Tell Your Husband That You Are Pregnant
Finding out that you are pregnant may be the most exciting news of your life. You may want to tell your husband the second you find out, but if you can restrain your excitement, you can also give your spouse the news in a few fun and unexpected ways. If you want to know how to surprise your husband with your life-changing news, just follow these easy steps.
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Deliver the News in a Playful Way
- Deliver the news by literally putting a bun in the oven. When your husband steps out of the house, place a hamburger, hot dog, or just an ordinary bun in the oven. Whatever you use, make sure anyone can see that it's a bun.
- When your husband gets home, tell him that the oven is making a funny noise or that you can't get it to work.
- He'll open the oven and will be initially confused by the bun there.
- Stand near him and wait for him to understand that you have a bun in the oven too!
- Give him your pregnancy test as a gift. Wrap up the gift and put a big bow on it. Even if there's no occasion for it, sit your husband down, and make sure you have all of his attention.
- Say, "There's something I've been meaning to give you. Actually, it's already yours."
- When he sees the pregnancy test, he'll know what it means!
- Surprise him with Daddy gear. Giving your husband anything with "Daddy" on it will get the point across loud and clear. It can be a lot of fun to give him a small gift that lets him know he will be a father, even if it takes a minute to figure out what you mean. Here are some things you can do:
- If he's cooking or grilling, you can buy a "Daddy" apron and tie it around him. See how long it takes for him to look down and see what it says.
- Get a "#1 Dad" mug and serve his morning coffee in it. See how long it takes for him to notice the writing.
- Just get him a T-shirt that says "Proud Daddy." If you really want to be playful, you can ask him to fold your laundry or hang out while you fold your laundry and wait for him to notice the new shirt at the top of the pile.
- You can also give him a baby shirt or jumper that says "I love my Daddy." He may be confused for a second but will know exactly what it means.
- If you normally hang up your laundry to dry, hang up some baby clothes in a prominent place and wait for him to ask what's going on.
- Buy a pair of baby shoes and give him the box. Tell him that you got him the most perfect shoes and wait for him to open it.
- You can also buy a pair of baby shoes and place them near your normal shoes and wait for him to notice them.
- Deliver the news by parking in a maternity parking spot. This will only work if there are grocery or convenience stores in your neighborhood that have spots especially designed for expecting mothers. Once you've found the spot, it's time to get to work.
- Ask your husband to take a quick trip to the grocery store with you.
- Make sure you grab the keys and get in the driver's seat. If you almost always let him drive and he questions what you're doing, just say, "I just feel like driving."
- Drive to the location and ease into the parking spot.
- Get out of the car like what you're doing is perfectly natural (after all, it is!).
- Wait for him to stop you and say, "Honey, you can't park there."
- Give him a big grin and say, "Oh, yes I can!"
Deliver the News in a Romantic Way
- Deliver the news in a memorable place. Find a place that is meaningful to both of you. Tell him to accompany you there in the evening, and say that you should both dress up, even if the place isn't particularly fancy. Here's what you should do once you get there:
- Hold his hands and look into his eyes.
- Tell him why you love the special place you brought him to, whether it's where you had your first date, where you fell in love, or where you shared your first kiss. Tell him that you can't wait to share so many more memories with him.
- Say, "We're pregnant."
- Write him a love poem that tells him you're pregnant. If you're the romantic type and are known for writing loving letters and poems, then writing a poem that tells your husband you're pregnant won't be a stretch. Here's how you can deliver the poem:
- Have a romantic evening in or even go out to your favorite dimly-lit restaurant. Then share your message with him.
- Give him the poem and say, "There's something I want you to read."
- Wait for his eyes to fill with tears as he reacts.
- Tell him in a romantic restaurant. Find the most romantic restaurant in town, and give him the news there. After you've had some time to relax and have a great conversation, you can deliver the big news. Here's how you can do it:
- Talk to the restaurant in advance to ask to have a slice of cake with "congratulations" written on it. When he asks you why he's being congratulated, you can look confused and wait for him to figure it out.
- Give him a romantic card that tells him how you feel. Have him flip it over to the back, where you've written the big news.
How to Deliver the News if Your Husband May Have Mixed Feelings
- Plan what you'll say. If you're not sure how your husband will feel about your pregnancy and it's completely unexpected, then you shouldn't plan any fun or clever surprises to let him in on the secret. Instead, you should approach the situation as honestly as you can, and make sure that the communication goes as smoothly as possible.
- Practice maintaining a steady and even tone when you deliver the news. Make eye contact and hold his hand when you tell him.
- Plan on telling him your feelings. You may have mixed feelings about the pregnancy too. Whatever you feel, this is something you will be able to work out together.
- Anticipate his reaction. You should know your own husband well enough to anticipate how he would react to the news of your pregnancy. If you're married, you must have talked about having children at some point, so you should remember anything he has said about the topic to gauge his reaction. Has he said that he'd love to have kids one day, or has he made it clear that he has no interest in having children? Knowing his perspective on children will help you see how he'll react.
- Think of other times when you've told him unexpected or overwhelming news. Though it's unlikely that you ever told him anything as important as the fact that you're pregnant, remembering his reaction can give you some insight. Did he take the news calmly, was he emotional, or was he very upset?
- If he has a history of violent behavior and you think the news may make him react violently, then don't tell him alone. Make sure you're with a friend or family member when you give him the news.
- Pick a date and time to have the talk. Though you should have the conversation as soon as possible, picking an ideal date and time to have the talk can help the conversation go more smoothly. Pick a time that works well for both of you, and when you know he won't have anything stressful to do afterwards so he can let the news sink in. Here are some good ways to pick the time to have the talk:
- Find a time that is relatively stress-free for both of you, when you can give each other your undivided attention.
- Don't be too dramatic when you ask him about a good time to have the talk. Just say there's something you've wanted to talk to him about. If you're too dramatic, he may want to have the talk right then and there and you may not be prepared for it.
- Don't tell him right after he gets home from work. Wait until he has some time to relax after dinner.
- Tell him the news. Once you have your husband's undivided attention, there is no use delaying it. You have to open up. You can make him feel more comfortable with a reassuring pat or by holding his hand, but don't take too long to cut to the chase.
- Say, "I just found out some big news. I'm pregnant."
- Wait for the news to sink in. If he's emotional and leans toward you, give him a hug. If he's sitting in stony silence, be patient and don't overwhelm him.
- If he wants to communicate but he's at a loss for words, tell him more about your feelings toward the pregnancy.
- If he's receptive, ask him to share his feelings.
- Take the time to listen. Once he gets his bearings, he will have a lot to say. You have said your part and now it's time for you to listen. Don't interrupt him or get angry with him. After all, he has just received some life-changing news.
- Try to remain calm even if he is heated or emotional. Remember that you have had more time to digest the news than he did.
- Discuss what you'll do next. Once you've both shared your feelings, you should talk about what you will do about your pregnancy. You might need a breather before you jump right into a heated discussion about what to do with the baby, but don't delay the conversation for too long.
- Before you make a decision, make sure that you are both completely sure.
- You have done your best to communicate with your husband, and now you can work on finding a way to make your pregnancy work.
Tips
- It's okay to be nervous. He probably will be too.
- Ask your friends how they told their husbands they were pregnant. Though you should think of your own creative way to deliver the news, you can get some great ideas from them.
Warnings
- If you are seriously afraid to tell your husband you are pregnant because you aren't sure whether he will react violently or not, you may be in an abusive situation and should try to get out. If you don't want to leave, consider the risk of bringing a child into an abusive home.
