Deal With Losing a Good Friend

It's always difficult to lose a friend. By following these instructions, however, hopefully you'll find some guidance to help you through the process.

Steps

  1. Try not to let your friendship get to this point. If there is something causing a problem with your friendship get together and have a conversation to find a good solution.
  2. Accept the truth. If he or she talks about others behind their backs, your friend is talking about you, too. There are no exceptions for this.
  3. Make some other friends. This is hard if you're shy, but it will save you a lot of embarrassment later as you will need someone to sit with at lunch and in the mornings.
  4. Distance yourself from your "best friend". Obviously he or she has already done the same to you or else you wouldn't be here.
  5. Don't let the "breakup" turn into a fight. Your friend will most likely be as hurtful as possible, listing all your flaws and some that most likely don't exist. Don't start arguing or pointing out his or her flaws. Take it all in stride and say this if you don't know what to say: "I'm sorry everything turned out this way, you've made it clear how you feel and I won't be bothering you anymore." Then leave the situation.
  6. Make a peace agreement as soon as you can. Your friend knows a lot of things about you that you don't want spread around and vice versa. Don't turn this into a war.
  7. Try not thinking about the past with this friend. Thinking about the past will just make you feel more lonely.

Tips

  • If you still feel awkward a few days after you're friends missing from your life, don't worry, it's perfectly fine. It's also alright to have them at the back of your mind, but just don't bring them forward a lot.
  • Appear as happy as possible when your friend can see you.
  • Everything people say is intended to trigger an emotional response be it good or bad. Don't take things to heart that are said during a "break-up", this could permanently scar you. Just relax and take it all in stride.
  • If your friend wants you to leave him or her alone, then by all means, do so.
  • Never cry in front of him or her. It only makes it harder for him or her.
  • If your former friend tries to talk to you again, listen to what he or she has to say. They may be truly sorry but before giving them a second chance make sure they could really be a good friend. Just be wary. Don't fall into the same trap again.
  • Don't overanalyze the relationship after it's over.

Warnings

  • If you develop suicidal tendencies, get help; this will not make your ex-best friend sorry.

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