Flirt With a Pretty Girl
Flirting can be intimidating, especially if the girl is really pretty or if you don't know what to say. This article will offer some advice on how to flirt with a pretty girl and hopefully take some of that uncertainty away.
10 Second Summary
1. Smile at her.
2. Ask her for her name or pay her a compliment.
3. Keep track of her expressions and body language.
4. Ask her questions and let her talk.
5. Be bold, but know when to take hints to pull back.
6. Always be yourself.
Steps
- Start off by smiling at her. Then, pick your strategy.
- If you don't know her, start off by asking her name. Pay her a compliment. "That shirt is a great color on you" or "I couldn't help noticing the way that necklace really brings out your eyes."
- Set up a conversation starter without talking to her. For instance, if she's wearing a shirt with the logo of a great band on it, and you have some of that band's music on your audio device, then put your earbuds on and slightly turn the iPod screen toward her so that she can see what's playing. Who knows--she might actually start a conversation with you.
- Make the first move whilst ensuring you're confident of success. Truthfully, most girls want guys to make the first move, so think of a great question to ask her. Even if you don't feel confident at first, you'll definitely get more comfortable when she responds to you.
- Again, if you know her, then ask her something that encourages her to talk. "What did you do this weekend?" or "How did you do on that project?" are both easy openers.
- If you're feeling really confident, be more direct. You can say something like, "I was looking for the stars last night, but I couldn't find them, because they are in your eyes." Or you could say, "I must be a snowflake because I've fallen for you."
- Openers are all about delivery. If you're going with a casual opening question, then deliver it with confidence and look like you're really interested in what she has to say. If you're going with the direct approach, then deliver it boldly. Give her a big smile and make good eye contact, and laugh a little bit if she does.
- Watch how she's reacted to you so far. If she seems interested in you, she'll turn her body toward you, make good eye contact and smile back at you. If she's not interested, she'll turn away or look over her shoulder at you, and she might roll her eyes or look down her nose at you.
- Girls can be complicated! If she likes you back and doesn't want to admit it, or is too shy she may look down, giggle, not answer your questions (or say things like, "it's up to you"), or blushes (a dead giveaway). Also, she could be playing hard-to-get, and in that case, try to say things that might open her up.
- Keep flirting with her if all signs point to "yes." Show her that you're interested, too. Lean slightly toward her, turn toward her and maybe tilt your head slightly to one side. Give her a disarming smile.
- Encourage the girl to talk. Ask questions, wait until she answers them and then make comments to show that you were listening.
- Talk about her interests. Learn what she likes and encourage her to discuss the subjects that she feels passionate about.
- Avoid interrupting her while she's talking. Constant interruption is a major turnoff because it makes you look like you only care about yourself.
- Start a flirtatious argument with her. For instance, if she loves the Yankees and you love the Red Sox, then you can tease her about the rivalry. You'll both love to banter back and forth. However, never start a serious argument with her with anything serious such as politics or religion, that's a big "no."
- Be bold but courteous. If you can't think of anything else to say, look at her and hold her hand and smile while looking at her eyes, as long as you know she'll not feel uncomfortable with you making physical contact..
- However, if she pulls her arm away, take a hint and reel yourself in a bit.
- Use appropriate humor. Most girls agree that a good sense of humor is attractive. Humor can also relieve awkwardness. If you say something that doesn't go over well, follow it up with something funny and turn it into a joke.
- If you open with a line like "I must be a snowflake because I've fallen for you," and she looks at you like you just popped out of a UFO, try saying, "I'm sorry. You're so beautiful that I forgot my good line and had to go to my backup." She might find that funny and start flirting back with you.
- Teasing a girl can be a good way to put her at ease and keep things interesting. Just don't joke about something that may be a sensitive issue. If she strongly cares about the environment, for example, and you say something about not believing in climate change, then she's going to reject you. And never, ever joke about her weight.
- Find something that you both think is hilarious. Turn it into an inside joke, so when you want to talk to her, you have something to say no matter what, and she thinks that something is funny.
- Take it to the next level. If the conversation is going really well, then you can do a couple of things:
- Ask for her phone number. The next morning, shoot her a quick text saying, "Just wanted to say good morning. I've been thinking about how much I loved our conversation." If she responds positively, then call her within a couple of days.
- Invite her out on a date. If she mentions something that she would like to do, like checking out a movie or a new club, then say, "I've been wanting to do that too. Want to go together?"
- Make it a little more physical. Ask her to dance and see how close she gets to you. If you're feeling it, and it looks like she expects it, brush your lips against hers.
- Be yourself when you're trying to flirt. Even if your act does impress her momentarily, you'll lose her trust and interest when she figures out you've been trying to fool her. Girls can smell a liar, so you're better off being who you are from the beginning. Do not attempt extreme images such as:
- Macho man
- Super-smooth and fly
- Cool dude
- Comedian
- Pick-up artist
Test Your Knowledge
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Tips
- Look at her eyes, not her chest as that is a complete turn off.
- Be a gentleman: compliments, opening doors, and dressing well. Be nice to other girls even if you don't like them because the other girls will notice!
- When flirting, ask about interests or hobbies as a conversation starter.
- Be straight with her, don't lie.
- Girls will appreciate guys who make the first move. Stare at her for maybe 2 seconds and, when she looks at you, look embarrassed. She'll probably laugh and remember you--for a good reason!
- If you're sitting or standing beside a girl, slowly move closer to her so she knows you're comfortable being around her.
- Expect and accept the reject. Some girls will just say no. Never give up though, just accept that it's life.
- Be calm and somewhat confident. Don't fear rejection, because that will just make you seem less confident and she WILL notice.
- When texting, if she doesn't reply, wait at least 2-3 hours before texting again and don't bring up the fact that she didn't reply.
- Don't look too eager to start conversing with her at every possible opportunity. When she walks into the room, you do not have to jump up and say "Hi!" immediately. However, if she sits next to you and initiates conversation, be sure to respond with warmth and interest.
- Don't rush into it. Wait until you see she is interested, then take it slow and go with the flow.
- Girls hate it when they text you and know you aren't replying. Girls want to have conversations, which they can't do if you don't respond.
- Make sure you don't seem like a stalker. That will completely turn her off.
- One thing that girls might find very bold and demonstrative of good flirting skills is this: when you're walking with her, brush your arm against hers. If you feel extra bold, you can "trip" and steady yourself with her arm.
- Don't complain while flirting.
- Don't tell your friends who you like because you never know if they'll tell her. If they do, that can ruin what you started with her.
- Don't blow her phone up with texts. You can try something like sending her a quick text of the inside joke that you came up with during your conversation.
- If you don't know what to say, ask her what the homework was, that is a great conversation starter!
- If you ask her out and she says yes, wait at least one night after the date to call or text her. "Did you get home safely" texts are okay and recommended.
- The friend zone is a place that no man wants to find himself in. It's hard to escape, and it can kill her romantic interest in you. Don't hang out with her constantly unless you're having a romantic relationship. Stay in that little area just below the friend zone and keep chipping away at her.
- Don't try to win a girl by making other people look bad, especially her friends. It won't get you the attention you want.
- Don't be shy.
- Just ask her out and if she says 'no' then just move on, or you can try to get her to like you.
Warnings
- Avoid talking about other girls that you may be pursuing, even if you don't refer to them in a romantic way. Make the girl you're talking to feel like she's the only girl on your mind.
- Be prepared for rejection. It happens to everyone at one time or another. The important thing is to not dwell on negative experiences.
- Don't flirt with a girl too much if she looks like she's taking you too seriously. You may be looking for a serious relationship, or you may just want to have fun. If she's looking for more and you're not, then don't lead her on.
- Don't flirt with two or more girls at once. If you try to flirt with too many pretty girls at once, you'll end up being interesting to none of them.
