Be Attractive to Women

Many men want to be more attractive to women. This can help with dating or romantic relationships. There are a variety of steps you can take to make women more attracted to you. Keep in mind, however, that women have varied tastes. Nothing will universally impress or attract all women.

Steps

Working on Appearance

  1. Grow stubble. Women enjoy facial hair in general but especially in the form of slightly grown out scruff. Instead of growing a full beard, do not shave for a few days so you have a bit of stubble. Studies indicate this is the type of facial hair women tend to find most attractive.[1]
  2. Wear red. Some studies indicate that red makes people think of sex and sexuality. Adding a little red to your wardrobe may make women feel slightly more attracted to you. Some studies indicate women associate the color red with success and social status as well, both of which might make you appear more attractive in their eyes.[2]
  3. Work out. Biologically speaking, sexual attraction is rooted in who would make the best mate. Men with a stronger physique may appear healthier to some women. Women also associate strength with protective, dominant men, which many women find attractive. Spend some time at the gym weight lifting and try to get more protein in your diet to promote strength training.[2]
  4. Look older. A few studies indicate women prefer older men. This is due in part to the increase in independence and financial security that tends to come with age. Many women prefer men who are confident and have their lives together, and this kind of self assuredness is typical in older men. Try to select wardrobe choices typical of older, professional men, like suits and ties, over more casual wear. You may also want to consider trimming your hair in a short, conservative style as this can also make you appear older.[2]
  5. Take care of your personal hygiene. Women tend to be more attracted to men who are clean and take care of themselves. Make sure your breath is fresh by chewing gum or using a breath strip after smoking, drinking coffee, or drinking alcohol. Keep your hair brushed and get regular haircuts. Check your teeth to make sure nothing is stuck between before going out on a date or to a place where you're looking to meet women.[3]

Interacting With Women

  1. Be respectful of her body. If a woman feels comfortable in your presence, she's more likely to find you attractive and be interested in you romantically. Be respectful of a woman's body and her choices.
    • The way a woman treats her body is her business. Try not to comment on her eating habits, her fitness habits, and choices she makes regarding her wardrobe, make-up, piercings, or tattoos. Feeling controlled or judged is a big turn off for women.[4]
    • Do not pass judgments on a woman based on her sex life. A woman's sexual past and history should not be of her concern. There is often a double standard when it comes to judging a woman's sex life versus a man's sex life. Women are judged more harshly for promiscuity than men. If a woman feels you are judging her, she won't feel comfortable around you and is unlikely to find you attractive.[4]
  2. Listen. Women like to feel like their presence is valued. Being a good listener can make a woman feel more attracted to you.
    • Maintain eye contact when a woman talks. Use non-verbal signals to show that you are listening. Nod and smile when appropriate.
    • Ask questions about what she's saying to convey you're paying attention. Ask for clarification on her feelings or elaboration on the details of a story.[5]
    • Try to remember bits of past conversations. If she's mentioned a friend of hers, ask about that friend. If she's talked about an issue with a family member, check in to see if it was resolved.[5]
  3. Tell an interesting story. Many women find the ability to tell interesting stories attractive. Try to work amusing or insightful anecdotes into any given conversation. Remember, elements of a good story include conflict, tension, humor, and drama.
    • Try to frame experiences in a story-like fashion. Strive for a beginning, a middle, and end. Build tension in between by using suspense and foreshadowing.[6]
    • You can find radio shows online, like This American Life, that feature storytelling as a key element. This might give you a good idea on how to tell an engaging story.
  4. Share your emotions. While a lot of men believe women are attracted to the aloof of brooding, this is actually not true. Studies indicate women tend to be attracted to men who are open about their emotions. Vulnerability actually makes men appear more masculine and attractive to women. Try to be open about how you're feeling and why when interacting with women. This can make you appear more attractive.[7]
  5. Be conversational. Women are often attracted to men who are good conversationalists. While listening can make you more attractive to women, you should also work on making conversation as well.
    • Use the environment. If you're out at a club, restaurant, or bar with a woman use what's around you to make conversation. Pay attention to what a woman takes notice of and use this as fodder for talking. For example, if she glances at a painting on the wall of a restaurant, say something like, "That's a really interesting print. I wonder who the artist is." This is a great way to start a conversation.[8]
    • Current events are also great conversation starters. If you're going on a date, for example, you can use current events to combat lulls in conversation. Say something like, "What do you think of the latest election data?" You could also keep it light. Celebrity bad behavior is often a fun conversation topic. If you notice someone too drunk in public, make a humorous comparison between this person and whoever is gracing the headlines this week due to substance abuse issues.[8]
    • Ask a woman for her opinion on a variety of matters. Women are attracted to people who they feel value their insight. Say something like, "My friend Joe and I are having a disagreement on something and maybe you can help settle it. Do you think cell phones help or hurt communication skills?"[9]
  6. Play a game. Another fun way to keep women engaged with you is to play a game. If you're at a bar, play a game of tic tac toe or hangman on a napkin. If you've been dating for a bit, play a game of scrabble at your place. Games that involve insight, intelligence, and strategy can help you show off your better qualities. This can help you appear more attractive to a woman.[10]

Using Your Personality

  1. Be kind. The halo effect describes a phenomenon where you unconsciously judge someone as a whole based on a single attribute. This is why more conventionally attractive people are perceived as being better at their jobs. However, the effect work in the opposite way as well. If you are a genuinely kind, attentive person, people will perceive you as more attractive. Being genuinely kind to those around you can help you appear more attractive to women.[7]
  2. Have passion. Women tend to be attracted to men who are passionately engaged with life. Be yourself around women and try to discuss subjects you're genuine interested in.
    • Many women feel that men who speak passionately are attractive. While you do not want to inadvertently dominate a conversation, do not feel shy about talking about your own interests. Do not be afraid your hobbies or passions are too weird or non-conventional. Women will be attracted to your genuine nature.[11]
    • Women are also attracted to deep, intelligent conversation. Do not be afraid to bring up intense subjects you feel passionate about, like politics, art, and literature.[11]
  3. Be supportive. Women appreciate men who are supportive and understanding. Being genuinely invested in a woman's life can make her more attracted to you.
    • Allow a woman to express herself how she sees fit. Allow her to take selfies, take pictures of food, make jokes, and laugh without judgment. Be supportive of her choices.[4]
    • Be nice to a woman's friends. Female friendships are important. Be supportive of her fostering strong relationships with other women. Allow her to spend time with her girlfriends on occasion.[4]
  4. Indulge in romance. Women are often attracted to men with a romantic side. The occasional romantic gesture, even something small and simple, can go a long way in getting a woman's attention. Bring her flowers on a random day. Light candles for dinner. Plan a fun date night. Send her a sweet text during the day that say something like, "Hey, just wanted to let you know I think you're pretty."[12]
  5. Be considerate of her needs. Women tend to be more attracted to considerate men. Simply working on being more conscientious of those around you can help you be more attractive to women. It can also help you be a better person overall.
    • Being considerate involves a lot of small gestures that mean a lot. Pay attention to how a woman's feeling when you're out together. Offer to take her home if she doesn't seem like she's having a good time. Ask if she needs anything if you're headed to the bar.[13]
    • Ask how her day's going. If you know she had a dentist appointment at 3, text her at 4 with something like, "Hey, how was your appointment?"[13]
    • You should also be considerate of those around you. Tip well at restaurants. Say please and thank you to waiters and bar staff. Be kind to any friends she introduces you to as well as her family.



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Sources and Citations

  1. ↑ http://airows.com/lifestyle/10-scientifically-proven-ways-attractive-women
  2. ↑ 2.0 2.1 2.2 http://www.therichest.com/rich-list/most-popular/11-ways-to-be-more-scientifically-attractive-to-women%E2%80%8F/?view=all
  3. ↑ http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/9-succesful-ways-how-talk-women-and-make-them-love-you.html
  4. ↑ 4.0 4.1 4.2 4.3 http://feminspire.com/14-things-a-man-can-do-to-be-more-attractive-to-women/
  5. ↑ 5.0 5.1 http://www.mantelligence.com/things-women-find-attractive/
  6. ↑ http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-become-a-more-attractive-guy_10.html
  7. ↑ 7.0 7.1 http://www.businessinsider.com/science-of-how-men-attract-women-2015-4?op=1
  8. ↑ 8.0 8.1 http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-start-talking-to-women_8.html
  9. ↑ http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-start-talking-to-women_6.html
  10. ↑ http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-ways-to-start-talking-to-women_4.html
  11. ↑ 11.0 11.1 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/27/the-11-most-attractive-things-men-do_n_4673122.html
  12. ↑ http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/133_dating_girl.html
  13. ↑ 13.0 13.1 http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/133b_dating_girl.html
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