Make a Good Impression on Girls

Many guys complain that women can be hard to impress. But the key is not trying to find the right way to impress; it's making the right impression in the first place.

Steps

  1. Compliment her, but don't overdo it. Think of something positive you can say...and actually mean it! Don't tell her 'I really like your shoes' if she's wearing beat up sneakers! Complimenting her clothes or looks is not a bad idea, but it runs the risk of being predictable. Try to be original, and, if it comes naturally to you, humorous. Don't force it though if you're not a naturally funny guy!
  2. Respect her. Girls hate it when you don't and it's a MAJOR turn off. Give her space, don't put her down and keep your hand to your self. If you don't give the girl her needed space she may get angry at you and start an argument which may lead to a break-up.
  3. Take it slow. Don't automatically flirt, get suggestive, or change the tone of the conversation the minute she thanks you for a compliment or laughs at your jokes. Lots of people can be a bit shy, so if she seems this way don't try to force things. Shy people don't usually dislike other people, they just need a little bit more time and space to get to know you. Watch closely for signs that you may have stepped too far into her 'comfort zone'!
  4. Find out what she's interested in (but seriously, not like a stalker)
  5. People like it when someone is sincerely interested in what they think and say. But if you're not interested don't try to fake it. Listening and encouraging a woman to talk about things that interest her will not only help you to keep the conversation going two ways but will help you figure out if she shares any of your interests in the first place, and might even help you think of an enjoyable activity you could share if you decide to ask her out.
  6. If you really like a woman and you think she likes you as well, go ahead and ask her out but remember, if she says no it's not the end of the world!
  7. If she says yes try to think of something unique and creative to do, but try to make it something that's in public, preferably during the day or on a weekend. We live in a world full of weirdos and she doesn't have any reason to think you're not one of them! Besides, late night dinners carry with them a lot of baggage and unwanted expectations for a lot of people, so it's best to wait until further down the road for that!
  8. Really, just be yourself.
  9. Don't brag, girls hate that. You don't want to make her think you're a self-centered jerk.
  10. It's good to agree with her on things, but if every time she asks your opinion on something you just nod or say "sure", she will either not think you're listening or that you don't care, which you might not, but you don't want to give her that impression. Don't just tell her you agree, tell her why you agree, she will most likely appreciate your response and will know you're listening to her.

Tips

  • Remember, don't act like someone you're not. You can't keep up false impressions forever and you don't want to date someone who's interested in somebody you're not!
  • If you really like her and you're pretty shy, then try to start conversations with her. It might not always work but it's worth a try.
  • It sounds simple, but your best approach is to just go up and talk to her...nothing will likely happen until you do this, and you won't know if it's even worthwhile to get to know someone until you make this first step. Think about what might happen. What is she going to do? Slap you? Run away? Usually, the worst case scenario would be that she tries her best to not be rude. Even in an age of growing gender equality and looser social expectations of gender roles it's still statistically more likely that if you wait around for a woman to come up to you, you may be waiting a long time. And you can bet there are plenty of other guys not waiting around!
  • Don't overdo it, but be a gentleman. Be polite to her and everyone around you. Hold the door for her, keep your tone of voice pleasant, and just show her the best side of you.
  • Try not to act too shy or self-conscious. Many (but not all) women like a guy who's a little shy but too much can come across as just plain geeky and make it really uncomfortable for both of you.
  • If you habitually smoke, drink, or swear try to keep a grip on it. Even if she does any (or all) of these things your ability to exercise a little moderation will keep you from appearing nervous and might even demonstrate a little self-control, which most people find appealing in a person.

Warnings

  • Some girls just won't like you.
  • Be careful of too much physical contact. 'Social touching' such as a hand on the shoulder or her hand during conversation can quickly put some people off.
  • Don't call or approach a woman you're interested in too often or at inappropriate times: she may think you're a stalker!
  • Repeat, if you ask her out and she says no, it's not the end of the world!
  • During or after a date don't assume that she wants you to hug her or kiss her just because you're having a good time together. While you don't have to wait for her to 'make the first move', you should still approach with caution and keep your eyes on how she's acting towards you.
  • Be honest to her, but not too honest! She might think you are mean.

Things You'll Need

  • Clean, stylish, good-fitting clothes that flatter you.
  • A healthy, positive attitude towards her (and towards women in general) as well as a healthy, positive (not cocky or arrogant) attitude towards yourself: You can't make her believe you're worth her time if you don't believe it first!

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