Attract Better Men

It’s tempting to give up on dating if you can’t seem to find any good men. When you keep dating dud after dud, it’s exhausting to keep trying. However, the key to attracting better men starts with you. If you can change the relationship you have with yourself and raise your dating standards, you’ll be attracting wonderful men in no time.

Steps

Being The Kind Of Person You Want To Attract

1. Portray the qualities you seek in a man. If you want a happy-go-lucky, physically fit, educated man, you should work on being a happy-go-lucky, physically fit, educated woman. You need to become the type of person you want to attract, first and foremost. Birds of a feather flock together, so be the kind of person you want to flock with!
   • Not only will this attract the right kind of men, but working on yourself will also increase your self-confidence.
   • A good rule of thumb is to sporadically “check yourself,” and decide if you would want a man who is doing what you’re doing. In other words, if you’re lying on the couch eating Twinkies and feeling sorry for yourself, decide if you want a man lying on his couch doing the same thing. You’d probably rather have a man who is out, doing something he loves, and feeling great.
2. Carry yourself with confidence. If you act like you deserve a great man, you will attract great men. This does not mean that you should turn up your nose at every man who you deem unworthy, but rather be picky about who you accept on a romantic level. Be kind, and carry yourself with self-assurance and poise. If you don’t act like you deserve a better man, you probably won’t get one.
   • If you carry yourself like the prize that you are, you will be seen as a prize. The best kind of men will be willing to work for you.
3. Invest in yourself. Take care of yourself, practice self-love daily, and pamper yourself when you have no one else doing it for you. By taking care of yourself, you’re ensuring that you feel great. When you feel great, you’ll ooze a self-confidence and love that is irresistible to good men. If you are investing in yourself, you’ll attract men that want to invest in you as well.
4. Be yourself. Imagine falling in love with a man, only to find out a couple months later that he is not the man he pretended to be. It’s not fun, is it? When you want to attract an authentic man, you need to be authentic yourself. Don’t pretend to be a person that you aren’t, because you won’t be able to keep it up forever.
   • By showing your true colors you’ll also immediately weed out the men who wouldn’t be interested in the real, genuine you. If you love to tell cheesy jokes and order two desserts, you might as well do it on the first date!

Upping Your Standards

1. Decide your dating “non-negotiables,” and don’t waver. When you’ve dated duds in the past, you probably found yourself compromising for what you’d accept from them. At first, it seems perfectly fine to overlook certain things they lacked, or make excuses for lackluster behavior. Stop doing this! If you want a better man, stop making excuses for them. Understand and remember what you really, truly, deeply want, and don’t accept less.
   • Note that this doesn’t mean you should reject any man who isn’t a billionaire with a supermodel face and an 8 pack. It means that you have every right to hold out for a man with a stable job, an active lifestyle, a generous spirit, and a sense of humor.
   • It’s OK to be picky. There are millions of men in this world, and you can and will find someone who has everything you’re looking for, if they are realistic expectations.
2. Make yourself available to the best kinds of men. If you want a man who spends his time volunteering, you need to get involved with volunteering. If you really want a guy who shares your faith, you need to be attending religious or spiritual events. While falling in love can feel like magic, use logic to set yourself up to find it. Increase your odds of finding a great man by spending time where they do.
3. Create your own independent, fulfilling life. If you are happily single and satisfied, you don’t need a man to complete you. When you don’t need a man, you won’t settle for just any man who comes along. By staying busy and following your own passions, you’ll naturally up your standards. You’ll only accept a man into your life that will add to it, not fill some sort of void.
   • Don’t be so fiercely independent that you refuse to open yourself up to love. It’s important that you can be content and satisfied on your own, but be careful not to completely block yourself off from receiving love.

Avoiding Red Flags

1. Learn from your past relationships. If you want to attract better men, you can’t repeat the mistakes of your past relationships. Instead of mourning over the time you wasted on less amazing men, take a lesson from it. If you want a different type of man, you have to seek out a different type of man.
   • If you never had good luck meeting good men at bars, stop trying to meet men at bars. If you’ve all of your past failed relationships are with bad boys, don’t date bad boys.
2. Listen to your gut. When your intuition says to run, don’t ignore it. When you meet the right man, you shouldn’t feel troubled or apprehensive. Don’t ignore your instinct. Every day that you waste with the wrong man is a day that you miss out meeting a better one. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself and walk away.
3. Ditch anyone who doesn’t respect your boundaries. This is a no-brainer and is absolutely non-negotiable. Good men will never, under any circumstance, pressure you into doing something. In fact, the best kind of men will admire the fact that you know your own boundaries and self-worth and will speak up when you don’t feel right about something.
   • If you find yourself having to repeatedly say “no,” he is not the kind of man you want. Move along, and find yourself a better man!

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