Talk Your Parents into Letting You Have Multiple Piercings

Some parents will be reluctant to let you get pierced up. But if you go about things the right way, they'll come around.

Steps

  1. Be casual about it. Bring the subject up casually, like at a family dinner. For example, say something like, "Hey mom, can you pass the peas? By the way, are those new earrings? Speaking of which, can I get a second hole in my ear?" If you bring it up in passing, it won't seem like as much of a big deal to your parents.
  2. Wait for the no. Be prepared, because you're probably going to get an eye roll or a straight-up "no". Make sure that you expect your parents to say "no", so that way you'll have a backup plan. If they do say yes, be happily surprised.
  3. Tell them why you want it. Just saying "I want a piercing" isn't going to get you very far. Explain to your parents why you want a piercing. Point out the fact that you are young now, and need the opportunity to try new things and find out who you really are. Tell them you love the look of them, its very fashionable, you want to try it out before you have to consider dress code for a career, or tell them it's your way of expressing yourself and showing who you really are.
  4. Work on one parent at a time. If your parents just aren't having the whole piercing thing, try to get one of your parents to see your side of the story. You should probably pick the more easy-going parent. Once you've convinced them to see your side of the story, they can help you convince the other parent.
  5. Use phrases that are hard for your parents to argue about. For example:
    • "I want to be myself, I don't care what people think of me."
    • "I'm growing up, and feel like I need to express myself."
    • "This will make me feel like I'm really getting rewarded for the good things I do."
    • "I will never wear it when I'm in the house." - this last one is fine if you aren't required to have them in all the time.
  6. Phrase it right. Look for key words that will help convince your parents about getting pierced. Use words like please, help, will, myself, me, I, free, decorate, personality, express, who I am, etc. Just be careful not to use them too much and get super-repetitive.
  7. Make it seem as if getting a piercing is an art form. Don't actually use words like 'pierce' too much; use decorate, don't use 'earring'; use ornament, don't use 'like'; use 'love', as if it were your favorite hobby.
  8. Don't bring up your friends. One of the worst and most immature things you could do is say "But Jane's mum let her have piercings, why can't I?".
  9. Avoid getting too angry with your parents. They will not change their mind if you yell at them. This will show a big lack of maturity.
  10. Discuss it with your parents. Discuss the reasons you want to get multiple piercings and be prepared to have to answer questions such as "What are the benefits of getting it?". Make sure to give good, convincing reasons. If your religion is against multiple piercings, then maybe you should stop there.
  11. Practice! Practice what you're going to say right before you ask. If you want, write it down and memorize it, but don't sit there and read off a paper; it looks too rehearsed. Just have a good idea of what you're going to say so that you don't get off-topic or distracted.
  12. Research. The more you know about the piercings you want, the better. Your parents will see that you know exactly what you want, and will see you are very mature. Also, the more you know about the piercing you want, the more you'll know if you really want it for sure or if it isn't the right piercing for you.
  13. Use your own money. If you can, find out the price of the piercing you want, save up your money, and offer to pay for it yourself.
  14. Be safe. A big worry for parents is having their kids get pierced at unsafe places with uncertified piercers. Look at certified piercers in your area and figure out where you want to get pierced. The cheapest places aren't usually the best option.
  15. Be willing to talk and make compromises. If your parents say no, discuss with them why they aren't comfortable with it, and try to find some middle ground: For example you could have a second hole in each ear instead of a nose ring. If you're mature about it and show that you're willing to consider their concerns, they may be more open to discussion.
  16. Tell them in what age they had their ears pierced. Be very careful of what you say think about it! Don't ask every day. They might say no

Tips

  • If they say no you can say "Can you please think about it?"
  • Ask for it as a reward for getting good grades, doing your chores, etc. or as a birthday/Christmas present.
  • Know your parents, and their moods and respond accordingly.
  • One-on-one meetings are good, although, if that's not an option, a car ride or during breakfast is a good time; it makes them think it through the rest of the day.
  • Never give up! It may take 6 months to talk your parent[s] into letting you get a piercing.
  • If you hear no, don't talk back, but maybe drop a phrase like "I'm sorry you don't feel as I do."
  • If you have an aunt or uncle who is into piercings, try getting them to talk your parents into it.
  • Ask politely
  • If your parents aren't familiar with piercings and that is making them unsure take them to get it done with you or get them to check out the place beforehand.
  • Remember that when you turn 18 (16 in the UK) your parents cannot control how many piercings you should and shouldn't get, so if they say no, just wait a few years.
  • Get siblings on board.
  • A good idea is to start with piercings that aren't as hardcore as others, such as your ears, side of nose or belly button, before moving on to more "serious" piercings, such as tongue, eyebrow, septum etc. Build up slowly.
  • It may really suck but if your parents say no then there's really not much you can do but accept it and wait until you're older.
  • Ask your parents if they want any piercings. You could all get pierced together!
  • Sometimes parents aren't so relaxed about piercings because in their day; it was a thing that "bad kids" had. Do everything in your right to let them know that times have changed.
  • If your parents say no for the reason that they don't like piercings personally offer to wear clear jewelry or take them out when at home/around your family and then wear visible jewelry when you're with friends.
  • Threats sometimes work, depending on what type of persons your parents are. Things like "I'll pierce myself if you don't take me to get pierced!" may or may not motivate your parents to give you want you wanted. One thing to watch out for is that they might try to play concerned and do "sleeping beauties" with you, which means not letting you near sharp objects such as scissors, needles, knives etc. They could even go to the school and only let a teacher cut things out for you or cut up your food for you, and that would be worse than your parents not letting you have a second hole.
  • If your parents repeatedly say no, you can try to write an essay that might convince them, do extra chores, make dinner, etc.

Warnings

  • If you see your parents are getting angrier and angrier, just back off for a few days to a week and then politely try again.
  • Make sure you want the piercing for a long time, because you normally have to last with piercings for a few years.
  • A bad idea is to go behind your parents' back and do a DIY or get a friend to do your piercing if they are not a professional. This could go very badly and end up with many complications such as infection, migration, a wonky or misplaced piercing, trauma, scarring and many others, not to mention the hygiene and pain factors! It's better to wait 6 months and get your parents permission to go to a professional than to get pissed off and do it straight away yourself in the school bathrooms with a sewing needle.
  • If you are getting the piercing as a reward for good behaviour/good grades or something similar be aware that if you mess up or get in trouble later your parents may make you take it out.
  • Be prepared to hear "no".
  • Make sure your parents don't get too mad at you or else they will just know say "no" over and over again.
  • Parents may get mad.

Things You'll Need

  • Money for piercings, jewelry, and cleaning solutions.

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