Act Like a Tomboy

So you've really made up your mind about being a tomboy. Get rid of all your girly-girl clothes and pretty pink dresses. Not feeling the need to be glamorous or cute? Wanting to be one of the guys and to play sports with the best of them? Then it's time to make good on your plans and start acting like a tomboy.

Steps

  1. Make friends with boys and other tomboys. Start hanging around the crowd you want to become part of. Don't be afraid to talk to them. They will soon start to be your friends!
    • Once you meet some boys or tomboys, they'll introduce you to their friends, too, and your opportunities for tomboy hobbies and social events will grow.
  2. Try out some more tomboy type hobbies, like skateboarding and video games. After school, you and your boy and tomboy friends can go to the skate park and have skating contests.
    • Play video games like Minecraft, Call of Duty, Mario Kart, etc. Practice at home or look up tips so you can keep up.
    • Don't forget about TV, too. Chances are they'll ask you if you watched something like Naruto, Fear Factor, Monster Quest, etc. It's optional, but you could try it.
  3. Get into sports. Board sports are good (skateboarding, snowboarding, surfing, body boarding), but if the guys you hang out with aren't into that, don't be afraid to try out paintball or football. And make sure you get good at it, but don't brag. It means you'll have a chance to hang out with them at the skate park/on the slopes/at the beach and join in with them rather than watching from the sidelines.
    • Furthermore, you'll be able to discuss the sport with them, and last of all as guys like girls who aren't afraid to get a little scuffed around the edges and don't cry over a broken nail.
    • Run a lot! You don't want to be left in the dust when you're in gym and running laps or racing with friends who are boys. They might just get a little surprise when a tomboy passes them!
  4. Maintain a sense of humor. If they tease you, laugh along with them, or play it up with sarcasm. You can pretend to be mad at them, this can come off as "sibling-y" conflict. Guys like it when a girl has a sense of humor.
  5. Don't be afraid to get down and dirty. Be at ease with grass stains on your jeans and scuffed up shoes. That's a real tomboy right there!
  6. Dress the part. The way you act is the most important, though you can still be a tomboy and look nice. But typical tomboys wear dark, hardcore colors like black, silver, navy blue, blood red, any type of blue and dark green. Stripes can also be cool, but don't overdo it; and also, don't forget white! Remember most guys wear short sleeves that go down to their elbow but if you can't find any like that then just get some non-tight shirts.
    • Avoid wearing soft and powdery colors like they're the plague. No light pink and purple. But you don't always have to wear bold, dark colors such as navy blue, forest green, brown, and black. Camouflage is a good pattern to stick with.
  7. Choose clothes that allow you to become physically active at the drop of a hat. Jeans, T-shirts, and trainers are always a good bet. High-heels, skirts, dresses and 'pretty little pink hair clips' are no-nos if you plan on doing anything physical that day. Before you leave the house, ask yourself: "If someone invited me to play football, would I have to turn them down because of the way I'm dressed?" If the answer is yes, consider something else.
    • Wear some boyish clothes like jeans or camouflage pants. Or just baggy pants. For jeans don't go with the overly "pencil thin" jeans, try out the guy's slim fit or the "boyfriend look" jeans.
    • For shorts, don't go too short, and try cutting up some jeans to the knee or just above. Don't be scared to wander into the guys' section.
    • For a shirt, you may want to buy some new stuff, like some very baggy t-shirts (with boyish designs if you like).
    • You might want to wear skateboard shoes; if you do be sure to buy from a good quality brand.
  8. Learn how to talk. Don't gush or talk in a really high pitched voice. Find the right volume and pitch, and don't mumble. Make sure you sound confident. Swearing doesn't mean you're a tomboy, either, so don't overdo it. It can sound cheap and fake if overused. You don't have to use "dude" or "man" or "awesome", but if you think it helps you and you're comfortable with it, go ahead.
  9. Keep calm and be brave. It helps if you don't get freaked out at small things and try to seem brave even if you don't feel it. You soon will!
  10. Consider your hair options. For hair, go ahead and cut it short, but be ready to be called "he." If you don't want to do a boy's cut or a simple chin-length cut, wear a simple low pony-tail or plait.
    • Bangs are cool, so don't feel like you have to clip them up. Long hair doesn't mean you're girly, either. If you want to get your hair cut, don't get it too short unless it really suits you. Make sure it's styled properly. A layered cut is great, because it makes hair easier to manage if it's thick, and it looks just awesome when you put it in a ponytail.
  11. Appreciate that you are now "one of the guys." Hopefully, they will accept you more easily as a friend than with girly girls whom they tease.
  12. Remember to be yourself. Avoid acting like someone else. Don't act like a tomboy just because it attracts guys; it should reflect your personality! Being a tomboy does not mean that you can't wear girly clothes from time to time. Stick with what makes you comfortable!

Tips

  • You can still have girly girl friends. Not all your friends have to be boys.
  • Don't try too hard. If you constantly say stuff like "Dude, I hate girly girls" and change very quickly, you'll look like a total poser and nobody will want to hang out with you. Change slowly, and just act how you feel. Besides, if you are comfortable being a tomboy, you won't have any problems with people who want to be girly-girls. Everyone should be who they are, and if you don't like someone who is girly, don't point them out and say you hate them because their girly.
  • Don't be a tomboy because you have a "crush" on a boy. Be yourself.
  • Get used to hearing the people around you belch and make other unpleasant noises and smells with their bodies. Odds are, you'll spend a lot of time surrounded by testosterone, which doesn't always favor good hygiene and etiquette. However, have some self-respect. Don't do it yourself
  • You don't have to be super athletic! Don't pretend to be something you're not.
  • Ask your boy/tomboy friends if they have played any video/computer games like Roblox, Minecraft ect.
  • Avoid high-pitched screams when you're startled or scared. Tomboys are distinctly female, but are tough enough to enjoy what boys enjoy. Some guys like it though, when you have a funny reaction.
  • If a guy laugh just because you're hanging out with another doesn't mean you need to stop hanging out with them.
  • If you are a tomboy you might want to change your name to a boy one. That's if you want to. But I suggest you should.
  • Don't force yourself to constantly be a guy and only hang out with boys. Chill with the girls as well, and don't rely solely on males.
  • Dress not to far part and don't be afraid to be able to get involved with the girls that you are friends with.

Warnings

  • Don't just ditch your old friends just because of your new lifestyle as you can be a tomboy and still hang out with girls. Explain you just like being a tomboy or lead an athletic lifestyle and aren't into girly things.
  • Your parents may get upset, particularly your mum. If she's really girly and likes hanging out with you, she may be upset you're changing. Don't worry, but just explain you're changing but you're still the same person.
  • This can be a hard lifestyle. You'll have to take girly-girls make fun of you. Best thing to do is come up with a witty response and they'll either leave you alone or keep pushing at you. Just ignore them.
  • Just because you're a tomboy doesn't mean that you have to forget your personal hygiene but you don't have to spend hours in the bathroom every morning. Shower at least once a day. Wear deodorant and keep yourself clean.
  • Sometimes and for some people it will be hard for boys to accept who you've changed into and it may take a while before you're in the "boys' group." You will want to know that you may need to be prepared to be a nobody for a little while. Try to hang out with your old friends until then.
  • Some people may stereotype you as a lesbian if you dress in male clothes, and if you that are older, say in your teens. If you're not, correct them politely, and if you are, just say "Yeah, so what?"
  • Don't be flat out rude to girly girls. It makes you out to be a jerk.

Things You'll Need

  • Tomboy friends to help you on your way
  • Some good guy friends who you can have fun with
  • Sports equipment and supplies for tomboyish hobbies
  • Tomboy-inspired clothing

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