Trust a Wife
Have you been hurt in the past? Do you want to know how to trust again? The truth is everything starts from within. If you don't love yourself, how can you love others? If you don't accept yourself, how can you accept others? If you don't forgive yourself, how can you forgive others? If you don't trust yourself, how can you trust others? It takes time to build trust in a relationship. It takes even more time when trust has been broken. It is not impossible to rebuild trust. If you and your wife have trust issue, here are some steps to help you rebuild trust in your wife again.
Steps
- Trust Yourself. Trust that you are good husband. Trust that you are in the right place, at the right time, and experience the right experience. Each experience teaches you to become a better person. If your wife cheated, lied, or betrayed you, trust yourself that you are a strong man. You are strong because you can handle the situation. All of the experiences in the past are your great teachers. Each lesson in life is to teach you to become the person you are today.
- Trust Life. Trust that everything happens for a reason. Life is about loving, living, learning, growing, and becoming who you are here to be—the best you can be. No matter how many challenges you are facing, trust yourself that you can overcome it. Lessons come to you because you need them. Trust in your own abilities to face challenge and solve problems that come. You have that power to create the world you want. When you don't trust life, you live in fears, doubts, and worries. As a result, you limit yourself to receive blessings that come your way. When you trust life, you know that you can survive in any difficult situation. Suffering does not last. Some relationships don't last either. Material things don't last. Your job you have today might not last. What would last forever? It is trust in life and trust in yourself that whatever comes your way, you are able to face it with love, strength, and courage.
- Trust Your Wife. Give yourself a chance to trust her again. You can start doing it by asking her to do something for you in a small way. For example, ask her to call you or text you when you want her to. After she follows through by taking small actions, then, you can move to the next step by asking her to do a greater commitment.
- Be Open and Embrace Life. If you want to rebuild trust with your wife, it is important to be willing to be open and embrace life. When you are open to the new opportunity, you are more open to trust that life has so much to give you. Life is full of wonder. Explore something new that you have never experienced before. Take your time to get to know your wife. Be open to her ideas, listen to her needs. Go out on dates more often and fall in love with her again.
- Be Patient. It takes time to rebuild trust someone. Be patient with yourself. Be patient with your wife. Work on trusting yourself first. Then, rebuilding trust your wife will fall into line.
- Be Present. If you have past hurts because someone or your wife broke the trust, it is important to practice being in the moment. Where are you now? Where do you want to go? Do you want to be with your wife? Do you want to rebuild trust? If your answer is "yes", it is important to let go of the past and be present with your feelings. Everyday is your new day and new beginning. Be here now with the your lovely wife whom you once fell in love. Start your new day with falling with her once again. Life is to live in the NOW. Breathe...Feel your heart beat. Treasure this precious moment NOW.
- Forgive Your Wife. Forgiveness is true love. It is a healing. If your wife broke your trust in the past, it is very important for you to forgive her. Why? If you still hold on to your past hurt, guess who is hurting? It is you. If you are angry at your wife and holding on to that anger, who is hurting? It is you. If you make a mistake, forgive yourself. If your wife betrayed, lied, and cheated on you, forgive yourself for holding on to negative feelings toward her. In order for you to move forward, it is important to forgive her and forgive yourself. If there is another man involved, it is important to forgive that man too. Forgiveness will set you free from all negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions. As a result, you become a brave man with a big heart. That is a great man! You will be liberated by all the negativity, and be ready to take the next step. That is to trust again.
- Be Grateful. Be grateful for each experience you have. Get the most out of it. We learn fast when we face with challenge, disappointment, broken hearts, and hurt. Let your experiences be your best teachers. Without them, you would not have become who you are today. You become wiser and stronger. Most importantly, you become to trust yourself and trust life more. The more grateful you are, the more trust you have in your heart. The more you trust your heart, the more you trust others.
- Celebrate Life. Acknowledge that you have taken important steps to become a greater husband.
Tips
- Ask specifically for what you want. Ask your wife to commit in taking actions.
- It takes time to rebuild trust. It is important to be patient with yourself and with your wife.
- Celebrate when your wife follows action steps. Celebrate your love.
- Take small steps and acknowledge each success along the way.
