Deal With Someone in School Who Hates You for No Apparent Reason

This article is directed to Elementary/primary , Middle and High/secondary school students: Today's teenagers have to deal with as much stress as many adults have to endure on a daily basis. There have been many fights and conflicts between students in schools for decades, and all these conflicts are instigated mostly by either bullying or conflicts with one another. Many of these conflicts start when one student hates or dislikes another due to his or her age, gender, the way that he or she chooses to dress, appearance, race, or which group of friends that he or she associates with. These next steps will help prevent any student from engaging in conflicts or fights with another student.

Steps

  1. Ignore them. This is the best way of handling a situation in which you are being harassed or bullied. If you hear that a fellow student hates you or making fun of you, just ignore them. Ignoring a student is the best thing that you can do and the student who is bothering you is only looking for attention to look "cool" in front of his or her friends. If you just don't pay any attention to them, they will stop.
  2. Try walking up to the student in public. Doing it in public is better because there are others to help you if he or she wants to fight you. Avoid walking up to a student if he or she is with her friends, as there is greater pressure on the student to "impress" his friends by mistreating you. If you do talk in private, ask questions. For example, "What's your problem? Why do you hate me?", "Is there something I did to you for you to hate me?", "Please, I want you to stop talking about me and hating me. I have nothing against you, why are you doing this?." This should stop, or at least lessen the harassment. But don't do this if the person seems likely to be aggressive or hurt you.
  3. Try not to confront the bully again, if the problem persists. Try talking to your parents, school guidance counselor, or assistant principal about the situation. If you feel more comfortable with speaking with the guidance counselor or assistant principal with the person who is troubling you, it would definitely make a bigger impact on the situation.
  4. Try to speak of the situation in a very calm manner, without exploding with shouts or wails at the person. This would make the conference run smoothly. If the bully makes a smart or insulting remark to you, just let it go. Don't react by trying to talk back, just try to get the message to whomever you're talking to help you out. You need to have a cool head when dealing with these situations.
  5. If they refuse to resolve the conflict, don't get mad. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion.
  6. If the problem persists, you can always ask help from your teachers.
  7. That person just has nothing better to do, they are bored and want to feed off other people's misery.

Tips

  • Try to talk to the friends. Try to get their support on the situation. If not try getting your own friends.
  • Nobody ever hates another person for no reason, there is always a reason; maybe due to jealousy, a recent argument or confrontation, your social status in school, or simply for your beliefs or their sexuality. Be aware, however, that the reason may have very little to do with the target of the aggression. It could be a person's way of acting out an unrelated situation.
  • If someone hates you for no apparent reason, they are probably just jealous. Try to talk to them like the article said, be kind and maybe you guys can talk and get along.
  • If they are being rude or negative towards you, try being as nice as possible to the bully. If it is impossible even then, try asking a teacher for their help.
  • Tell a guidance counselor and tell them what happened. They are there for a reason, they are never gonna make fun of you, and they will always listen to your story. They also will recommend how to deal with the problem.

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