Be Special and Mysterious

An article about how to make the people around you think you are interesting and mysterious. These tips are mostly for guys. Please read this with an open mind, this may reveal some things hard to believe, but just keep reading, the special guys are always mysterious and magnetic.

Steps

  1. Spend much time alone. Usually thinking while leaning against a wall, but you must not look sad or depressed, not happy either, just thoughtful. The trick is to always convey the message that you are a self-sufficient individual that doesn't need attention or approval from anybody. You must learn first to live by your own and love yourself a lot. This crucial step will come off alone if you really are an individual who loves his own being.
  2. Be very quiet. You don't start anything that doesn't need to be started, you don't yell/LOL and you don't get in anybody else's problems. The point is: you don't need attention.
  3. Dress Mysteriously, and of dark colors. Not always black though, but maroon, navy and gray are serious and formidable colors. Wear clothes that don't show too much but are comfortable.
  4. Speak clearly. Never talk about irrelevant things (weather, tv shows) or about your issues or your life (trips, family problems), doing this is an attempt to build rapport with a person, which translates to a need of attention and/or approval. Just stick to what is needed to say and give your opinion only if somebody explicitly ask for it or you know it is relevant to speak up, otherwise keep your mouth shut. However, if some person tries to build rapport with you (starts talking with you), talk to them but keep your opinions to yourself, don't argue, let them talk and you just listen. This is the foundation of being mysterious: they never get to know anything about you.
  5. Never reveal your personal life to anybody, be elusive. If somebody ask, deflect the questions with funny or slight-sarcastic remarks, even the infamous “guess” works here, but without looking like a jerk, you don't want the "jerk" reputation, you are above that. Don´t talk when it is not needed, be quiet, and participate only when asked or really necessary.
  6. Two powerful traits that keeps people interested in you is being unpredictable and contradictory. Get lost for days that nobody knows where have you been, be super smart but never be seen studying or asking for help.
  7. Have something that sets you apart, whether an ability (a talent, being smart, or doing magic tricks) or a piece of clothing, a hair style, etc. That certain something must make you stand out but must be acceptable and natural, kinda an "inborn" trait (not dyeing your hair green or doing a tattoo on your face). It is important that you stress your individuality but always consistent with your "I-don't-need-approval" personality: avoid anything that attracts much attention.
  8. Be polite and calm in any conversation. Never snap at people if they disagree with you. Never yell, look excited or angry while talking with somebody. Never be affected by what a person says to you (be this good or bad).
  9. Look at people directly on their eyes when talking to them and with a piercing or relaxed gaze, but don't stare. This will make you a dominant person and people will respect you. Remember, there is power in the eyes (the soul windows) and a powerful, confident gaze makes you a magnetic person.
  10. Be stoic, always. Stoic means never showing too much of ANY (sad or happy) emotion and having a calming and cool disposition even in difficult or stressing situations. This may intimidate the people around you but it shows that you have your emotions under control and that nothing affects you, also, it will make you seem smart. Stoicism will give you Sprezzatura.
  11. Have charisma, and lots of it. This is a VERY crucial step, without charisma nothing else in this article matters. Charisma comes from the inside, feeling so good with yourself as you are that you don't need approval from the outside, it is an ineffable force that draws people in. And no, you don't need to “smile” or “be kind” to have charisma like those magazines will tell you, Hitler never smiled and he was so charismatic that many people, including generals, businessmen and socialites of all kind threw themselves to his feet. Charisma is neutral, you can be Jesus Christ or Hitler and still have thousands of people willing to be with you and even work for your cause.
  12. Take care of yourself: this shows that you love and respect yourself. Eat healthy, take showers and wear clean clothes, but don't become vain or self-centered, in fact, be well dressed but have that careless untidy look, it will send contradictory signals which is a powerful trait for guys.
  13. Cultivate your intellect in many areas. Yes, intelligence is more powerful than muscles, but never show off, you don't need that.
  14. Find a purpose and stick to it. The magnetic guys ALWAYS have a purpose in their lives and nothing separates them from that path, may it be their career, being the most powerful super-villain, detective or whatever, they stick to it with all their heart and due to this they excel in it, whatever it is.

Tips

  • All of these tips must come off as natural, intrinsic to your personality, if you try to fake something then you will be seen as a fool. Start slowly and gradually be developing. If you think it is difficult or awkward then stop because these tips aren't for you. I repeat, don't change who you are because you want to be mysterious.
  • Let your actions speak for you. Do a nice action from time to time and let the words spread.
  • Investigate on how to have and cultivate a powerful, commanding presence.
  • Never show needy or dependent on any person.
  • Investigate and analyze fictional characters that are considered special like "Dirty" Harry Callahan (Dirty Harry), Gaara (Naruto), Dr. Gregory House (House MD), L (Death Note), Dexter Morgan (Dexter). You will find that they exhibit many of the tips listed in here (with their own twists) and that most of them can be categorized as "Byronic Heroes".
  • Investigate and read about Lord Byron and the Byronic Hero. This type of hero is almost universally considered a special, mysterious person.
  • These tips are not for everybody, don't try to be somebody you're not.
  • From time to time, have a slightly evil gaze, but be careful to not scare people. Lord Byron used his trademark "under look" (slightly turning his head down and then looking up with an kinda powerful gaze, it is said women swoon when he did this). It is not really an evil I-will-kill-you gaze, but more like showing dominance, a piercing gaze with a very slight smile projects extreme amounts of confidence. Be VERY careful with this, don´t do this gaze to a police/criminal/gangster/psycho or he will feel threatened and problems may arise. Also, practice in front of a mirror until you get it, if not done well you may scare people away or even be seen as ridiculous, very few can achieve this effect successfully, but if done well it is powerful.
  • Don't share you own review if the person has not asked for your opinion. Don't be a very tough person. Be nice and free by nature.

Warnings

  • Don't blame or hate the people that get away from you, most of them are just scared of stopping being "normal" if they start hanging out with you. Normality and conformity to standard social behavior brings a sense of security and belonging to these people, keep in mind most people lack self-confidence and are scared of individuality and possible rejections from their peers. Standing out from the crow may seem romantic in a book but in real life is different and even detrimental if you are not confident enough in yourself and your individuality. Being special and mysterious requires a strong soul.
  • Some people (specially other guys) may begin to hate or envy you, just don't pay attention to them.
  • People may think that you are arrogant or feel superior to others, so be humble from time to time, when needed.
  • Following these tips is a sure path to becoming a loner. People around you may feel a bit intimidated in your presence and your individualism and nonconformity to standards and common human social behavior (like small talks, smiles, hugs) will push some people away. People may stop inviting you to parties anymore and you may even lose some friends. I repeat, this is not for everybody, if you don't want to be alone forget all you just read. If you already are a loner and are happy with that, then I encourage you to follow these tips and become more special than you already are.
  • You may be called a lot of names (emo, weirdo, outcast) just don't pay attention to these people an continue being special, remember, they are just trying to figure you out by categorizing you.
  • As contradictory as this may seem with the previous points, you may begin to appear attractive to some people (specially girls), your mysteriousness and confidence may attract them to you. Be prepared on how to handle them, and, if you want, allow yourself to have a couple of good friends but always keep your distance and mysteriousness, that's what attracted them to you in the first place, if you stop being mysterious you'll come across as fake to them.

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