Know if Someone Is Ignoring You Online
Have you ever tried starting a conversation with someone online, but they don't respond? A part of you starts to think that they might be ignoring you. Here's a few steps that you should take before jumping to conclusions.
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Steps
- Check their status. Have they changed their status to "Away" or "Offline"? If they have, then this means that they've probably simply left the computer and therefore are not ignoring you. Wait a few minutes to see if they come back online. However, if their status has not changed (e.g. if their status is green or "Online"), then they are most likely still there, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they're ignoring you on purpose.
- Ask your friends or mutual friends. Do you and this person share any friends or mutual friends? Ask them whether they are talking to the person in question. If they are, then they are definitely at the computer. If they aren't, ask them to start a conversation with that person to see what happens. If doing this, make sure that it's a good friend that you can trust. Mutual friends probably won't do this for you.
- Look at their status. Find out if they have been doing things in the time that indicates that they are at the computer. For example, if they've updated their status less than a minute ago, it's a strong sign that they're still at the computer.
- Post another message to them. About 3-5 minutes after your first message, try saying something again to elicit a response. For example, "Are you there?", "Hello?", "...", or "Please respond." Sometimes people miss your messages by accident, but if you post another couple, it's more likely that they'll notice you're trying to talk to them.
- Be patient. Wait at least 12 minutes before jumping to a conclusion. If 12 minutes have passed without getting a reply, and all the signs point to them ignoring you, you're probably being ignored.
Tips
- Don't send too many texts to get their attention. That will annoy them and make you seem desperate. 1-2 texts is enough. They'll eventually reply.
- Try doing something else while you pass the time. Talk to someone else, take a quiz, etc. Staring at a chat window for half an hour is pretty ineffective and boring.
- Never ask them in person, that will seem like you are being overly clingy.
- Never take 'no' or complete silence as an answer. Eventually someone will wear down and give in by talking to you.
Warnings
- Be prepared to be emotionally hurt when finding out that someone is ignoring you.
- Some of the more shrewd online chatters will set their status to away when they are actually at the computer - pretty sneaky! If someone is habitually away whenever you are online, I would be a bit suspicious.
- It is possible that the person has told everyone online that if you ask whether she is online to say no. When your friends tell you someone isn't responding to them either, then always take it with a pinch of salt as this could be untruthful.
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