Get Through Valentine's Day Being Single

Being single doesn't mean that you need to find Valentine's Day a depressing occasion. You can still treat yourself and feel good about where you are in life. This article provides a range of ideas for doing things to participate "in spirit" while keeping up your spirit; or, you can simply treat it like any other day.


  1. Get chocolate. Who says you need someone to buy it for you? Get a box of chocolate and enjoy it. Chocolate releases endorphins in the brain to make you feel good! So a little chocolate will actually improve your mood and make you feel better.
  2. Send yourself roses or a fun candy bouquet. Order the set a couple weeks before Valentine's Day. Sign the card "From A Special Admirer." and send it for you to get on Valentine's Day. Even if you remember it's you who really sent it, it will still make your day.
  3. Spend time with those you love. Instead, spend time with different kind of love - your friends and your family. See a movie with some friends, eat dinner at the local diner with a handful of family, whatever you do, love is love, and Valentine's Day is there to represent it. You don't need to be in a romantic relationship to enjoy Valentine's Day.
  4. If you just got out of a bad relationship, a great idea of what to do for yourself is, make it a "Pamper Day" or an "All About You Day". Go spend some money on yourself. It's good to be a little selfish now and then. And when you see those red heart decorations or you hear a love song, think of yourself, and how much you love yourself.
  5. Don't feel sorry for yourself. This will just make the day depressing and dreaded. Instead, be excited for this day. After all, it only comes once a year and it's still a holiday!
  6. Bake! Try out a fun recipe and spend time on it! And make it a goal to eat all yourself! Try this. Basically, it's a fast 10 minute way of making a cake!
  7. Do something nice for another person. Open a door for someone who needs it, volunteer at a church, buy a rose and give it to someone random on the street, whatever you do, will make you feel full of love inside.
  8. Visit somebody. A friend, a relative you haven't seen in a while, whoever it is, visit them. Offer to help out a little bit. This is your day, spend it on someone worth spending on.
  9. You can also stay inside. This simplest of all solutions is also the most difficult to carry out, if Valentine's Day is in the middle of your workweek or at the start of it—and your supervisor may not appreciate having half her work force call in sick on a busy Monday. But if you’re self-employed, by all means, lock your door, turn off all your lights, and wait until the day is over. Try to avoid this, but if you're really this depressed, stay in.
  10. Don’t compare yourself to other people. If you’re the type who imagines folks secretly pointing at you on the street and laughing at your single status, you’re spending way too much time measuring yourself against supposedly happy, snuggling couples. Remember: just because a person is partnered up on V-Day doesn’t necessarily mean that he or she is blissed out (or even remotely contented).
  11. Use Valentine's Day as an actively seek a partner day, so many places put on singles evenings so get your girlfriends or male friends together and head for a singles party. Who knows who you might meet?



  • To make your holiday a little more interesting, mix it up, by watching a Christmas movie, or a Halloween movie, try to remember other past holidays and incorporate it into one. It will take your mind off being single, and it's a great funny fun tip.
  • Valentine’s Day is meant for that special someone in your life. Who says that special someone can’t be you? You work hard for the money and St. Valentine wasn’t going steady with anyone. So spend the day treating yourself to indulgences the Saint himself would want you to have!
  • If you are alone on Valentine’s Day, think of it as an opportunity to focus on the presence of love. Train yourself to love you for once! It’s just as important as loving others.
  • Bad attitudes really don't help anybody. They make you feel worse and certainly don't make other people want to be around you. try to find different perspectives to look at so you can feel better. Find things to do, like taking a relaxing bath, reading a magazine, taking an art class. Channel the bad feelings away.
  • Avoid thinking badly about couples. More than likely since you're single, you're going to be thinking "Oh, look at that weird couple.", or point out bad things or odd things about couples because you're jealous you're not in a relationship. You should instead celebrate their love. Think about this just one day, aside from their anniversary, that they get to truly celebrate their love too. Also, Another common thought is "Oh I wish I had a relationship like that.", but you have to think better and realize that you will get that some day. It will just take some time.
  • You are single right now for a good reason. try to figure that reason out. Maybe you're holding yourself back and you just don't know it. Maybe it's time you've looked at your life from another perspective so that you can open yourself up to a new relationship.
  • You should also realize that there are less fortunate people around the world, you may feel depressed about yourself not having a boyfriend/girlfriend, but there's plenty of people who do don't even have a home, food, freedom, and other essentials. Your situation pales in comparison to people who live under dictatorships and/or third-world poverty. Try volunteering at a homeless shelter or donate goods to third world countries. You will realize how lucky you still are and not worry about not having a mate too much.
  • Working on burning off that extra 5 pounds you put on over the holidays? Think chocolate is out of the question? Think again! Indulge your senses with this delicacy, but not by taste—try touch, sight and smell instead! Lather up with chocolate-bar soap from Amazon, while burning a chocolate-scented candle from Chocolate Sensations and soaking in hot chocolate bath salts available at Find Gift. Spritz yourself with a little Tartine et Chocolate perfume found at Shopzilla. Then get cozy and pop in the movie Chocolate.
  • You might be spending the day alone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a little relationship imagination. Pick up Susan Minot’s novel "Rapture." It’s a story about an afternoon two lovers spend in bed. What the heck, you can spend the day in bed, too!


  • Don't miss out on today just because you want to avoid it. Sleeping all day doesn't serve any purpose.
  • Ever heard of Carpe-Diem? (It means Seize the Day!)

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