Be an Independent Girl
You feel stuck to your parents, or your friends and that really bothers you?! Follow these steps.
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Steps
- First you should know who you are and where you belong, this takes time, don't push yourself into being someone you're not, instead take time to get to know yourself. For example, if you like one band/singer, don't pretend to like Justin Bieber because everyone else does.
- Speak openly about your tastes, music, fashion, boys, girls, whatever, don't hide behind other people's views. Wait a second though, there's a but. Don't be rude about it! Respecting doesn't mean agreeing.
- Try to find a hobby or interest that you enjoy and are good at, it builds self esteem and gives you stuff to talk about. It's also a way to make new friends who have the same interests as you!
- Don't ditch friends or desperately try to make new friends, being independent means that you don't cling. Just be yourself and new friends will come to you, and old friends can leave if they don't like it.
- Establish your own doctrine and walk into it. For example, make a list of things that makes you YOU and don't compromise your morals. Stand for something or you'll fall for anything.
- Try to build your self esteem by pushing your comfort zones, you'll never grow out of shy you if shy you is kept safe in a cupboard. Do things that make you worry, 'feel the fear and do it anyway' as they say. It doesn't have to be something like sky diving, it could be walking around town on your own, taking a bus on your own for the first time, starting a conversation with a stranger, wearing a tighter fitted top than usual in public.
- Learn how to accept critics and how to face them. If someone bitches behind your back, ignore it unless it's really serious, people will always dig into people they don't understand or are jealous of, it's natural. Just feel pleased you're mature enough for it not to bother you. If someone directly starts something, meet them head on, you're an independent person and you've got guts enough to have discussion about this. If someone gets violent however, obviously use your common sense and leave in a calm and collected manner.
- Realize that you're a completely valid person and that you've got just as much right to be here as the next. Look up the poem 'I am Me' and the Desiderata, 'If' by Rudyard Kipling and even 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' books, all of these are esteem boosters and chunks of things to think about.
- BE YOURSELF! And love that that's who you are.
Tips
- Be yourself, try to find yourself and just play your role.
- You have one life, so try to benefit from it as much as possible
- Avoid possessive people they won't help you to reach your goal.
Warnings
- Don't let critics destroy what you're building just carry on.
- Keep sight of what you want to achieve and don't get sidetracked into negative cliques and unhealthy lifestyles.
- Don't let your new found independence change you too much as a person, you had friends before, ensure you keep them and don't turn into a nasty chatty character.
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