Become a Good Muslim Girl

In Islam, women are advised to follow rules that at times may appear to clash with western standards of fairness and equality. However, one will come to notice that everything Muslim women are told to do ultimately benefits women. If you are a Muslim female who feels that she has been lacking in her religious duties, it is not too late to turn that around, regardless of your age or what you have done. When a women turns Baliq she knows what needs to be done in order to become a better women in the future.

Steps

Forgiveness

  1. Understand that all shall be well with Allah's will. Allah is inclined to forgive all sins for He is All-Understanding and All-Forgiving. Even if you feel that you are already too deep to become the good Muslim that you truly can be.
  2. Discover where the influences causing you to turn your back on your religion comes from. Maybe you can trace back the cause to either family situations or friends that are leading you on the wrong path. Leave the friends. They will not be there on the Day of Judgement when you have to face Allah on your own. If it is because of family, it is a little more difficult. This is where the next steps will come in handy.
  3. Repent and ask Allah (SWT) for forgiveness for any sins you commit. You need to let go of past mistakes and work on improving the future. Whatever has happened is done. It is in the past and there is nothing you can do to change it or better it. The only thing you can do is sincerely repent to Allah (SWT) and ask Him for forgiveness and leniency in punishment. Use those negative experiences as motivation to get better and do good.
  4. Notice where your weaknesses are and avoid them. This is not to say that you should run every time a guy comes near, but learn to lower the gaze and interact with unrelated men in a way that is formal and business-like. Remember that Muslim women in the past also interacted with men in their society as business women, teachers, and scholars, and they were all well respected and admired; they did not have to flaunt their beauty to gain this respect or to feel confident or even to contribute to their societies. Remember that Allah (SWT) is severe in punishment, but also the most forgiving and the most merciful. They are not people that you need in your life anyway.

Displaying your Devotion

  1. Wear the hijab. If you are truly devoted to turning over a new leaf and becoming the best Muslim girl that you can be, wear the hijab. The hijab is not just a piece of cloth that covers hair, it covers and protects your whole self, including your mannerisms, speech, your gaze, and your heart. It changes you mentally and spiritually. Think of it as a way for Allah azza wajjal to protect the women. As soon as you wear the hijab, your whole perspective on self-respect and values will automatically change. In fact, women are not allowed to pray without the hijab since the hadith of the prophet Muhammad sallalahu alaihi wasalam reads "the prayer of a woman will not be accepted without the headcover". Hijab is mandatory, as explained in the Quran 33:59-60 women should cover to be recognized as part of the Muslim group, while in 24:30-31 women are told to pull down their head covers and make them long enough to cover their breasts with a "khumur" which means "something which covers the head". The word is from the same root word for alcohol, since it is a substance when consumed covers and clouds the head and the mind.
  2. Dress modestly. This means that you have to cover your whole body. You have to wear loose clothes. Hijab is not supposed to be fashionable. Rather, it is a command from Allah (SWT). Avoid clothes that are too tight such as skinny jeans. Remember that it is obligatory to cover the whole body except the face and hands, which are highly recommended, although some scholars held the view that it is obligatory especially in the Hanbali school of thought. If you truly believe according to the evidence it is obligatory, then go ahead and make an effort to cover your face with the niqaab and your hands with gloves as no harm can come from it. This also helps you to change your whole outlook on what is acceptable and what is not.

Practicing Islam

  1. Pray five times a day. Before you get on the prayer rug, learn what the prayer words mean to enhance your contemplation within prayer. If you do not speak Arabic, try to find some translated versions of the prayer words and take some time to read and understand what the words mean. Start making prayer a normal part of your day, the way eating is a need of ours, our spiritual food is prayers.
  2. Read the Quran. Read the Quran and also try to read the translation of the Quran and truly try to understand its meaning. You can read the translation in English or your language as well. Reading the Quran will help you establish a useful relationship with Allah and will also allow you to understand how beautiful the religion is. Listening to it (you can find videos online) also makes you feel closer to Allah.
  3. Learn more about Islam. Know what you have to do (which is called 'wajib' things) and what you can't do (haraam things). The Internet is a valuable source to search for Islamic rules and regulations and the punishments that apply if they are broken. Make sure to go on correct websites for authentic sources of information. Islamic punishments may sometimes seem severe, but Muslims consider the Shariah to be a gift from Allah (SWT) that protects society and guides the believers to follow His way.
  4. Perform dhikr. Dhikr of Allah is one of the most excellent act to praise Allah. Dhikr has been stressed over a hundred times in the Holy Qur'an. Allah says in His Holy book : "O believers, make abundant mention of Allah!" (33:41) The Prophet said, "If your hearts were always in the state that they are in during dhikr, the angels would come to see you to the point that they would greet you in the middle of the road." Dhikr is, therefore, something of tremendous importance.
  5. Allocate a minimum amount of time each day to Islamic activities. For example, four hours for salah, Quran and Islamic studies will enable you to build up your relationship with Allah (SWT) and make good progress towards acquiring the necessary knowledge to become a good Muslimah. Remember that the five daily fardh salah are your top priority and you should form your daily routine around these. Allow time for self-reflection, especially to think about your sins and to pray to Allah for forgiveness.

Keeping Good Company

  1. Hang out with good friends. You should want to make friends who share your mission of being a good Muslim and influence you to do better, or friends that accept your religion. Try to make friends with other Muslims to encourage you to practice Islam.
    • Avoid friends that bring out bad influences, or friends that harm or hurt your feelings even being told to stop.
  2. Find other female Muslim role-models. Realize that there are many excellent female Islamic lecturers who are passionate about spreading the peaceful message of Islam. Try to listen to their lectures and make it your mission too to tell other women about how Islam can help them bring meaning and order to their lives.
  3. Marry a pious person who cares for you and treats you respectfully. Marrying is considered Sunnah in Islam. If you do consider marrying, try to search for a person who is loyal and treats you fairly.
  4. Consider attending Muslim groups. Attending Muslim groups or group circles is a great way to learn more about Islam and is a way to socialize with other Muslims. Many Muslim groups are most likely provided at your local mosque.
  5. Take it day by day. If you make it a priority in your mind that you want to strive to be the best Muslim girl possible, you will achieve this goal without even realizing it! Every time you are about to do something, think: "Is this something good or religious?" If it isn't, don't do it! Simply remind yourself and be ready to stop yourself, just in case. Every single moment of every day must be devoted to pleasing Allah (SWT).

Tips

  • Do lots of good deeds especially during Ramadan!
  • Seek knowledge. Trust me you will love this. Every time you learn a new thing about Islam you will be proud to be Muslim.
  • Remember that when you feel sad, Allah is always up to something!
  • Remember Islam does not forbid you to have fun and a good life. Just do what is obligatory and avoid what is sin. It will make life better for you.
  • If anything unfortunate happens, do not get angry at Allah, for we are mere humans and cannot see His plan for everyone and everything. It was meant to happen.
  • Keep Allah in your heart and mind and take him with you everywhere you go.
  • Strive to achieve all three. Good luck and may Allah (SWT) be with you!
  • Causing even one person to switch to Islam will earn you a great amount of Hassan-ah.
  • Every time you feel weak and do not have someone to talk to, remember that Allah (SWT) is always there for you and He is all you need to accomplish this mission.
  • Don't do something because others do it. Do it for the sake of Allah and make Him pleased.
  • Keep in mind that to receive forgiveness from Allah there are three requirements:
    • Recognizing the offense itself by admitting your mistake to Allah.
    • Making a commitment to Allah not to repeat the offense.
    • Asking for forgiveness from Allah and promising to submit to any punishment He may prescribe.
  • Before sleeping, think back on everything you did throughout the day. This daily reflection will help you to see where you are going wrong and make the necessary changes.
  • Remember that being a Muslimah does not forbid you to have a good life. Have fun in life, just stay within the boundaries and do what you have to do as a Muslim such as prayer. Being close to Allah will give you not only a better afterlife but inshallah a more pleasant life as well.
  • Learn as many duas (supplications) such as the dua before sleeping, dua before eating etc. and you, yourself will feel the positive impact the duas have in your life. If you recite the dua before eating when you are about to eat, you will not only have Allah's (SWT) blessings in your food but you will also be getting good deeds the whole time you are eating!
  • Keep patience at all time. Allah wants to testify. Allah has created jinn and men to worship him.
  • Perform all five salawat (prayers) daily and never miss a prayer.
  • Make lots of duaa' (supplication).
  • Also follow the Hadith and Sunnah of the prophet read the Quran for guidance respect people and become the Ummah of prophet Muhammad (Pbuh).
  • Don't give up in the way of Islam.
  • Do not steal if your friend does then don't be their friends anymore.
  • Never trust someone you don't know!
  • Pray 5 times Read Quran Learn Islam Surahs.
  • Make sure that if you do choose to wear a hijab, wear it properly, by covering you hair, shoulders and chest. Do not treat it like a fashionable accessory and ensure you are fully committed to wearing it every time you step out of your house and go out in public.

This may take some time in getting used to, but will soon become a part of you and you will feel better wearing it too. In hot weather, wearing the hijab can become uncomfortable and one may feel like just taking it off, regardless of where they are. To prevent this from happening, wear hijabs of a lighter colour during the summer, since dark colours absorb heat from the sun. Wear hijabs that are of a thin material, such as pure cotton which will not only be kind to the skin but also make you feel cooler. Remember, you are allowed to wear hijabs of different colours and designs to match with your outfit.

  • Never be rude to your parents. They are your parents, and they raised you. Try staying polite to show your gratitude.
  • If you are going through a tough time don't stress, for allah has said everything has a end.
  • If you want to join a sports team where you must wear shorts, ask the teacher if you could wear jeans or yoga pants. If that doesn't work, get a note from your parents.

Warnings

  • Whatever happens, do not give up.
  • Just try to try to be a good Muslim. Keep on thinking about how much improvement you are going to make and think about how happy Allah will be. Just try to never give up. Keep reading Qu'ran, go to hajj and think how happy you will be. Remember to pray your five daily obligatory prayers.
  • If a teacher ask you do something haraam (dressing up for halloween, wearing shorts etc.), confront the teacher. If he/she doesn't approve, ask your parents to write a letter. Be confident.
  • At first, such a change may prove to be quite different, but it is possible.

Things You'll Need

  • The Qur'an
  • Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing be upon him)
  • Stories of the Sahaba (Companions) and the Prophets esp. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing be upon him)

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