Be Very Talkative
It's really useful to be able to talk to anyone, about almost anything, for as long as you like or need. It can help you make new friends, open doors for you, teach you something new every day, or just make you smile. It can take some effort, but it's often worth it.
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Steps
- Allow yourself to approach people, don't be shy. Most people are nice when you get talking to them!
- Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone! Don't be too obnoxious, but let people know you're there and want to be heard.
- If you have trouble starting conversations, don't be afraid to throw out something random. If you get a laugh, it's even better!
- Always listen to the other person. It sounds obvious, but most of us don't listen properly all the time. Bounce off them - they'll be more likely to chat if you talk about something they brought up.
- Don't necessarily think you can't say something because it will sound 'stupid'. Most people can be drawn into a conversation about almost anything.
- Tell anecdotes and stories. Air your opinions. Even if someone disagrees with you, that's just an opportunity for a longer conversation!
- Keep smiling! It makes people much friendlier, and tricks them and you into believing you've got confidence!
- Think of a subject or topic you really enjoy and share it with others.
- When you think of a subject or topic you want to talk about write it down so you don't forget.
- To think of topics, make a list of things you know about or stories you would like to tell. Make sure they are good stories with a point you don't want everyone to be wonder "why is she/he telling me this?" Remember the things you want to talk about and talk about it with more than just one person. Make a good list of things to talk about and talk about it.
- Review this list, memorize some of the things you want to talk about. There must be a reason you want to talk about this so, go ahead.
Tips
- People will think you are "great for a chat" as long as you listen to them and respond to them thoughtfully.
- If you don't know what to say, try making a comment on something in the room, etc. (i.e., "That wallpaper is hideous," or, "cute shoes - where did you get 'em?").
- If you know the person, bring up something they're very interested in, and do your best to keep the conversation going.
- When you feel down, but you're stuck with people, make an effort to talk to them. If you end up in a really interesting conversation, it'll make you feel a thousand times better and completely distract you!
Warnings
- Don't get upset if someone disagrees with you or is against your opinion, that's just a chance for you to show up who you really are and talk about your opinion.
- Make sure you know what you're talking about! You'll look silly if you babble continuously about something incorrect.
- Some people just seem determined to argue, or determined to keep running the conversation into the ground. Let them be. There are billions of people on the planet, try talking to a different one!
