Tell if You Genuinely Like Someone

They've caught your eye, and you kind of like the way they dress and move. You're just not sure if you like them to the point of asking them out. This article will help you decide if you genuinely like that someone.

10 Second Summary

1. Get to know them better, even if it's just as friends.
2. Ask yourself why you would like them. Is it because they're hot, or for a deeper reason?
3. Consider how often you think or talk about them. Does your heart flutter when you do?
4. Think about touch. How often do you try to be near them? What do you feel when they touch you?
5. Go with your gut instinct. If you feel butterflies win your gut whenever you see them, then you most likely do like them!

Steps

  1. Get to know them better. This is not a task only to be accomplished through dating. The more you get to know them, the more you can tell if you see them as a friend or something more. Talking and doing fun activities with the person will reveal this more and more.
    • How do they act when things go right? Do they brag and enjoy winning at the expense of others, or do they appreciate other's efforts as well?
    • How do they respond when things go wrong? Do they shout-n-pout, or do they figure out how to make it right again?
  2. Ask yourself why you would like them. What makes them stand out from the others? There are many physically attractive and smart people out there. But if you see something beyond looks and smarts that really catches your attention, you've marked this person as unique and probably like them.
    • The most attractive person might be thoroughly ugly on the inside, whereas a plain person in the crowd could have the personality that's most compatible with yours.
  3. Consider how often you think about them. If you find yourself thinking about this person several times a day, and they are happy thoughts and maybe your heart beats a little faster, then you are most definitely in like.
  4. Know how often you laugh at their jokes. When you like someone, you will find yourself laughing at things even if they aren't that funny. This is a natural attempt to make them feel appreciated.
  5. Count how often you talk about them. If you've had one conversation between you and this person who is stuck in your head and you can't stop telling people about it, this means it was important to you, and you probably like the person.
  6. Consider how much you try to be near them. If you've planned your walking speed to catch a glimpse of him or her as many times of the day as possible, there is a good reason for that. Could it be that you like them?
  7. Check for butterflies. Do you get butterflies when you see them? You know, that nice but funny feeling in your stomach? You probably like them already, because they make you feel good without even talking. Go ask them out!
  8. Measure the voltage when you touch. Think about how you feel if you touch him or her, by accident or on purpose, and if you're still thinking about brushing shoulders several hours ago in school, then that is a special thought and you probably like him or her.
  9. Try to get them out of your thoughts. Do something you really like doing, like biking or snowboarding, and you are still thinking about him or her, you probably like him or her.
  10. Ask them out. If you feel you're ready for a relationship, and are confident enough for a positive response, then just go ahead and ask them out. If you're unsure of their feelings for you, ask! Be patient with their response, and always try to understand them from their point of view.

Tips

  • Always be yourself. Don't act like someone else because you think he might be more attracted to you because then he won't know the real you!
  • Having feelings for a guy or girl is very normal and is a very happy and beneficial part of life. But it is important not to become obsessed with the person. Try doing things by yourself or with friends.
  • Don't throw yourself at him. If he likes you then he might flirt with you too. So think before you do anything drastic.
  • Be sure not to confuse obvious flirting with a friendly attitude. A lot of guys, especially those with a lot of girls/women relatives in their life, are just friendly by nature and you definitely don't want to get the wrong impression! Try to see how this boy interacts with other girls before finally deciding if he's flirting or just simply being a good friend.
  • When you first get to know somebody, try not to make it clear that you are trying to see what you really think about them. If you find out you don't really like them after all, you could still end up leading them on through the process and then their feelings could get hurt if they really like you. Be honest.
  • Try not to be too obvious. It could possibly make or break a friendship.
  • You may never be 100% sure that you like someone even if you get to know them a lot.
  • If you've become more sure you like them, try flirting a little and dropping hints. They will let you know through body language etc. what they think of you, and you can both take it from there.
  • During puberty, preteens and teens may have something called infatuation. That means you have that fluttery "love" feeling, but it's only there because of puberty. Not because you like someone. So be careful.
  • Always try to communicate with the guy/girl that you like. Leave them little messages through text or e-mail, and see if they reply to you.
  • If you ever want to tell someone that you like them, go for it, because you will most likely regret it later. It's best if you tell them in person, but an alternative method is writing a letter or using social media but be careful, you don't want to seem impersonal.
  • If he/she likes you they might flirt with other people to see how you react. Play it cool and show them that you don't need them even though you want them.
  • Remember, you can like somebody but not love them—and you can also love somebody, but not like them. It's confusing, but it happens.
  • If you really like someone and are sure of it but too scared to ask him or her out,just ask for a private word.
  • Even if you are not sure whether they like you or not, ask them out, you've got nothing to lose.
  • Don't talk about your ex or your previous crush(if you have any) you might give him a wrong idea thinking that you are comparing him with another guy. Be supportive. Give him your everything but do not be too clingy it will make him feel disgusted.
  • Be confident and ask him/her if they like you for real or are they just playing with your feelings.
  • Guys there is a difference between infatuation and forced happiness. Don't think about it too much and don't try to force yourself to be compatible to them.

Warnings

  • If you have some important things you need to focus on at school, work, etc, don't drive yourself crazy thinking about your crush.
  • Don't have someone ask for you. If the girl/guy truly likes you, he/she still might say no (think: if someone came up to you and asked whether or not you liked a person, would you say yes?). If they truly doesn't like you, you may end up feeling chagrined and isolated.
  • If you do like him/her, don't go overboard trying to get their attention all the time.
  • Don't tell too many people that you like someone. This can lead to cataclysmic drama among other things. You'll both be left awkward and at least somewhat hurt in the end.
  • Don't end a friendship with someone after you find out you don't really like them. If you've built a strong friendship only to throw it away so easily, the person will feel like a discarded experiment.
  • If you do like them, but they don't feel the same, then don't end the friendship; but don't push them either.
  • When you like someone, you may see their actions in a new light and convince yourself they like you. Being led on can lead to a bad heartbreak, so be careful. If you're unsure, there are a few related wikihows for this.

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