Deal With a Girlfriend Who Chooses to Go to Prom with Someone Else
Your girlfriend decided to go to the prom with someone else. It probably feels like your world is crashing down on you. But, you have to try to calm down and read on.
Steps
- Try to calm down. You are probably very angry, annoyed, or both. Try to calm yourself down before you do anything else. The last thing you want to do is hurt someone, including yourself.
- Think. Why did your girlfriend go to the prom with someone else. Did you two have a fight? Maybe you have not been spending a lot of time together and she is doing it to try to get your attention? Does she not seem interested in you anymore? She does have some reason for doing it and the first step is to find out why. Unless you have had a fight recently, or have not been getting along well, remember that high school relationships don't last forever, and that this is a widely known fact. Her going with someone else might not be such a bad idea. After all, if you do have a fight or break up right before prom, then you will be out a date, or if you still go, it will be a very awkward night for both of you. Her choosing to go with someone else is not an indication of her feelings about your relationship, she is just erring on the side of caution, as prom is a very important night.
- Consider breaking up. If your girlfriend is going to the prom with someone else, it may be a message to you that she wants to take a break in the relationship and meet new people.
- Talk to your girlfriend. Do it on the phone if you have to, but in person would be better. Do it once you're calmed down, and you can find out the reasons for her actions, apologize, and if everything goes wrong make a decision.
- Make a decision. You have two choices. The first choice is staying in the relationship. If you can resume your relationship after the prom, that is fine, as long as you don't use it against her. It will change your relationship though. The second choice, which is what most people do, is to break up. It may be only temporarily. Remember, if she's going to the prom with someone else, you can too. There are other girls out there that are just as good, or better than your girlfriend. You may not think it now, but don't mope at home while everyone else is at the prom, unless there is absolutely no one else that you want to go with.
- Follow through with your decision. No matter how hard it may be, break up, or continue the relationship.
Tips
- Violence is not the answer. Don't hurt your girlfriend, the other guy she's going with, or anyone else, including yourself. You WILL regret it.
- Most people don't end up with their high school sweethearts anyway. You'll meet other girls in college and the work world, depending on where you go to.
- Remember, you can always go to the prom with someone else.
Warnings
- Do not try to act like in a love film or romantic song. Real life is very different and things that always work in films (pursuing her, fighting another guy over her, being desperate, sending flowers...) do not usually work on real life.
- You will probably feel very depressed or angry. Try to calm down and not take out your emotions on anyone.
Things You'll Need
- Time alone
- A pillow (if you need to take your frustration out)
- Calmness
- Time to think
