Turn a Guy on Through Text Message

Do you have a crush on a guy, but you aren't really sure how to take the next step? Or maybe you're in a long-distance relationship with your boyfriend? Regardless of your situation, you can use texts to get him thinking about you. It's easier than you think! A few well-written texts will get you far in his book.

Steps

  1. Start out with a casual greeting. You can open with something simple like "Hey" or "Hi.". Alternatively, step it up with a subtle compliment and say something like "Hey handsome!"
  2. Wait for a response. If he's interested, he'll respond and you can continue putting yourself out there. If not, move on!
  3. Ask what he's doing. Starting the conversation by asking what he's doing gives you an opening to talk about what you're doing in a second. For now, though, text something like "So... what are you up to tonight?" or "How's it going?"
    • If you feel bold, fish for a compliment. Instead of asking what he's doing, say something like, "I hope I'm not interrupting anything, but I miss you! Hope that's ok. :)". If he likes you, he'll take it as an opportunity to let you know he loves it when you text him.
  4. Use what you're doing as an opening. Once he asks what you're up to (or you're just ready to tell him), use it as a way to start flirting. For instance:
    • If it's late and you're getting ready to go to sleep, tell him you're lying in bed but it's harder to fall asleep without someone to cuddle with.
    • If it's cold, tell him you're in bed FREEZING, or some variation of that. It's a perfect opening for talking about him "warming you up".
    • If you're not doing anything particular, tell him you're "...distracted thinking about this really hot guy...".
  5. See if he gets the hint. If he does, he'll probably text back saying something about how he wishes he could be there to "help you fall asleep/warm you up," or he'll slyly ask you who you're thinking about.
    • If he doesn't get it, don't give up! You'll just have to be a little more obvious. For instance, if you're talking about being cold, say something like, "If you were here, maybe I wouldn't have this problem... ;)". That should get him thinking about being with you.
  6. Talk about sensory details. If you have him thinking/texting about being with you, now's the time to get him fantasizing about seeing you. Try these areas:
    • Discuss what you'd do with him. This can be vague (like talking about spooning in general), or specific (like talking about how you'd like to slowly kiss him).
    • Talk about what you're wearing (whether or not it is what you're actually wearing; he's not there to tell the difference, right?). Again, you can be subtle ("I wish you could see what I have on right now...") or more specific, like discussing your favorite thing to wear to bed.
    • Hint at what you might do with him in the future. Dropping hints about doing the things you've talked about the next time you see him is a surefire turn-on. (Just be sure that's what you actually want before you promise anything.)
  7. End the conversation while he's still interested. Don't let the texting get stale before you leave; bow out while it's still sexy and interesting and you'll be on his mind for the rest of the day/night.

Tips

  • Late at night is a good time to text the guy you like. He shouldn't be distracted, he'll have time to text, and you'll be the first thing on his mind in the morning.
  • Be yourself. Your texting will affect the way he looks at you as a person.
  • When a guy randomly says "Bye" when your texting, just casually say "Bye", and when and if he starts texting you again, never ask where he was and why he left. If he asks what you were doing, even if you weren't doing anything, make it sound like you were.
  • Be casual, and don't annoy him by sending him blank texts if he's not replying; he's probably just thinking about what to reply.
  • If a guy likes you he will take the time to text you back. If he doesn't respond don't pester him. It's his choice to respond to you or not.
  • Don't be too out there unless your ready for that kind of relationship.
  • If he seems uncomfortable with this type of conversation, change the subject, you can always try again later!
  • Keep it short and sweet. Don't drag the texting on for hours, and try to keep the attention focused on him and yourself. When you feel the conversation starting to stray, end it and wait for next time.
  • Avoid sending multiple texts before he can reply. Also don't be to forward.
  • Don't send heaps of messages in a row before he can answer. This will be too much pressure on him. Maybe send one text saying "Hey, where did u go, sexy? ;)", and leave it at that.
  • Don't be too forward with someone you don't know well. That's just plain creepy.

Warnings

  • Think carefully before you send explicit pictures of yourself. Not only can it be construed as distributing child pornography in some jurisdictions (if you're underage), it puts you at a serious emotional risk. It's better not to send that kind of pictures to anyone, because you're never sure who gets his hands on your crush's phone.

Things You'll Need

  • Cell phone
  • Crush's number
  • Confidence
  • The right Attitude
  • A crush

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