Date a Younger Girl
Ever liked a girl, but she happens to be a few years younger? Feel afraid that you'd be judged for dating her? By approaching the situation intelligently, you can make it work.
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Steps
- Get to know her. Before you are sure you want to date this girl, you need to know basic facts about her. (eg. her birthday, favorite color, TV shows, music, etc.)
- Talk to her relatives. Ask her brothers, sisters, parents, on their consent. If it's all right with them, you won't feel too worried to date this girl.
- Don't rush! Younger girls will feel afraid if you just burst out and ask them to date you (makes them feel as if you're some sort of creep who preys on young girls). Take some time and get to know her. Then when the time is right, ask her. Don't say "I love you" too soon, either. It scares her away.
- Take her on a date. Nowhere too romantic. You don't want her to feel as if you're just trying to get something from her. This will probably result in her dumping you, or feeling afraid of you. A dinner and a movie would be great. Somewhere public.
- Keep conversation appropriate. Talking about something like sex would place her in an awkward position. Talk about sports, TV, family. Something casual.
- Hang out. Her house would be good. But not in a bedroom! Try the family room, kitchen, living room. Couches are not very appropriate at the start. Wait until you and her feel more comfortable with each other.
- Don't rush for the kiss! Since she is younger, a kiss would feel weird and confusing as she probably hasn't much experience. If you do kiss her early on, don't do it every minute.
Tips
- Keep focused on the goal. Don't mess around with other girls if you and this girl already like each other. Her emotions would take time to recover from damage and she wouldn't like you anymore.
- Don't act too mature and grown-up, or she will feel immature and awkward around you. She might dump you for a guy close to her age. Talk about things girls her age talk about.
- Take deep breaths and remind yourself that others' opinions don't matter(teasing, name calling). If you really like this girl, others' opinions mean jack.
- If the two of you already knew/ liked each other, it wouldn't feel as awkward to be dating.
- If you feel or she feels she isn't ready to be with your friends, wait. It's easier for her if you get to know her friends first. This will really help her to settle into the situation.
Warnings
- Keep in mind that her emotions are damaged easier than yours, so DO NOT hurt her in any way!
- Keep your dates clean and appropriate.
- Be careful around "daddy." Dads are protective of their little girls. It might help to talk to her dad, so he gets to know you and he knows he can trust you. This will also help her to feel more comfortable hanging around with you.
- Do not introduce her to your friends until you are all okay and relaxed about you and this girl dating. Things can get pretty confusing.
- Don't rush things.
