Tell a Guy You Like Him by Email
You want to tell a guy you like him, but saying it face to face is too embarrassing, or he lives in another country, or you're too afraid. Send him an email; this way there is a way out of it if he doesn't react positively.
Steps
Before You Start
- Consider the pros and cons of admitting your love over email. While you don't have to tell him face to face, you miss out on watching his reaction, as well as his facial expression. Although you save yourself from potential embarrassment, you don't gain as much experience, and you won't be able to apply any new lessons to your life.
- Realize that using email is an unromantic, cowardly method. Your crush's heart may not beat as quickly when he reads your confession on a glaring screen instead of hearing it from you in person. If you're far too shy to speak directly to him, contemplate the choice of sending him a letter.
- Remember this method can be tricky if you don't already have his email address. Also, it'll be a little abrupt and awkward if you suddenly confess your love for him when you barely talk to him over email.
Composing the Email
- Start with a rough draft. Using a bullet point form, make several important points that you want to touch upon in your email. While there are so many feelings blooming inside of you, he can't handle all of them at once. Push away the unnecessary details, and focus on getting your story across.
- Read over your points. Throw some out and/or add one or two more until you feel satisfied with them. However, remember that less is more. You don't want to scare him off, but you don't want to send him a stiff, short email that doesn't express much.
- Wrestle your points into sentences. Once you have an idea of what you're going to say, form your ideas into words. As you write, weave a confident air into your phrases, sounding as if you know what you're talking about. This will potentially impress him, and you will appear as though you will still love yourself no matter what.
- Avoid coming off as hesitant or uncertain about your feelings. He'll refuse to attach himself to you if he believes that you'll change your mind about him later.
- Near the end of the email, let your crush know that you understand if he doesn't feel the same way. Request that you still be friends, if he is comfortable for that.
- Read over your work, and make any necessary changes. Sometimes, minor adjustments and a little rearranging of words will do wonders and help your sentences flow. Also, keep an eye out for grammatical and spelling errors. While a typo here and there is acceptable, a nearly incomprehensible email will only cause annoyance to prick at him, and he may not take the time to be a translator.
- Separate your email into easily readable paragraphs. While you don't want a million tiny paragraphs, you want to avoid hauling a huge chunk of words over to your crush. If you feel that your email is too long, shorten your story and adjust your sentences so that you still get your point across.
- Avoid being too wordy, and find different words to express your feelings.
- Use simple words that won't send your crush scrambling for a dictionary, but don't limit your vocabulary too much. While sounding intelligent, avoid coming off as a know-it-all.
- Have a trusted friend or adult read over your email for more support and potentially good advice. If you feel uncomfortable about revealing who you like, erase any names from the email before allowing someone to read it. This way, they realize what you're doing, but they still don't know who your crush is.
- Send your email to your crush with confidence. Don't worry about his response; you gained enough courage to complete a brave feat, and you don't need anyone's opinion to tell you who you are. Note that you may not receive an immediate response. Sometimes, it could take up to days for your crush to write out a reply, especially if he isn't sure how to react.
- Before you send your email, check to make sure that you've got the right address. Otherwise, you may find yourself entangled in an awkward situation, and you may have to explain yourself.
Tips
- Make sure he is not someone who would go and tell everyone else about your feelings. Make sure you can trust him.
- Send the email on a Friday or before a holiday. That way, he may have some time to digest the information. You also don't have to see him the next day.
- Make sure that you two are good friends before approaching him with an email. If you barely know him, he won't know what to think about you.
Warnings
- If your crush answers negatively, do not say that it was a friend. He will be able to see through your lie, and he may lose any respect for you.
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