Find a New Best Friend

Finding a new best friend isn't easy, especially if you're not the out-going type, but here are the steps that will zap you into BFF mode and find you a best friend!

Steps

  1. Make sure you look presentable! Nobody wants to hang out with the crumpled kid. Your clothes shouldn't be outrageous but should show sides of your personality. Wear something that doesn't have stain or inappropriate messages. Don't dress up as someone you're not.
  2. Don't force friendships. Don't make it obvious that you're trying to please the person, they don't want to be stalked. Just say "hi!" to them at lunch or in the locker room etc. Strike up a conversation about something you're both interested in like sports, video games, dance, a certain T.V show etc.
  3. Talk to a variety of people. You never know who might become friends with you! You have a better chance of finding a best friend or soulmate if you keep your eyes, and your options, open. Go up to a friendly looking person in the halls or in one of your classes and introduce yourself.
  4. Keep them interested. You don't want them yawning at the sight of you. If you're going to have them over then make sure you've planned something fun to do. For example, going to the cinema, having a swim or doing an art class. Remember that if you don't share tastes, you might not be as close of friends as you hope!
  5. Know when to stop. You don't want your so-called 'BFF' (best friend forever) resenting you and feeling pressured to be your friend.Notice the way they act around you. If they are mean to you they're probably not interested and you should cut ties with this person.
  6. Be approachable! If you're unapproachable you'll lose potential friends. Sometimes it's who comes up to you, not who you go up to. Have a nice, big, welcoming smile on your face when someone approaches you nobody wants to talk to a grumpy pants.
  7. Talk to your friend! Once you can trust them and feel comfortable with them, tell them that you have been looking for a BFF. Hopefully they'll accept or welcome your offer of being best friends. Once you're at this level of friendship, it should come more easily. Tell them about what's going on in your life, funny stories that happened to you, and your biggest, darkest secrets.
  8. Be nice. If you're mean in any way, she/he may not want to be your friend. Help and support your friends when they need you the most.
  9. Be yourself! It's easy to make friends by pretending you like things they do, but at the end of the day you want a friend who appreciates you for who you are and shares your interests. Don't feel ashamed for what you enjoy or take pleasure in, there's a friend out there for everybody. There's plenty of fish in the sea!



Tips

  • Don't get so desperate for a BFF that you start blinding yourself to potentially bad people who might make a negative impact on your life. Bad people will exploit the fact you're looking for a BFF, so be on your guard.
  • Don't push your luck. Don't rush friendship. It's a gradual process, and you may only be a minor friend to your future BFF for a long time.
  • Don't be surprised if your BFF turns out to be a member of the opposite sex. It is possible to just be friends with a girl if you're a boy and vice versa.
  • Don't be unpleasant. Try to tackle any of your personality problems (attitude, arrogance etc.) as these will may be what lose you friends and potential best friends.

Warnings

  • Don't pretend to be someone you're not. A true BFF should like the same things you do.

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