethics of your place of work.
   • If you film a video with your partner, talk ahead of time about what to do with the video in the event you break up. It's a good idea to mutually agree to destroy or delete the video in the event of a breakup. You and your partner may feel uncomfortable with the idea of an ex having access to a very intimate video of you.
   • Make sure you only film sexual videos with someone you trust completely. Unfortunately, sometimes people upload sexual content of former partners online in an industry known as "revenge porn." This can cause a great deal of emotional turmoil.
2. Send videos to small audiences carefully. If you made a video for a long distance partner, be careful in how you send the video. There are a lot of simple tricks you can use to send sensitive information securely.
   • Break sensitive information into chunks. This can help confuse hackers. If you uploaded a sexy video on a password protected site, or onto your iCloud account, e-mail your partner something like, "I'm texting you my iCloud password." Then, send the password out of context in a separate text.
   • Dropbox is a service where you can share files and videos. While it's an online service, it's fairly secure as it encrypts all user information.
   • Keep in mind sensitive data is best exchanged in person. Nothing is completely secure online, unfortunately. If you can upload a sexy video onto a DVD, and give it to your partner in person, this is the best route for sharing a sexy video. If your partner can't play a DVD, consider uploading the video on a USB drive instead.
3. Be aware of the legal consequences. Sexual content shared via the internet and a smart phone is never private. If you are underage, you can face felony charges in some states for distributing child pornography. You may even end up having to register as a sex offender. Think carefully before sharing sexually explicit content via online outlets as it can have serious consequences for your future.
   • If you are underage, some states have strict laws regarding distributing images of a minor. If you text sexually explicit videos of yourself to a boyfriend or girlfriend, you could end up in serious trouble. In Oregon, California, and Georgie, for example, sexting can potentially fall under child pornography laws, and could be considered a felony offense. Sexting between minors, however, is sometimes viewed as a lesser charge depending on the situation. In some states, like Georgie and Alabama, stricter laws about sexting could result in you ending up on a sex offender registry.
   • Other states have slightly more lenient sexting laws. In Louisiana, for example, if a minor is caught distributing sexual images of themselves they may face mandatory counseling or another minor form of punishment.
   • You should review your state's specific laws regarding sexting and sexual content. Laws vary greatly by state, and you should know the potential legal consequences before sending someone a sexy video.

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See also

• Grind
• Learn Pole Dancing
• Dance Sexily
• Shake Your Hips
• Pelvic Thrust
• Dirty Dance