Ask a Girl to the Movies
There are many ways to ask a girl out. However, asking a girl to the movies is different than asking her to a dinner date. Movie theaters are dark, quiet, and sometimes seedy, so if she hardly knows you, she may be reluctant. If you're specifically aiming to watch a movie with her, approach the matter with tact (and smarts).
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Steps
- Ask her what kinds of movies she's seen, which are her favorites, or what's the last movie she saw. This is a good conversation starter that can ease into your asking her to see a movie with you. You also need to know the genres of movies that girls usually appreciate.
- Say something like, "Hey, are you interested in going to the movies with me and a few friends?" While not being too obvious, you'll make her feel like you really want to go with Her, in particular.
- Schedule to go to the movies with a group of people, preferably including someone she knows, if you don't know each other that well.
- Buy tickets to a movie you were talking about, playing at time you both agreed before. If you need to change the time, ask her first.
- Agree to the meeting place, and be there on time, with friends, if she expects them.
- Have a small talk in the lobby before the movie, and ask her if she would like popcorn or a drink.
- If you need to use the restroom, excuse yourself; chances are, she needs to go too. You don't want to miss important scene in a movie, and you show you care.
- When you find your isle in the theatre, let her go first, offer to hold popcorn and drinks (if any), take your seat, make yourself comfortable, ask her if she is comfortable, turn off your cell phone, have another small conversation before the movie starts, or watch the previews, and then simply enjoy the show.
- Remain a gentleman, and she will likely give you a second date, or accept to go for a drink after the movie.
- When the movie is over, turn on your cell-phones, ask her what she liked in the movie, and listen. You will need this for later.
- Wait few minutes for 'stampede' to thin out, and safely walk out together. When you reach the lobby, ask her if she needs to use the restroom, and wait for her.
- Offer to take her out for something to eat or drink, and talk about the movie. You can start conversation by mentioning what she said earlier about the movie.
- Make sure she gets home safely, and on time, or let her leave with her friends.
- Have fun!
Tips
- Show initiative and flexibility. Be organized.
- Always ask her what kind of movie she would like to see. Don't assume it's a "chick-flick".
- Pay attention, and try to remember those points from the movie that will help you build the conversation later, and let you present your values without being too obvious. Your praises and critiques should be sincere, but let her voice her opinion first, so you know what not to say.
- Make sure to book your tickets early. If you wait to the last moment, theatre might be fully booked, until next showing...
- Have a specific movie in mind, when you make a suggestion, plus a backup, in case she’s seen the first one, or isn’t interested in it.
- Avoid anything too serious, intellectual, or depressing. Go for something light and fun. Similarities and laughter will bring you closer to a second date, while differences and gloom would not.
- Movies are always a nice lead-up to a dinner, and dinner is a nice lead-up to second dates.
- Buy tickets and popcorn. If you want to show off a little, buy drinks. If the movie is a long one, avoid drinks until dinner.
- Dress smartly.
- Although going to the movies might seem popular, if you are in your teen years, and this is your first date, you should probably decide on a different location. Besides few witty comments, you can't really hold engaging conversation during the movie. Try going to a coffee shop or similar public place, where you can talk to her and get to know more about her before deciding to spend money on tickets.
- If you are watching the movie after you got to know each other, you may hold her hand first, look at her, offer a smile and then keep watching the movie; she will quickly let you know if this is a Date, or "just-a-movie-with-a-friend", avoiding embarrassment if you try wrapping your arm around her shoulder and she's not into it.
- Before you ask her out get to know her a bit. After you know her better find some signs that she likes you. If you find signs, go for it!
Warnings
- Don't put your arm around her unless she leans towards you!
- Don't freak her out with weird comments or unwanted touch.
- Don't be discouraged, though. Be your best, and of many girls you'll meet in your life, some will want to know you better. One of them will even love you back.
- Just because she agreed to see the movie with you, and it's dark, doesn't mean she agreed to your advances. Show some maturity, or grow up first!
- Don't just show her the tickets and say: "I've got an extra ticket. I thought I was going to be able to get a friend to go with me, but that didn't work out, and I'm dying to watch this movie. Want to go?"... It will make her feel like she's your last resort and it's very likely that she won't accept the offer even if she was interested. Or, if she is not interested in you, she might accept the offer just to see the free movie!
- If the woman you are pursuing thinks you are not her type, don't push it. You would be surprised what can get you in jail these days.
- Make sure that if you do put your arm around her, she is still comfortable.Otherwise, she might be sitting for a couple hours in an awkward position, not being able to enjoy the movie, and not giving you a second date.
