Get Out of Going to an Event

Sometimes in life you may find you're are forced to go to social events that you find just down right boring. Maybe you really would not like to attend. Unfortunately, you may have to go, for example, if you got an invitation. Fortunately, there are ways to get out of some of these monotonous gatherings without being rude.

Steps

  1. Make sure your reason for getting out of going to an event has evidence behind it. Just because someone may say "Oh, I went to that and I slept through it" doesn't mean it's true. If you get out of an event that turned out to be fun and exciting, you'll be very upset you missed it.

Excuses for kids

  1. Reason with whoever is asking you to go. It could be your parents, a teacher, a boss, etc. Always ask if it is a mandatory event before going to drastic measures.
  2. Consider faking a sickness. If you pull it off it is a sure-fire way to not go or leave early. Although, there are still many flaws and sources for error.
    • Two days before the event, complain about a stomachache or headache. If you are faking a stomachache, don't try to hold your stomach and double over. This will make you look fake. Just every once in a while rub your stomach or groan. For head aches, close your eyes and rub one of you temples sloppily with your hand. It is important never to fake a sore throat. Doing so may lead to the doctor's office or worse- your parents will look in your mouth and see it looks normal, foiling your plan.
    • The next day (the day before the event), fake a fever. This can be done in several ways. First run a washcloth under really hot water. Ring it out and let it sit for about a minute so that it's damp with hot water. Cover your whole face with it for approximately 3 minutes. It helps id your face is red so you may want to rub it a little.
    • Get your thermometer (if you have one, if not then your lucky and don't have to do this step). Get it to a temperature between 100 and 102 degree. Any higher will get a call to your doctor a trip to the emergency room. If your thermometer is lower than 100 degrees than it would be too close to average body temperature and once again your plan would be foiled. getting your thermometer to this level can be done by holding it to a light bulb that has been on for a few minutes. Hold against the light bulb one second at a time until desired temperature. Make sure to move slowly and seem dazed.
  3. Try to reason your way out. One is to try to explain you are not mentally prepared. Maybe you're upset because you just broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend. See tips on fake crying. Another thing to do is explain why you do not wish to go to this event. You could maybe exaggerate such as at this event no one talks to you, etc. The very best reason is to say "how about I don't go to this one, but I go to the next one". then next time you could fake the sickness, etc.
  4. Tell your parents you have a lot of online schoolwork. Make sure you have a lot of work that was pending that you have to finish. A few hours before leaving, tell them that you have started your online homework and you can't shut the computer down or your work will be lost, or that if you don't complete it within the required time, you will lose marks.

Excuses for Adults

  1. Ring up and say you feel unwell. Apologize deeply and offer to send along anything you'd promised to bring. Do not leave the house; if you're seen out and about after offering this excuse, it will get back to the host.
    • If you feel truly anxious, it might be better to be honest and explain this to the host. Say something like: "I really wanted to come and I thought I could do this but I'm experiencing an anxiety attack at the thought of being around so many people. I just know it's only going to get worse. I am so sorry, I will make it up to you later, when it's just us."
  2. Claim work pressure. Explain that a deadline or something urgent has suddenly cropped up and that you have no choice but to finish it. Suggest that you'll drop by after completing the task, should this happen. (Knowing full well that it won't, so be polite.)
  3. Use the kids as an excuse. Claim that a child is sick, acting up or in trouble for something and that you can't make it while you're dealing with the situation.
  4. Say that you have had sudden out-of-town visitors or relatives drop in on you and that you need to be with them. Of course, this one is dangerous is the event host knows the people and wants to also catch up with them. This "excuse" is best offered only if it's true.
  5. Realize that squirming your way out of an event with an excuse carries big risks. If you are found out, you won't be trusted in future. Moreover, even if you can carry off the excuse convincingly, the host will likely be unimpressed with most excuses apart from illness, knowing that you could have juggled things to make space for the event. And any hint of hesitating, making things up, etc., will cause your host to think less of you. Is it really worth it? Sometimes it is just better to go.
  6. Go but leave early. Turning up may be all you need to achieve. In other words, make the effort, say your hellos to everyone, then bow out gracefully at some early point during the event if it's not turning out to be pleasant or bearable. Be sure to thank the host and say goodbye, so that they are aware that you at least enjoyed yourself.

Tips

  • Don't fake symptoms that could get you into professional medical care. that never turns out well.
  • Sit in the bathroom for a very long time.
  • When reasoning (this is very tricky but very effective if pulled off), it is possible to be so annoying that you get yourself grounded, therefore not allowed to leave the house. Sometimes this backfires and you are forced to not leave the house except for the dreaded event.
  • Rent, watch, and take notes on the movie Ferris Bueller's Day Off.
  • An unfortunate, but true, realization is that you very well may just have to rough it and go to the event.

Warnings

  • Don't overdo the whole sickness thing. Try to seem like you aren't too upset about being sick. If you act too sad then you could ruin it.
  • While it may be okay for kids to beg off an event, for adults being present is often a part of being a mature person. Find ways to manage the event and all that it entails, rather than fear it.

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