Set Two Friends Up to Meet
Do you have two friends that just seem perfect for each other? Maybe your BFF is lonely, and you have a potential partner that might be their ideal type. Here's how to play match-maker and set your friends up.
Steps
- Think about the two people you think should meet. Be sure that they fit the following criteria:
- Both single and looking for a relationship - there's no point in pairing someone up if they're trying to focus on school or their career, or already have a special someone.
- Both have compatible sexual preferences. It's simple enough - make sure the two people are attracted to the others' gender.
- Both have similar interests or some common ground. While opposites attract, you want to make sure they have some common interest like a favorite film, book, musician or political opinion. Keep this common ground in mind.
- Arrange a low-pressure environment for them to meet.
- Pick an event with other people that will let them gravitate naturally towards each other, but also allow them to run off to other people if they feel awkward. Avoid environments with just the three of you, or them alone.
- Examples can include a party, bowling with a large group of friends, etc.
- Pick an event with other people that will let them gravitate naturally towards each other, but also allow them to run off to other people if they feel awkward. Avoid environments with just the three of you, or them alone.
- Determine how the two friends might best enjoy meeting.
- If the friends prefer a more subtle approach, use the previously identified common ground as a reason to introduce the two. Something simple along the lines of "Hey, I think person A likes the same ____ as you!" can be all that is necessary.
- If the friends prefer a more direct approach, you may simply tell one or both that you think they would really like the other person, and then directly introduce the two on this premise.
- In both of the above circumstances, it is best to help the conversation get started by sticking around and using the previously identified common ground.
- Make a quick slip. When they both seem engrossed, make a quick and non-intrusive excuse to slip away for a moment.
- Keep an eye on how the friends are doing, and determine if it appears as if you should step in. When in doubt, don't step in.
- Things to look for include feet position and general body language.
- A person will generally position their feet in the direction of their attention, if their feet are pointing to the other person, you should most likely not step in.
- If one or both friends are constantly looking for excuses to get away and talk to others, it might be best to step in, and help re-spark the conversation.
- Things to look for include feet position and general body language.
- Talk with your friend(s) after the event and see what they thought of each other. If they both hit it off, try and help connect them, if they haven't already, or set up another opportunity for them to meet again.
Warnings
- Playing cupid does not always result in thankful embraces from the new couple. Prepare to be ignored as they begin to discover the wonderful world of "we", and spend more time with each other than with you!
- Setting up friends is not always a success. Be prepared to walk away from your goal, pushing things to much can just lead to awkward relationships.
- Don't push too much if you see that even after repeated attempts its not working out. You will end up losing both of your friends. Because in the end its their choice.
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