Attract a Guy
Guys insist they're simple, but sometimes they seem so complicated. Attracting the right one can seem like asking for a miracle. Luckily, that element of irresistibleness doesn't have to be so elusive. Here's a few tips on how to leave men swooning.
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Steps
Master the Attitude
- Be positive. If you believe all men want a blonde with large breasts, you'll act like it. Every man is attracted to a different type of woman. Relax. Yours is out there.
- Smile. Such a simple thing does wonders. Positive, smiling people light up a room and others are automatically attracted to them. Moods are contagious--if you make others feel good, they'll seek to be around you.
- Compliment others. This includes him! The old adage "What goes around comes around" is true. Cultivating an aura of positivity that others can benefit from will encourage them to return the favor.
- What's more, accept compliments with grace. If a guy tells you that you look nice, smile and say, "Thanks!" Don't brush off his statement or disagree with him.
- Be confident. Thinking you're awesome makes it easier for others to see you're awesome, too.
- Think of all your positive attributes. Though nobody's perfect, we all have something others envy. Write down what you love about yourself and go over the list every day.
- Limit your complaining. We all struggle with our weight and with friends. If you have a problem, do talk about it--but don't fill empty silences with griping. Keeping your mind on bigger, happier things will make it easier to give off the impression you want.
- Be proud of your accomplishments. Did you ace that test? Score the most points in your last volleyball game? Go ahead, brag a little! Don't be afraid to talk about the impressive things you do.
- Make sure not to be self-centered. Being proud of yourself and conceited are two very different things.
- Compare yourself to your former self, not to those around you. Make the goal to be better than who you were, not better than others in your life. There will always be people better and worse off than you.
- Watch your body language. Keeping an open, welcoming stance will show any guy that you are approachable and ready to talk.
- Make eye contact. Shying away from someone shows them that you're nervous and may not want to engage. Holding his gaze will let him know that you're interested and deserve his attention.
- Stay open and friendly. Crossing your arms may give off the impression that you're not looking for conversation. If you see a guy you may be interested in, angle your body towards him, signaling that interest.
- Being open also involves not being preoccupied with something else. Checking your phone every 2 minutes tells the world that you aren't present and involved in your surroundings. Set it down and make yourself available.
- Touch him lightly. The bond of human touch is irreversible. If you're involved in conversation, touch him sweetly on the arm or knee to tell him you're listening and captivated.
Get the Look
- Practice good hygiene. Taking showers regularly and keeping up on your appearance is the first step to showing the world you're interested in it.
- Deodorant and toothpaste do great things for unwanted scents. Applying deodorant every day and brushing your teeth after each meal will ensure that you're always looking and feeling fresh and clean.
- Light make-up will enhance your best features. Make sure not to go too overboard; most men prefer a more natural look. Too much make-up says you're not beautiful without it--which clearly isn't true!
- Find your style. Whatever you feel best in looks best on you. Whether it's dresses, t-shirts, or leather cowboy boots, your clothes are a symbol of you.
- Don't try to fit in with a certain look. You want to attract guys that like you--not who you are trying to be.
- Dress for the occasion. It may be tempting to wear sweatpants to your cousin's bar mitzvah, but negative attention is not what you want.
Live the Lifestyle
- Get energized. Finding and sticking to an exercise routine leads to higher levels of energy, better sleep, and a clearer complexion. That's not even including the health benefits and trimmer waistline!
- A simple thing like going for a walk every day contributes to overall health. If you have time (and the ability) for a daily trip to the gym, great! But if not, stay active with smaller things: walk the dog, play tennis, or go swimming.
- Cultivate your passions. A girl with interests is an interesting girl. Having your own identity is key to attracting a man: If even you don't know who you are, how can he?
- Find hobbies. There are loads of things you're good at. Once you find the things you enjoy, you'll find guys with similar interests. Having things in common makes it easier to communicate and start a relationship.
- Your passions should include other relationships. Don't neglect your friends and family in concentrating on finding a guy. Surrounding yourself with others who care about you will help you grow and become a more well-rounded, positive person.
- Stay healthy. A balanced, nutrient-rich diet works wonders on the body and mind. Your body is a temple--don't put things into it that are harmful.
- Getting enough vitamins and minerals will make your hair and nails grow faster and thicker, in addition to your skin glowing and looking healthier. This means loading up on the fruits and veggies and cutting down on the processed goods.
- Kick those nasty habits. Drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes adds years to a person's appearance. Not to mention the bad breath and body odor.
Talk the Talk
- Stay open to opportunities. You may think you know what kind of guy you are looking for until one surprises you. Taking risks and going with the flow leads to more experiences and more connections.
- Say "yes." If you're interested in a guy, don't shut down the conversation. He loves snowboarding? Great! Maybe you know nothing about it, but could he take you next week?
- Play along. If he's teasing you, don't over-analyze. Tease him back! Show him you can be sharp, funny, and take a joke, too.
- Show him who you are. A confident, dynamic, open girl is hard to resist. Being yourself and showing him your best qualities is the only way to market yourself.
- Are you funny? Crack a joke! If you're strong, embrace it! Never alter your personality for who you think someone else wants you to be. It won't stick.
- Share your interests. You'll never know if you have something in common if you don't talk about yourself. Letting him get to know you allows him to see how unique you are.
- Talk about your life. Including him in on your friends and family will make him feel more attached to you. After all, they're the ones who have shaped you. While being mysterious can be attractive, you want to show him you're a real person who can be trusted.
- Feel it out. We can never guess who we'll click with. If you've made a connection with a guy, be sure to follow up. If he's coming off as unavailable, no problem.
- He's laughing, you're laughing, and you've been talking for ages. Don't be afraid to take it to the next level. Find something he's interested in and make a suggestion to do it together. If he's interested, he'll take the conversation and run with it.
- If a guy you're attracted to isn't attracted to you back, there's no use in even thinking about it; it could be one of a million reasons. He could be in a relationship, newly single and not ready, or just not feeling it at the moment. Remember: don't take it personally. He is one of billions of guys. You'll be fine. Mostly likely you'll forget it about when...wait. Who's that cute guy over there?
Tips
- Know your values. It'll help you make the decision that keep you happiest. It'll also surround you with people who feel similarly.
- Don't settle. Having just any guy into you is not the goal. If he's not good for you, don't cling onto the relationship. You can find someone who is.
- Make a good first impression. Sometimes, it's the only chance you'll get.
- If you don't get him. Don't get too sad because there are plenty of boys like him out there, maybe even better ones.
- Wear something that you feel comfortable in, and then you will have more confidence.
Warnings
- Do not alter yourself for a boy. You'll be left without him and without yourself.
- Do not rush into a relationship. Get to know each other to see if you're compatible.
- Don't wait for him to call or text you. Live your life to your schedule, not his. If you want to talk to him, go for it yourself!
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