Forgive a Girlfriend
Forgiving is difficult when you are in doubt. Forgiving is easy when you are committed. Therefore, commit yourself to forgive your girlfriend.
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Steps
- Decide whether you are still committed to your girlfriend or want to break up with her. In other words, make up your mind about your relationship. This step is truly important. Our hesitation is the source of most of our suffering. Once we have made up our mind, we are ready to move forward.
- If you have decided to break up with her, then tell her about that and treat her as a stranger. It is much easier to forgive strangers, because we know that they will not be in our lives for long.
- If you have decided to stay together, forgive her faults as you would forgive your own faults. We easily forgive ourselves because we know we have to live with ourselves for the rest of our lives. So, if you know that she will be in your life for a long time, it does not make sense to make your lives miserable by not forgiving her. Your forgiveness will heal and improve lives for both of you. So, why not do it if only for that reason?
- Be prepared for the forgiveness process to take quite a bit of time and effort. It is an effort that will not go to waste, though; you will overcome one more of life's hurdles and will be ready for its other challenges.
- Look serious when talking. This isn't a joke. She probably knows that you're holding a grudge against her. She'll know that she is forgiven seriously if you put on a serious face.
- Choose the correct words. If you don't want to break up with your girlfriend, don't start off by mentioning the painful event or situation, instead start off by saying you're sorry about this and this. Once you let it go, you will feel liberated. Forgiving her will reclaim your relationship.
- Respond to her answer. If she says, it's okay. Then celebrate. What if not? Well, try another time. Either she probably wants to get back to the relationship or she wants to break up.
Tips
- Listen to everything she has to say before you make a decision.
- Never hide your feelings. Tell her exactly how you feel and how much time do you think you'll take to get back to normal.Tell her how bad it hurt you and don't forget to make her realize how much she means to you.
Warnings
- Never do anything in anger or any other guided impulse. Give yourself some time to think because you can leave her anytime, but getting her back is not always only your choice!
