Get Your Best Friend to Stop Hating Your Boyfriend
This is a problem that can ruin your friendship with a good friend. You get a new boyfriend, but she hates him. You really don't want to lose either of them, so what do you do? These steps should help you to sort it out.
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Steps
- Talk to your friend and find out what the problem is. Make sure you know why she hates your boyfriend, so that you know what you are dealing with. Don't ignore your best friend's comments. If she/he is your best friend then you obviously value their opinion and it is important to listen carefully to what they say. Have a good think before you do anything else. Has your boyfriend done something wrong or does your friend just not know your boyfriend well enough?
- Introduce them to each other, and tell them that its really important to you that they both get on. Ask them to talk out their differences
- Try talking to them separately. Ask each of them if they would consider making up or at least not hating each other.
- Tackle any specific or particular issues right away. For example, if your friend doesn't like him for something he did in the past, make sure they talk about it.
- Consider what your friend has to say. If she has a valid and good reason for hating him, then there might be no way to solve this.
- Consider your options if there's no other way. You could either cope with them hating each other, or let one of them go. If this person is your best friend, it would be a good option to leave your boyfriend if you feel that your friend has a reason to hate him. Only do this if you feel that he is not the kind of person you want to be with, though.
- If your boyfriend is being hated for no reason, don't befriend your best friend anymore, if he or she is your best friend then he or she will not put you in this situation.
- Be nice. Just simply ask your best friend if they can try to be nice to your boyfriend. Make sure that your best friend understands that you love your boyfriend and that by being mean to him, it affects you too.
- If your best friend completely understands that you love your boyfriend and when they are mean to your boyfriend they hurt you too, it is time to get a new best friend. This may be hard to lose your best friend but if they can't stop being mean if they know it hurts you, they obviously don't care enough about you.
Tips
- Don't start a fight. Fights are not good and do not solve problems they only create more.
- Listen to them. This will help you understand the problem better.
- Arrange for the three of you to go out somewhere so they can spend time together, then they might change their opinions slightly.
- Consider each person's opinion and don't side with your friend/boyfriend. Be fair to both of them.
- Remember your best friend, is usually the one who is there for you no matter what, so make sure you completely understand his/her reasons before ditching them. Always take their worries into account and listen to their concerns, no matter how much you love your boyfriend.
Warnings
- Don't overdo this. You might lose both your best friend and your boyfriend.
- When they hang out, just hope they don't hang out too often or that might result in a break up between you and her and a new boyfriend for her.
