Be a Girly Girl

Have you ever dreamed of being a girly girl? Let wikiHow help. Read on... A girly girl is someone who wholeheartedly embraces her femininity, without sacrificing her personality or strength. She cares about her behavior, style and appearance, but is never self-centered or mean and is always herself. She is someone other girls look up to and want to be friends with. Being a girly girl is a personal choice, and no one should pressure you to act in any way you are uncomfortable; however, if this is the attitude and look that you are going for, all you need to do is cultivate the right behavior and appearance.

Steps

Maintaining Your Girly Girl Appearance

  1. Take care of your skin. Wash your face twice a day with a mild cleanser, moisturize your skin after washing, and always remove your make up before bed. Try to wear sunscreen every day, even if it's cloudy, overcast, or rainy, as the UV rays can still damage your skin. Taking care of your skin will help you to keep blackheads and pimples at bay and keep your face looking fresh and healthy!
    • Remember that many teens suffer from acne at some point and even girly girls are no exception! Don't panic though, there are loads of creams, gels, and lotions available at your local pharmacy that will help keep skin under control.
    • If you often have severe or painful breakouts, consider seeing a dermatologist. They can recommend treatments, like stronger face creams or even antibiotics, that can help get rid of acne once and for all.
  2. Wear light make up. A little make up can help to accentuate your best features and highlight your femininity. Lip gloss and mascara are perfect for everyday wear. For parties and weekend activities you can also apply a little blush or highlighter on your cheeks and some pretty eye shadow in a girly color like pink or purple. Foundation makes your skin look flawless, but make sure you get the perfect color to match your skin tone, otherwise it can look silly and fake. Concealer is good to cover up blemishes. Eyeliner makes your eyes pop, but you should be careful not to go overboard with it.
    • Use a makeup sponge or brush to apply your foundation. This will ensure an even application. If your skin is a little oily, put some pressed powder (in a matching shade) on over the foundation. This will help the make up to stay in place.
    • Whatever you do, don't apply make up too heavily, especially for school. This can make it seem like you're trying too hard and can look cheap. Make up should be used to accentuate your natural beauty, not hide it!
  3. Shower and smell good. Girly girls should always smell fresh and clean, which is why a daily shower is a must. When washing your hair, use a shampoo that helps your hair become frizz-free and shiny. Follow up with a moisturizing conditioner which helps to remove tangles and leaves hair feeling soft and silky. Wash your body with a pleasantly scented bath gel and sponge. Floral and fruity scents work particularly well. Citrus, cherry, and others are good.
    • After the shower, apply a lotion (with a scent that matches your shower gel, if possible) to your legs, knees, elbows, arms, and hands. If you do this, you will have moist, soft skin all the time.
    • When spraying perfume, use just enough. Too much perfume can be overpowering and can put people off. Apply just a dab of perfume to a few key pulse points (behind your ears and on your wrists).
  4. Take care of your nails. Having pretty, polished nails is another girly girl essential. Treat yourself to a pedicure/manicure once in a while, and make sure to keep from biting your nails, picking at them, etc. People notice your hands more than you think, and jagged nails don't look nice. Try to go to a nail salon to get your nails done. If you can't, just do it by yourself or with a family member. Older sisters and mothers are often good at nail-polishing, so enlist their help if you can! Make sure you don't put on nail polish too much or it can damage your nails.
    • If this is your first time being a girly-girl-in-training, try not to use dark colors like black or dark purple. Use girly colors like pink, baby blue, or lavender (light purple), etc.
    • Make sure your hands are soft too; invest in a good hand cream like Vaseline Intensive Care Healthy Hand & Nail Revitalizing Hand Lotion. It makes your nails stronger and hands softer.
    • Nail polish can be extremely feminine and chic at the same time, and it comes in tons of different colors. Try to use a nail polish that matches your outfit.
  5. Look after your hair. Girly girls are known for their great hair, so make sure to wash your hair every other day (depending on your hair type) and always take the time to style before going anywhere. Try different hairstyles every day, like half-up half-down, high-ponytail, side-braid, low pigtails, curls, side ponytails, messy buns with a headband, and tiara braids. Short haircuts can be cute on the right face type. Be creative!
    • Be careful, too much brushing causes flat and dull hair. A few strokes to get out your tangles and to style it will make your hair beautiful. You'll look like your hair is flowing when you walk.
    • If you have flat hair use a volumizing spray to give it some lift. Spray it close to the roots and work your hands through your hair. If you have curly hair, try scrunching it with some mousse to really define the curls.
    • Straightening your hair every day will damage it and cause it to become dry, so you will need to use a heat protection spray. Apply the protection spray before straightening or curling your hair, while your hair is still wet. Give your hair a break from the styling tools and allow your hair to air dry every once in a while!
    • A quick spritz of hairspray will keep your style in place, helping your hair look fabulous all day long!
  6. Eat healthy and exercise. A girly girl should have confidence in her appearance and feel good about her body. Exercising regularly and maintaining a healthy diet will help you to look and feel good on the inside and out!
    • Try to eat lots of fruit, vegetables, and whole grains, along with healthy portions of protein and dairy. You should be eating three balanced meals a day, with some healthy snacks in between.
    • When it comes to exercise, try to find something you enjoy—like running, swimming, or dancing. And whatever you do, don't let being a girly girl stop you from joining the soccer team!
    • Eating healthily does not mean starving yourself. Remember, you don't have to be thin to be beautiful. Just try to keep everything in moderation and don't eat too much junk food.
    • If you're very unhappy about your weight, think about going to see a doctor or nutritionist. They can advise you on the best healthy eating and exercise plan for your age and body type.
  7. Take care of your teeth. Girly girls tend to be smiling all the time, so it's important that you keep those pearly whites in tip top shape! Remember to brush twice a day (once in the morning and once in the evening). Every brushing session should last at least two minutes, so hum your favorite song to yourself as you brush. You should also floss between your teeth every day and rinse out your mouth with a minty mouthwash for extra fresh breath.
    • Don't worry if your teeth are not perfectly straight—there are several ways to get the perfect dazzling smile. If your teeth are crooked, don't shy away from braces. Just think of them as jewelry for your teeth!
    • For whitening, you can either do it yourself at home with a store-bought product or go to a dentist. Look for someone who has expertise in the area of cosmetic dentistry to get them professionally whitened.
    • Ask your dentist if you'll need braces; this way, you may look nice with straight teeth.
  8. Get enough beauty sleep. Never underestimate the powers of sleep! Sleep allows your mind and body to recover from the day gone by and to prepare for the day ahead. A good night's sleep will leave you looking healthy and refreshed and put you in a good mood for the day. On the other hand, if you don't get enough sleep you will look and feel tired, be irritable and slow and possibly have purple bags under your eyes! This is why it's essential that you get eight hours sleep a night.
    • Try to relax for at least an hour before bed to help your body to prepare for sleep. Run a relaxing bubble bath, put on some soothing music, light a couple of candles, and allow yourself to soak in the tub for a while. You'll drift dreamily off to sleep as soon as your head hits the pillow!
    • Avoid overstimulating yourself by watching TV, playing computer games, or messing around on your laptop right before bed. Try reading a book or magazine instead.

Behaving Like a Girly Girl

  1. Be graceful. Girly girls should be ladylike and graceful at all times, so try to avoid being clumsy and awkward.
    • True girly girls should appear like they're floating on clouds, with graceful and fluid actions. Work on your posture; put your shoulders back, keep your back straight, and put your chin up. Think of yourself as a ballerina, graceful and light on her feet.
    • Don't act like you have too much swagger or swing your hips too much. This can look as if you're trying too hard. Don't swing your arms either, try to keep them by your side (but don't be stiff).
    • Don't slouch when you're sitting in a chair—press up against the back of the chair and plant your feet firmly on the floor. Avoid folding your arms. It gives off a "get lost" vibe, which is the last thing you want!
    • Being graceful doesn't mean you have to hate sports and walk on tiptoe. It's about being aware of your body, being in control, and expressing confidence through your actions.
  2. Have a great personality. Girly girls are usually bright and bubbly. They have plenty of friends, hobbies and interests, and always have a laugh or a smile or something interesting to say. Don't take yourself too seriously; you should be able to laugh at yourself and have fun. Don't be shy to have friends, always remember to be nice and friendly.
  3. Be nice. Being selfish and having a nasty attitude toward others is not very ladylike behavior.
    • Girly girls should be pleasant, sweet, modest, and constantly in a good mood. Just like a Disney princess!
    • Always try to have a smile on your face, and be helpful and willing to do someone else a favor. You want to set a good example for your peers and be a leader, someone other girls look up to.
    • Remember to be nice to everyone, not just your friends or the people that are in your group. Everyone deserves a chance. Don't exclude people from games, gifts, etc. Keep your promises and don't gossip.
  4. Be romantic. Being a girly girl is also associated with romance. Be sure to read romance novels and develop a keen interest in poetry.
    • Fill your smartphone with romantic music and love songs. Get your friends together for the ultimate girly sleepover and watch some of the most romantic films ever made, like Titanic or The Notebook.
    • Send anonymous valentines on Valentine's Day and hopefully receive one or two in return!
  5. Update your music style. Be totally aware of what's hot, what's new etc. Being a girly girl doesn't mean you only listen to bubblegum pop! A girly girl can love indie, musical, and R&B as well, although pop can be something that you hate. If you hate pop though try to stay in the loop of what the new songs are, you don't have to love them just know what they are.
  6. Hang out with other girls. Girly girls love the mall, shopping, and almost anything associated with beauty, but these activities are so much more fun when you do them with other people.
    • Get a group of friends and have a shopping spree, do makeovers, host a sleepover, hold a bake sale, or any girly activity.
    • Your friends are the most important people in your life (a good friend will stand by you no matter what) so make sure that you put effort into your relationships and appreciate them everyday.
  7. Stop swearing. Swearing or talking crassly is often considered unattractive in a girl, and is definitely not ladylike.
    • It may be hard to stop, but swearing is one of the worst things you could do if you're trying to be girly. Start by replacing your usual curse words with something cuter, like "sugar!" or "shoot!" and you'll soon train yourself out of swearing.
    • Try to convince your friends to stop swearing too. Prove to each other that you can control the things that come out of your mouth. Make it more interesting by introducing a penalty—first one to swear buys everyone a Starbucks!
  8. Learn to speak well. Speaking well is something of an art and can make you sound much more intelligent and refined.
    • Try to enunciate and pronounce your words properly, speaking in a clear voice so that people can easily understand. Try to avoid sprinkling your sentences with too many "ums" and "likes" and "buts" and "and", as this can be distracting.
    • Try to speak at a medium level. Don't talk too loudly or too quietly. You want your voice to be heard but you don't want to force your opinion on everyone within a five mile radius either; also you don't want people to stand very close to you so they know what you are saying.
    • You can improve your vocabulary by reading a lot. Newspapers and textbooks are fine, but you will get much more enjoyment out of reading some classic romance novels written by female authors like Jane Austen and Charlotte Bronte.
  9. Don't stuff your face with food. Shoving food into your mouth is definitely not ladylike or even good manners; learn good manners.
    • Instead, chew your food thoroughly and try not to make any noises as you swallow. Don't take huge bites either—just small to normal-sized ones.
    • To look as normal as possible when eating, take a bite of your food and count to 20 in your head as you chew. Only swallow once you get to 20, then take the next bite.
    • Also try to avoid eating anything that could get messy and sticky, especially on a date (it's disgusting).
  10. Keep a diary. Keeping a secret diary is the ultimate girly girl activity. In it you can keep track of everyday things like what happened in school and your plans for the weekend, along with more intimate details like your secret crush and your hopes and dreams for the future.
    • Writing about things that are getting you down will also help to relieve any stress and anger and allow you to face the next day with a wide smile.
    • Just make sure your secret diary is kept somewhere safe and hidden. The last thing you want is your annoying sibling or nosy friend to take a peek when you're not looking.
    • If possible, find a diary with a lock to which only you will have the key.
  11. Be organized. If you are organized, you'll always be able to find the things you're looking for, remember important dates (like friend's birthdays), and be on time.
    • Make sure you always have everything you need for school (notebooks, pens, pencils, binders, etc.) and keep track of your weekly schedule in a daily planner.
    • Always have plenty of cute pens and pencils readily at hand. That way you can easily lend them to others when they need them.
    • Make sure your belongings are neat. You should label and cover all of your binders, folders, and textbooks. Try covering them with clear contact paper; it looks a lot neater. If you like patterned contact paper, try the metallic looking varieties that come in red, silver, blue, and gold.
    • When buying a school bag, go for light and neutral colors and good quality brands. Don't buy anything in dark colors like navy blue or black—these colors are not suitable for girly girls!
  12. Concentrate in school. It's important to be diligent and hard-working at school. Try hard in every subject and class you take, and always hand in homework on time.
    • Don't talk during class, you have lots of time for that later. Don't pass notes either; it’s embarrassing if you're caught and distracting to others. Ask questions and participate in class discussions.
    • Try to get involved with the school and its activities too. Join the cheerleading squad (a great girly girl activity!) or find something else you're passionate about, like debating or student council. Sports are also a great way to stay fit and healthy, while also having fun.
    • Remember that although working hard at school will keep parents and teachers happy, it's you who'll benefit most in the long run. Getting good grades and having lots of extracurricular activities will help you to get into a good college, which is important for your future career.
    • Study and do all your homework. Girly girls are really sweet and bubbly. They also don't avoid the things they need to do, like homework. If you get good grades, people will start to realize that you're not a bubble gum airhead, you are smart and sweet! Get into study and homework as soon as you get home to avoid procrastinating.
  13. Don't let yourself be pushed around. If someone is bullying you in any way, physically or verbally, understand that you don't have to put up with it.
    • You may be a girl—but that doesn't mean you're not strong! No one has the right to walk all over you. If you can, try to handle the situation yourself, calmly telling the person to back off and leave you alone.
    • If you really feel like you need to stand up for yourself, try to have a few comebacks prepared for when the bully says something rude. Don't make it personal though; you shouldn't need to stoop to their level.
    • If things get very serious and you feel like you need some back up, don't be afraid to tell a parent or trusted teacher. No one needs to face bullying alone.
  14. Read magazines. Magazines are a great way to help you get caught up on everything going on in Hollywood and in the fashion world.
    • The most popular magazines are gossip and fashion, but you can read anything you like.
    • Lots of fashion magazines give you lifestyle tips that come in handy all the time.
    • The gossip magazines keep you updated on what's going on with any celebrities you like.

Dressing Like a Girly Girl

  1. Have a sense of style. Being fashionable is important. Note that this doesn't necessarily mean "trendy". Try to read more fashion magazines to learn what kinds of clothes go well together. Try teen magazines like Teen Vogue and Seventeen for starters, and if you want to, move on to adult fashion magazines like Elle and In Style.
    • Try mixing and matching the clothes in your closet. The results may not always be great, but you're bound to discover new and cute combinations. Once you have built up a wardrobe filled with girly girl staples, it will be easy to experiment with different looks.
    • Remember that it's often better to have a clear idea of your own personal style than to always be chasing the latest fad look. You could waste so much money on clothes just for them to go out of style a few weeks later.
  2. Wear feminine clothes. Pink is a typical girl color, but don't shy away from blacks and blues, as they can also look very cute! A typical girly girl wardrobe should be full of skirts! It should also have a selection of colored tank tops, some pretty dresses, and cute pastel-colored bras and underwear.
    • You should also have at least three comfortable pairs of shoes: one pair of workout sneakers and a couple of pairs of cute shoes such as heels, moccasins, flats, sandals—take your pick! Also have a pair of hiking boots ready. Yes, girly girls can hike! Don't go hiking in heels. Ultimately, a girly girl can never have too many shoes.
    • Don't feel like you have to follow a girly girl dress code, as if you were wearing a uniform. Feel free to experiment with your style and express your personality through your clothes. Don't wear anything that you don't feel comfortable with—it's very important to be yourself.
  3. Wear clothing that fits. The most important thing about buying clothes is making sure that they fit. Clothes that don't fit properly will make you feel uncomfortable and self-conscious, and girly girls need to feel fabulous and confident! Don't worry about trying to fit into a particular size or feeling like you have to go for a particular size - go for what feels right and looks good on you.
    • Resist the temptation to wear skirts that are too short - your aim should to look (and feel) demure and pretty.
    • The same goes with shirts. Not tight, not baggy. If your shirt is so tight you can see your bra or you have trouble getting your shirt off of your back, then it's too tight.
    • To see if the shirt is too small, raise your arms up. If your stomach shows when you do this, then the shirt is excessively short!
  4. Don't feel like you have to buy brand name clothing. Brands are just status symbols designed to make people feel superior. Don't get caught up in that behavior, because you really don't have to spend a lot of money to be girly and look good. Just make sure you choose clothing very carefully.
    • On the other hand, if you like something that is affordable and it's a brand name, don't feel like you shouldn't buy it either!

Creating A Girly Girl Space

  1. Have important furniture like for example, a vanity. Every girly girl should have a vanity in their room, because you need a special place to get ready for school and fancy places. A desk is also very important to have because you need a place to put your very cute supplies.
  2. Clean your room. Keep a pile of things you like. The things you don't like, throw them out. Then, put the things you like in a place where you can easily access them. Also, have drawers, storage space, and more. Make your bed neat, but don't stack them to the ceiling with cute stuffed animals and pillows. Keep it simple.
    • Make a room chart. When making a room chart, you will be able to be more organized because you will plan where everything will need to be. Start by throwing old, dull clothes out, rag dolls, things that make you feel to childish or boyish. You need to remember that you are growing up into a more mature stage in life. Doesn't mean that you have to be a grown up type of girly, you can still have cute fuzzy pink things and stuffed animals and stickers all over!
    • Organize your makeup equipment. When you organize your makeup, make sure everything has its own place to be. Plus, don't just let people start touching your stuff like they own you and your room. Take control! There should be a lip, eye, cheek, nail, hair, and jewelry section. Accessories need their own section.

Tips

  • If you have any good skill or kind of talent, such as drawing, or dancing, singing, or playing any musical instrument, don’t hide it; work it. Let people see how good you are by sharing your artwork, or maybe playing a musical instrument. If you're good at acting, look for a part in any play at theater.
  • Be intelligent. A girly girl should be a great conversationalist - not an airhead. Therefore, it is essential to study things that you find interesting and important for life. Read books and newspapers and improve your vocabulary. People will admire you because you're smart and have confidence.
  • Make sure you don't pass gas, burp, or pick your nose in front of others. It's very unladylike, and will turn people off. You always want good manners wherever you are!
  • Don't wear too much makeup. Stick with the basics: lip gloss or balm, mascara, and eye shadow (but not too much). If you resemble a clown, you've overdone it.
  • Respect all of your school mates, no matter how much you dislike some of them. Understand that everyone is different and that you should respect them for who they are.
  • Don't do anything to get you in trouble. Try not to break too many serious rules, and always think about the consequences of your actions. You never know—it might just save you an unladylike detention.
  • Know that you are valuable because of what you do, not what you look like.
  • Work hard on being educated and interesting. Having passions in life makes you easier to relate to and gives you exciting experiences you can grow from.
  • Express yourself and let out your true feelings. Don't try to be someone you're not.
  • Make sure your hair is neat all the time. Set it in a different hairstyle every day to dazzle everyone!
  • Be friends with as many people as possible but don't exclude anyone or act like you are above others and are exclusive. Being a girly girl also means being kind to everyone, even if they're rude.
  • If you want, you can wear both lipstick and gloss. This is called staining. First, add a base coat of lipstick. Press your lips lightly onto a tissue to remove excess lipstick. Then add balm or gloss to seal in the color!
  • Always stay calm around boys, and never be scared to talk to them. This makes you seem much more mature and they will respect you. Don't be a flirt just to get what you want—that's very unkind behavior.
  • A girly girl has always got attitude with a hint of polite innocence.
  • When at school, always have an organized locker and desk. For an extra touch, add decorations.
  • Write with pretty floral/pink notepaper. It looks really cute if you dot your '"i"s with little hearts. If you can't get the paper, just work with what you've got.
  • Don't be too shy. Being a girly girl means you've got personality plus. Don't be afraid to show off a little.
  • When buying a phone then get a girly color like pink, baby blue, etc. However, if you already have a phone that is not a girly color, you can always buy a cute protective cover for it.
  • Some girly sports are: swimming, tennis, gymnastics, and dance. Dance is fantastic because it gets you fit, it's fun, and there are so many: ballet, aerobics, Zumba, jazz, ballroom and Latin, etc. Don't feel you have to stick to ballet because you're a girly girl.
  • Don't talk about makeup, clothing, or yourself all the time.
  • Overall, just bring out that girly part of you and don't hide yourself. Be confident, be a strong woman, be you. Don't be afraid to get caught in the rain or eat a chocolate bar every once in a while, just try to be yourself and show off your potential!
  • When you are texting, emailing, or talking in any way on the internet or somewhere you have to type, make sure that your grammar, punctuation, spelling, and capitalization is correct. You don't want to look unintelligent, and typing without grammar can be very obnoxious.
  • Don't be obnoxious. Don’t say the same thing repeatedly and don’t act too fake or too happy.
  • Girly girls are almost always on their cell phones, so make sure yours has an adorable case that fits your style. But make sure you're not on your phone so much that it is rude and obnoxious, and make conversation with the people around you as well.
  • Try pairing pink with a darker color, for an interesting contrast that doesn't shriek "the only clothes available to girls are in pink".
  • Don't gossip or say things behind someone's back. It may be tempting to gossip like a girly girl, but it could make you lose others' trust.
  • Try not to be mean. You could lose friends, people's trust, and that is not girly at all!
  • You should make sure all of your things are organized at all times just in case something pops up.
  • If you have a lot of dark colors in your wardrobe, try to accessorize. Put on some necklaces and cool nail varnish, preferably brightly colored.
  • People might call you names. Just let it roll of your back like a raindrop because if you act annoyed when they do something, they will keep on doing it over and over again UNTIL it REALLY gets to you. And if you don't act mad or angry they will realize that nothing bothers you , so they will go pick on someone else.
  • Don't act ditzy or over the top stay simple yet classy. Remember, being "girly girl" means fully embracing your femininity, not being loud and annoying.

Warnings

  • If you are naturally a tomboy and are trying to impress someone, think twice before you try to be a girly girl. The person you're trying to impress should not expect you to change for him. It is better to have a partner who loves you the way you are. And since you are a tomboy, you shouldn't change for anyone else!
  • Some people may dislike you or call you stuck-up or nerdy. If you know you've done nothing wrong or nasty, simply ignore them. They're only trying to bring you down because they feel insecure, but that is not your problem.
  • Try to be a good person. Being nice will never backfire on you (as long as you aren't a doormat). But being nasty and cruel can have a whole range of repercussions.
  • Think twice about getting tattoos and body piercings. People tend to judge others by the way they look. Also keep in mind that although tattoos and piercings are individual expressions, they can be permanent or difficult (even costly) to remove if you change your mind in the future. Get one if you really want it, but if you are in doubt how tattoos and piercings may affect you in the future, forget about them and find other ways to express yourself, such as creating works of art, poetry, hobbies, etc. Nevertheless, ear piercings are always great for a girly girl. Belly button and eyebrow piercings are more of a bad girl type of thing; you want to be good and girly.
  • If you are doing this in the middle of the school year, you might want to take small steps and change little by little. If you normally wear a hoodie and sweats every day, it won't fly over too well with everyone if suddenly you start coming to school in a skirt and heels. Take it one day at a time. If nothing else, you won't be too invested if you discover that being a girly girl is just not you.
  • Don't always hang out with boys, you will start to copy their ways. Instead, hang out with lots of girly girls and take note of the things they do, the catchphrases they use, what they eat, and their hairstyles. But it is good to have a wide range of friends and acquaintances in many different circles.

Things You'll Need

  • Shiny lip gloss or balm
  • Mascara for everyday wear (black is usual, but brown and clear work well too)
  • Cute accessories
  • Powder, blush, eyeliner, eye shadow, concealer, and lip gloss/lip stick (optional)
  • Appropriate dresses and skirts
  • Nice girly smelling perfume or body spray
  • Flat irons, hot rollers, barrel curlers, ringlet curlers, and crimpers
  • Gum, breath mints, a small pretty bottle of hand sanitizer, and a travel-size bottle of lotion
  • Handheld mirror
  • Fold up brush for those bad hair days
  • A purse filled with face powder, mascara, and gloss/balm
  • Travel-size body spray for when you forget to put it on or need a touch-up
  • Personal girl stuff like tampons, pads, etc.
  • Friends (for support)
  • Cute workout clothing
  • Makeup wipes (for makeup disasters)
  • Cute shoes
  • Hair styling products

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