Deal With Drama at School

There are girls at every school that get on our nerves. They will be in middle school, high school, college, the work world, and so on.

Steps

  1. Let go of any rumors. No one is going to remember rumors and gossip in a few years. It should not matter if you kissed the geekiest person in school. It is your business and no one else. Let everyone that asks know you did, and then they'll get over it.
    • Attempting to hide something you did will make it worse. If you show that you don't care, the person who is questioning you will actually subconsciously feel stupid and respect you more. (This happens because they realize how immature they are being for trying to stir up drama - even if they don't admit it.)
  2. Avoid getting involved. If you or your friends are fighting over something, just don't get involved. Tell them both you value your friendships, but you are not a vigilante. If anything, try to help them work it out through logic. But, if you are going to do this, know your limitations. Not everyone is able to get involved in an argument without choosing a side or making it worse.
  3. Ignore people whom make fun of others. They are looking for attention, and giving comebacks or engaging in "Facebook Wars" is just going to give them exactly what they want. If you must say something, make your point and move on.
  4. Keep your private life private! People will always talk. Don't give them anything to talk about, don't discuss your sex life, your grades, and your family life to people you don't know if you can trust. This will only lead to trouble.
  5. Identify your friends. This is a huge struggle for most teenagers. If you get a feeling that someone's 'friendship' isn't good for you, you're probably right. Everyone has faults, but some people purely enjoy stirring up drama.
  6. Accept other people's opinions. Don't change yourself because of their opinions - be who you want to be. It's hard to do, but it's worth it and will bring you more happiness in the end.

Tips

  • Do not tell them anything personal.
  • Don't take sides. If your friends have taken sides with each other, just say that you are not taking a side. Don't say anything that people can use against you too. Example: Your friend Jane has grouped up with your three other friends Edna, Glinda, and Mary. They are all mad at Chelsea, Jamie, Leslie, Marie, and Zelda. Jane is talking about Jamie and Leslie to you. Leslie and Jamie had called Jane mean names. Jane is gossiping about them, and you add something in like, "That was mean. Jamie is that herself." Jane could run to Jamie and Leslie with that and get you involved in it. If someone says something to you, stick up for calmly. Try to help your friends work it out. If you get involved, it will only lead into trouble with parents, teachers, administrators, and people who side with your enemy.
  • Stay out of drama. It will affect your grades if you focus on school drama all the time.
  • Don't be friends with the popular kids because if drama starts you could pulled right in it and you can also get in trouble with the popular kids so if you were thinking about joining them you may want to think about it.
  • Drama can be interesting, and perhaps good to some degree, but it gets out of hand excessively easily. Strive for no drama, and you will have just enough excitement to get you by the dull patches.
  • If someone is perpetuating a dramatic situation and will not leave you alone, it may be time to bring in an adult to help resolve the issue.
  • If someone says something mean about you, makes up a lie, or won't give you a break about whatever you did three months ago, remember that whatever they say, it's not true and you shouldn't take it to heart. If they're going to be that mean and not listen to you, they don't deserve your time. Distance yourself from 'toxic' people like that.
  • A simple apology can go a long way.
  • If you don't feel like talking to someone about an issue, write them a note. You can express yourself better that way, and they won't be able to interrupt you.

Warnings

  • If someone is threatening to harm you, tell someone who can help. Drama is often harmless, though annoying, but no one should have the right to scare you.
  • If you find that your friend is the one starting drama, move on. And that doesn't mean tell her off, and just means grow apart from her. She's not a true friend, so let go of her.

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