Go to a Dance Without a Date

What if you want to go to a dance to have fun, but you don't feel like asking a date? Lots of people go to dances and have a blast with their friends, no awkward slow dancing required. If you want to go to a dance without a date, dress up in something fancy, make a confident entrance, and dance the night away - just like everyone else is doing!

Steps

  1. Establish for sure that you don't have a date. If you think someone may still ask you or that you may still ask somebody to go as your date, make sure to find out definitely before following the rest of these steps. You don't want to get in the Single mindset and then find out you have a date to prepare for.
  2. Get your wardrobe together. Guys, hit the thrift stores and look for something cool; there's usually something worth checking out, i.e. plaid blazers or pants. Get something tasteful, but not tacky...don't want to look clown-ish. Crack open a fresh pair of sneakers, preferably Vans checkerboards or black Converse hi-tops. A hat usually doesn't hurt. Girls, same general concept if you're a "bohemian" chick, but otherwise a formal-esque dress is more acceptable. Though depending on your usual crowd, an off-beat ensemble can look really cool on the right girl.
  3. Spend the early part of the Big Day doing something fun and relaxing (a day of paintball with the boys can be a good thing to get enthusiastic about the evening). This works equally well for guys and girls, as the latter should remember that if there is no date, worrying about hair is totally optional; nobody important is going to make a stink about your hair not being perfect. Just think about all the time everyone else is wasting trying to get things together at the last minute. Enjoy your freedom with a smile.
  4. Make your entrance with confidence. Walk in like you own the place and talk to everybody you know on the way in. A pair of aviator sunglasses (preferably mirror finish) or some other bit of flair will make you look cool and nonchalant.
  5. Move around between people and make small talk. Once inside, don't become a wallflower; you've come too far to quit now! There's no way you're the only dateless person in the room; head for the dance floor and jump into the action, or scope out a wallflower of the opposite sex (it could be a friend, a jilted date of someone else, or even a stranger if you feel lucky) and just ask to dance. It's much easier to ask in a room with loud music blasting. A simple outstretched hand and a raised eyebrow can do the trick if you're lucky.
  6. Enjoy yourself. Since you came with no date, you have no allegiance to dance with anybody; dance with as many or as few as you want, it's entirely up to you. And when the night is over for you, it's over. Leave anytime you want with no threat of an awkward ride home because of your decision to leave early or stay late.

Tips

  • During the slow songs, when couples are dancing, you may want to take this opportunity to get something to eat, go to the bathroom, touch up your makeup, etc.
  • Be confident!
  • During the slow dances this is also a chance for you to go and ask the girl you saw there who didn't have a date to dance with you and get to know her.
  • If you're REALLY self conscious about dancing, at least find some people standing against the walls too. At least you can make it look like you're mingling, instead of just watching the party sadly.
  • If you have enough dateless friends who don't feel like going to the dance, do what's known as counter-programming. That is host another event like a small house party, an ice skating night, etc. for your friends who may not want to stand around watching other people dance. You could also have a back up place you visit with your dateless friends. You may want to bail and go bowling or watch a movie if the dance is lame.
  • Also during slow dances ask your good friend to dance with you and have fun.
  • Try to find a group of friends who are also going dateless. It can be cool to get together and synchronize something (guys, you can even get together and rent matching suits; it doesn't look as dumb as it sounds, and even freshmen can pull this off if enough guys do it)

Warnings

  • Don't stand at the so called "sidelines" of the dance floor, it makes you look gloom.
  • Don't constantly ask a girl to dance (if you ask).
  • Don't avoid the dance just because you have to go stag!

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