Celebrate White Day

We all know about Valentine's Day; it's the day where you pass out chocolate, give out cards, and show affection. But have you heard of White Day? It's a month after on March 14th that is commonly celebrated in Japan and Korea. On this day, the gentlemen pays back to the ladies who gave them gifts on Valentine's Day. In other words, you can call it an "answer day."[1]

Steps

  1. List the people who gave you gift(s) on Valentine's Day. There are two types of chocolate that women give to men: "giri choco" (obligatory chocolate)[2] and "honmei choco" (true love chocolate)[3]. Giri choco is usually handed out to casual acquaintances, while honmei choco is higher-quality and given to one she has romantic feelings for. Separate the people who gave you giri choco from honmei choco.
  2. Know the basics of the sweets. Make sure your intentions are clear with no misunderstandings.
    • White chocolate: "Let's be friends." (most common)
    • Chocolate candy: "I like you."
    • Chocolate cookies: "I love you."[4]
  3. Return giri choco with a giri type of gift. This is pretty simple. They are overall easy to find inexpensively in almost any store. A basic box of white chocolate will usually do.
  4. Decide on what to give back for honmei choco. Remember that these types of chocolate mean the sender has feelings for you. These will probably require more thought on what to give back. If you have the same feelings back, feel free to give her a nice gift(s) in return! However it's crucial to decline and let them down easy with an explanatory note and a gift. It would be nicer if the gifts you send were white for White Day, so keep this color in mind. Use white gift wrap paper or a white gift bag, and tie it with some pretty ribbons. Some ideas for honmei gifts would be:
    • Cakes, chocolate, candies, and/or cookies (most popular choices)
    • Flowers; roses are generally a romantic flower, or choose her favorite type of flower instead.
    • Candles
    • Teddy bear
    • China cups and saucers
    • Perfume, body mist, lotion, and/or scented soap
    • Clothing and accessories (e.g. dress, necklace, purse)
    • A card written specially for her
  5. Go on a date with your significant other. This special day is the perfect opportunity to go out. Eat at a nice restaurant, go to the movies, and if you can, visit Japan or Korea on this day.

Tips

  • Remember: it's not about the gift you give, but the act of giving is the most important. Therefore you do not need to spend tens of thousands of dollars for gifts, but just add some meaningful thought into it.
  • Traditionally, white chocolate and marshmallows were often given. You can include these as your gift(s)[5].
  • Surveys show that women enjoy receiving flowers and a card on White Day[6], so make sure to at least give these, especially when returning honmei choco!

Warnings

  • Don't give the wrong idea by giving someone something much too valuable if you don't feel the same way back. Just purchase something nice with a small note.

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