Resist Sexual Temptation
According to statistics, teenagers and middle aged are the age groups most prone to sexual temptation. For teenagers hormonal imbalance and the development of sexual characteristics tend to influence their reaction to the opposite sex. Nevertheless, most people would also like to save themselves for marriage. To fall into sexual temptation is a choice, just like any other in life. If you decide to resist it, be sure you will overcome it. No matter how tempting the feelings may get, you can control them.
Steps
- Delete all the pictures on your phone and your computer that contains nudity. Looking at any form of pornography tends to release hormones which stimulate sexual activity.
- Talk to someone (or to yourself) when the temptation comes. Tell your body you have the power to control it by changing your thoughts to something else (and not the other way around). You do not need sex, even though you may feel like you need it. You will not die if you don't have sex.
- Don't awaken desires that will only leave you frustrated if you don't have sex. Whatever those limits are for you- know yourself and what turns you on.
- Avoid being alone as much as possible. Being alone can stir-up sexual thoughts in your mind. "An idle mind is the devil's workshop", it is often said. While you sit there alone, you'll be surprised that instead of being productive with your life, you'll be busy daydreaming about that beautiful girl/boy you saw earlier today. Due to the power of thoughts, don't be surprised that you are already undressing the person in question in your mind. When that happens, the next time, you won't have any other feeling but that of going to bed with the person. This will cause you to be infatuated with this person and you probably know where this can lead you to.
- Avoid watching pornographic movies; they will arouse your desire for sex. The only reason why these films were made was for incapable people to watch, get aroused and do just what they've seen on television or the internet. You can't give what you don't have, in the same way, you can't have the desire for sex when your mind is not drifted to that area. Avoiding pornographic films is like seeing a snake and running from it because if you don't touch it, it won't bite you.
- Avoid participating in discussions which are based on sex (intercourse). While discussing with friends you might be tempted to laugh over suggestive jokes. When you're alone, you can be sure that somehow, those jokes would cross your mind; while reflecting over it, you might be tempted to experiment it yourself.
- Don't get anxious when you hear friends talking about their sexual escapades. Remember that the fact that everyone is doing something doesn't make it right or wrong. Don't feel intimidated because your friends mocked you about being a virgin. Whatever they did doesn't matter. It is what you would do that would make the difference. Learn to be patient and resist this feeling. Sex is a sin outside of marriage . If you can keep this in mind, then even if you are in a room with a naked person, you would come out victorious because sex starts from the mind.
- Don't console yourself that just one try won't cost you anything. You might be tempted to have sex with anybody and you feel that after so many efforts of resisting, you should give it just one try.
- Don't confuse someone's choice of clothing with an attempt to seduce you. If you happen to sit next to someone who is dressed in a way that is attractive to you, it is important to understand that he or she dresses the way they feel comfortable and not for your sexual enjoyment or benefit. Act with respect or move to another seat if you find it uncomfortable to manage your impulsive thoughts.
- Watch your eyes and ears. They are the windows to your soul. Keep your eyes above the shoulders and train them to focus on non-sexual parts of the body.
- Try as much as possible not to use sexual words in your discussions. You could look for much better ways of telling your crush how much you want, miss or love them. Instead of saying, "I miss your lips", why not say "I miss your smile". Choose the right words and you'll have a healthy relationship with no sex.
- If you notice an attractive person and become turned on, don't freak out. You haven't sinned. Just turn your mind to something else. Start a conversation to get to know them or just move on.
Tips
- If you are Christian, take it to God in prayer. The bible says there is nothing impossible for God to do; just call on him. Wait on him and he will do what your friends think is impossible.
- Spend quality time with the bible in it is power from God to enable you resist any temptation the world can offer. You can spend more time to reflect over what God says concerning our lives. First he requires us not to work according to our flesh succumbing to our natural desires. We can't do this if we don't have the fear of God in us. To have the fear of God, you need to acknowledge that you are a sinner, believe that God sent Jesus to die for you, believe that his blood was shed for the remission of your sins and surrender your life to him. In that way he will take control of your life and will give you a helper which is the holy spirit. The holy spirit in you will help resist any gravity of sexual temptation if only you invite Christ into your life. Follow the procedure in the above sentences and you'll be surprised at how you can look at that boy or girl and nothing happens.
- Stay away from "friends" that talk about sex all the time.
