Get a Guy to Fall Head over Heels for You

Getting a guy to fall head over heels in love with you can seem impossible, but there are some things you can do to encourage him. For example, you can show off your awesome personality, flirt with him, show him what makes you such a catch, and do things to make him feel more comfortable when he is around you. Just keep in mind that falling in love is a mysterious process, so it may not be possible to get just any guy to fall for you.

Steps

Getting Him to Notice You

1. Take excellent care of yourself. If you want to get a guy to notice you, you'll want to look and feel your best. Make sure that you look and feel healthy. If you do, you'll feel more confident, and confidence is attractive. Consider your diet, exercise habits, sleep schedule, and stress levels. If something is off with your physical health, work on getting well before you try to get a guy to notice you.
2. Let him see your great personality. Research has shown that men may view women as more attractive if they possess admirable personality traits. Do your best to show him your positive traits when you are around him. Show him that you are kind, honest, thoughtful, funny, and positive.
3. Dress in a relaxed way. When you want a guy to notice you, you may be tempted to wear your sexiest outfits, but don’t. It is important to dress in a casual way when you are first getting to know him. Otherwise, he might feel like you are trying to get his attention and feel pressured.
   • Stick to jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers when you are first getting to know him. Wear clothes that flatter you and show your personality, but nothing that is skin tight or too revealing.
   • If you wear makeup, keep it simple. A little foundation, mascara, and lip gloss is fine.
   • If you feel comfortable doing so, you can dress in a way that shows off a little bit of your assets, without coming across as over-the-top. You can accomplish this by wearing a top that is a bit short and shows off some of your back when you bend over, wearing shorts now and then, or by wearing a top that shows a bit of cleavage. Most importantly, wear what makes you feel comfortable.
4. Act casual around him. Try not to let on that you are interested in anything more than friendship when you are first getting to know a guy. Treat him like a friend and don’t flirt too much when you are first getting to know him. If you come on too strong in the beginning, he may feel pressured and avoid being around you.
5. Ask him about his interests. Showing that you are interested in knowing things about him will grab his attention more than only telling him all about yourself. Make sure that your questions are not too personal to start. You can ask him about his hobbies, his family, and his interests. Steer clear of topics that might produce a negative response, such as politics, religion, or former girlfriends.
6. Flirt a little. As you work on getting him to notice you, make sure that you do a little flirting along the way. Just make sure that you are not too obvious. Try to keep him wondering if you are into him or just being friendly. For example, you might casually touch him on the arm now and then to get his attention or giggle when he cracks a joke. Some other flirtatious moves you might try include:
   • Gazing into his eyes. A lingering gaze can let him know you are interested and it may also increase his affection for you. Try gazing into your guy’s eyes for a few minutes and then slowly turn your gaze elsewhere. Or, if a long gaze does not seem appropriate yet, try checking in with your guy with frequent, quick glances.
   • Directing your body towards him. Making sure that your body is facing him and even mirroring the position of his body can send positive signals his way. Make sure that you are facing him when he is talking to you and try adopting the same pose as he does.
   • Smiling at him. Smiling will let him know you are interested, but to all else it might just seem like you are being friendly. Try to keep your smile as natural and relaxed as possible. Don’t force it or smile in a way that is unusual for you.

Getting Him to Pursue You

1. Go out with other guys. By going on dates with other guys, you will be demonstrating that you are desirable and that you have a full life of your own, and that he is not your only option. The sense that he may have to compete with other men for your affection should pique his interest and encourage him to pursue you.
2. Keep yourself busy. You don’t want to be available to hang out any time that he asks, so keep yourself busy. Make sure that you have a few nights each week where you make plans with your friends, family, or do things alone. This will show him that you have an active social life and that he will have to keep trying if he wants to be a part of it.
3. Engage his nurturing instincts. Most men have a desire to protect and/or help, so use that to your benefit. You can do something as simple as asking him to help you fix something or ask him to accompany you on an evening jog. Find some way to make him feel like he is helping or protecting you and he may begin to offer to do so more often.
4. Increase your love of yourself. It is important to show him that you have lots of different sides to your personality. This will help him understand that you're an interesting, complex person with a lot to offer. You can accomplish this by taking the time to remind yourself why you're wonderful and working on your self confidence.
   • Make a list of your favorite personal qualities. What do you love about yourself? Perhaps you are very proud of your high grades and strong work ethic. Maybe you love how creative you are. Celebrate these strengths.
   • Think about the diversity of your interests and how you can get better at each one.
5. Show him a good time whenever you are around. He may be more interested in pursuing your affections if you make him feel happy whenever you are around. Try to maintain an upbeat, positive attitude when you spend time with him. Cheer him up if he’s in a bad mood and find little ways to brighten his day.
6. Let him see what makes you special. Another way to get him to pursue you is to show him what is unique about you. What makes you special? Do you have a special talent that might intrigue him? Think about what makes you special and try to find an opportunity to show him.
   • For example, if you are a good cook, invite him and some friends over for a dinner party. Or, if you are an avid runner, ask him to run a 5K with you sometime.
7. Get all dressed up. It is important to give your guy a glimpse of you at your most exciting. After you have gotten to know him pretty well and have established a friendship or dating relationship, give him a glimpse of your sexy side.
   • For example, you can wear a really striking outfit that complements your personality, get your hair and nails done if you like, and wear some sultry makeup if that's what you're into. Just make sure that you have an occasion that will explain your dolled up look.

Getting Him to Fall in Love

1. Give him space. Even though you may feel like spending every waking moment with a guy, you need to give him space. Spending time apart is healthy and having some time away from him will give him a chance to think about how great you are and miss you. So if your guy is busy when you ask him to do something, try to think about it as a good thing and be cool about it.
2. Make him feel at home when he is with you. Doing things to help make your guy comfortable is another way that you can increase his affection for you. Little things can help you accomplish this, such as keeping your fridge stocked with his favorite munchies or falling asleep with your head resting on his shoulder.
3. Touch him gently. A gentle touch may also increase a man’s feelings of affection for you. Try softly placing your hand in his when he reaches out to hold it. Softly stroke his hair when you are lounging around together. Or, give him a delicate kiss at the end of a date.
   • You might also try wearing soft textured clothes, such as silk or microfiber. That way you will always feel soft when he touches you.
4. Disagree with him now and then. It is great if you have lots of things in common and shared opinions, but there will eventually be something that you disagree on. When he says or does something that you disagree with, let him know. Sticking up for your opinion will show him that you think critically about things and you are not a doormat. This is a good quality and he will probably be impressed.
   • For example, if your guy makes a claim that you disagree with, say something like, “You are entitled to your opinion, but I see the matter a bit differently.” Then explain why you hold the opinion that you do. Be respectful and try not to get too defensive. Just be straightforward and honest about what you think.
5. Let him do nice things for you. Doing nice things for someone may seem like it will win you their affection, but the opposite is true. The person who does the nice things is the one who feels more affection. So let your guy do nice things for you.
   • For example, you can allow your guy to open doors for you, accept gifts and favors from him, and ask him for favors now and then. Just be sure not to take advantage of your guy’s kindness. It is still okay for you to do nice things for him now and then too.
6. Be mindful of telling him how you feel. Gauge if the time is right and if your feelings are authentic before sharing. You don't necessarily have to wait for him to tell you first, but be sure if you are the one to share how you feel first, that you are making a careful independent choice /.
7. Know when to move on. If you have been trying your hardest to get a guy to pursue you and he does not seem interested, move on to someone who will appreciate you. It may be that your guy is just not ready for that kind of relationship or that he is not as taken with you as you are with him.

Tips

• Remember to be yourself. If you pretend to be someone you are not, he will eventually see through it and may lose respect for you.

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