Heal from Trauma

Your healing journey can help you put a trauma to rest and get you ready to move on with your life. Take care of your yourself by coping with your emotions and healing with your body. Start some new practices to help you stay calm in your body. Now is a great time to rely on other people for support, so reach out to friends and family. Many people see a therapist or join a support group as part of their healing.

Steps

Coping with Your Feelings

1. Feel your emotions. It might be easier to push your emotions away or pretend they don’t exist. You may even think of yourself as strong for not engaging with your emotions. However, it’s important to feel what you need to feel regarding your trauma. Your feelings are valid, so let yourself express them.
   • For example, if something makes you feel angry, express that anger. If you become overwhelmed with sadness, don’t be afraid to cry.
   • You might wish to talk about your feelings with a friend or therapist or write them down in a journal. Do what helps you express your emotions.
2. Tell your story. Many survivors of trauma find it therapeutic to tell their stories and repeat them. Talking about the trauma can help express the pain and help to restore power back to you. It can also help you remove the awful feelings attached to the event. This might mean talking about it in a support group or therapist’s office, or with friends and family.
   • While many people find it helpful to talk, you might want to express your feelings through writing, singing, or dancing.
3. Embrace your spirituality. Some people turn toward religion or spirituality as a way to heal and work through trauma. Your beliefs may help you navigate the meaning and purpose of your negative experiences or help you connect with something outside of yourself. You may take refuge and comfort in your beliefs of a greater plan or higher power.
   • Being a part of a spiritual community may help you gather with other like-minded individuals ready to help you and support you.
   • Join a spiritual community or participate in spiritual practices on your own. Start by meditating or by reading sacred texts.
4. Get involved in activities. Don’t let your entire life revolve around your trauma. Constantly thinking about the trauma can be draining and remove you from the rest of life. Part of healing is having things and experiences in your life that don’t involve the trauma. Enjoy some social activities like getting together with friends, going bowling, or attending concerts. Try to experience some “normal” time.
   • If you’re invited to spend time with friends, do your best to go, even if you don’t feel like it.
   • Spending time doing “normal” things can help you feel like you’re moving toward a more normal life once again.
5. Avoid turning to drugs and alcohol. Self-medicating with drugs and alcohol may feel good in the moment, but it won’t make the trauma go away or help you on your healing process. Using drugs and alcohol tends to mask your problems momentarily, but can lead to addiction and other mental or emotional problems. Cope with your feelings in a healthy way and don’t turn to addictive substances for a quick fix.
   • If you think you might have an addiction, Choose the Best Alcohol and Drug Rehab Treatment and do activities that don’t revolve around addictive substances.

Healing with Your Body

1. Use relaxation. Because trauma often results in hyper vigilance and alertness, you may want to practice relaxation every day for 30 minutes to cope with daily stressors. This can help you deal with stressors as they occur without letting them accumulate. Relaxation can also help you with anxiety, depression, and stabilizing your moods.
   • If you don’t know where to start, try yoga, qi gong, or meditation. You can also listen to calming music, write in a journal, or take a daily walk with your dog.
2. Practice mindfulness. Connect to the present moment through your senses, especially if you’re feeling threatened. Mindfulness involves bringing focused and non-judgmental awareness to your experience. It can help a threatened mind or body come into a calm, non-reactive state. If you feel triggered by something, engage in some mindful practices to bring you back to the present moment.
   • There are lots of ways to practice mindfulness. You can focus on one sense at a time (like listening intently or visually scanning the room in detail) or focus on your breathing.
3. Start exercising. Though trauma is largely psychological, some physical interventions can help you get “unstuck.” Do something that requires full-body movements such as walking, running, swimming, or dancing. Notice the sensations in your body as you move and put your focus and awareness fully onto your body.
   • Some sports to try that involve your full body and require concentration include boxing, rock climbing, and martial arts.
4. Take care of your health. While you’re healing, make sure you’re taking care of your body. Get plenty of sleep (7-9 hours each night), eat healthy foods, and live a healthy lifestyle. Keeping on top of your physical health can help you deal with stress and help with feelings of anxiety and depression.
   • Stay away from alcohol and drugs as ways to cope. Prioritize your healing by staying committed to healthy living habits.

Getting Support

1. Find a safe place. When recovering from trauma, it’s imperative to have a place that feels safe. Your body may be on high alert when you’re out and about, so have a place you feel entirely safe. This might be your bedroom, a restaurant, or a parent’s or friend’s house. The important thing is that you feel safe and not threatened.
   • You may also want to have activities that make you feel safe at your safe place. This might be singing, dancing, talking to someone, or writing in a journal.
2. Spend time with friends and family. You don’t have to talk about the trauma, but surround yourself with people who love and support you. If you feel like talking, share your feelings with someone, preferably face-to-face. If you don’t feel like talking, be around people who make you feel supported and you can talk to if you want to.
   • Lean on people who will listen and care about you. If there are friends who often drain you, take some time away and focus on being with the people who add to your life positively.
3. See a therapist. A therapist can help you navigate through healing from a trauma. They can help you make sense of your feelings, develop a safety plan, and create some coping skills to deal with stress. Many therapists use cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) or trauma-focused CBT as a primary treatment method. See a therapist who specializes in treating people with trauma.
   • Find a therapist by calling your insurance provider or by calling your local mental health clinic. You can also obtain a recommendation from a physician or friend.
4. Try EMDR. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a type of therapy that uses eye movements to reprocess and work through a trauma. It helps to “unfreeze’ traumas that may be stuck. It’s especially effective in treating trauma and helping survivors move past their experiences.
   • Find an EMDR therapist by looking online. Make sure that they are qualified to administer EMDR therapy.
5. Join a support group. You might find it comforting to meet with other people who have also experienced a trauma. Joining a support group can help you feel less alone in experiencing the pain that goes along with a trauma. It can also be a place to give and receive support, ask questions, share your story, and get advice.
   • Find a trauma support group in your local community or join an online group.

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