Get a Taken Girl Who Wants to Be More Than Just Friends
If the girl you like is currently seeing someone, quite possibly a completely inconsiderate boyfriend who loves looks over what really matters, how do you win her love? This can be a very troublesome situation, and could end in emotional disaster if you are not careful in trying to pursue her. Waiting it out, professing your love or moving on are the choices before you. You can't control what the girl decides, but you can control your own behavior!
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Steps
- Be sure that this is the real deal. Make sure that her behavior towards you is unique. Is she the type that flirts with everybody, regardless of relationship status? If so, then she could be treating you just like every other guy. If she has said that she really loves you more than her boyfriend or said that she would like to leave him for you, then she is likely messing with you. If she really feels that way, she will be much more subtle.
Option One
- Wait for it to end. This is probably the most emotionally hurtful of all the steps.
- Accept that you do not know how long you will be waiting for her current relationship to end. Plus, you will have to see her with her boyfriend, doing couple-like things, and remind yourself that you cannot ask her out because she is seeing him. However, if you are capable of waiting it out, then that shows maturity and diligence in you, and you will be able to ask her out, and considering your strong friendship with her, she will likely not decline.
Option Two
- "Tell her about it." Let her know how you feel. This would be a bit of an addition to step one, waiting it out, but can also be used from the get-go. But, this is really only if you have been waiting so long for her relationship to end, that you just cannot take it anymore.
- If you do plan to tell her how you really feel, do it in a place where the boyfriend is not even remotely around, and a place where you are alone together.
- Prepare to be let down. She may not be ready to leave him for you. However, she may be more than willing to start anew and begin a new love life with you, even though this may be a bit unlikely. This step is not greatly recommended because it has a very good chance of ruining the great friendship you two have, making things permanently awkward.
Option Three
- Move on. This is probably the toughest step. There are indeed other fish in the sea, and you can definitely find someone else if you want to. Plus, this can make her a little bit jealous. This option is also a bit iffy because if you are currently courting someone when your "crush" and her boyfriend split up, it will be incredibly difficult to get to her when you are with someone.
Tips
- Spend as much time with this girl as possible, and make little hints through words or body language to let her know that you are interested in her, but keep it in check.
- Do not be who her boyfriend is. She would never want someone just like the jerk she's dating now.
- Have confidence. You like her, and she is making "more than just friends" remarks, so let's just assume that she likes you too, or would rather have you over her current boyfriend.
- If you are going to wait, just remember, if she is making these "more than just friends" remarks, then this could be a sign that her relationship with her current boyfriend could be weakening.
Warnings
- Do not let her boyfriend know of your intentions or feelings. However, the time you spend with her may make him infer something going on. This can be a little mind game for him, and can help you if you want to mess him up.
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