Get a Girl You Like to Like You Back

There are few things more unnerving than trying to figure out if the girl you like feels the same way about you. Put an end to your worry and follow these steps to get her attention.

Steps

Evaluate Your Image

  1. Don't change who you are. This is the most important step, because it defines all the other ones. If she doesn't like you for who you are, then you will never able to be yourself around her. This will not make for a good relationship. Someone you have to change yourself for is not someone you will end up with.
  2. Clean yourself up. You don't have to dress fancy, but make sure that your hygiene is well taken care of. Basic cleanliness will go a long way in helping you stand out. Make sure you smell good, thats a key factor to getting her closer.
    • Shower before school. Use a fresh-scented soap or body wash. Wear a lightly fragranced deodorant. Strong fragrances can be too overwhelming and may drive her away.
    • Keep your teeth brushed. Carry some gum in case your breath gets bad during the day. keep a travel-sized mouthwash in your backpack or locker for a quick freshening.There is nothing worse then someone with dragon breath.
    • Trim your fingernails. Make sure your hands and nails are clean, they are a very visible part of your body. Think: does she want you to hold her hand or hide it?
    • Make sure your clothes are clean. Ratty, threadbare clothes are a turn-off, unless you're going for a specific look. Make sure what you're wearing is presentable and well put together. Pick clothes that compliment your looks; baggy shirts and pants hide your form and make you look less confident. GO for what that girl wants, maybe if she's popular wither wear brand shirts and gel in your hair.
  3. Be confident. Girls, and people in general, pick up on confidence. Nobody likes someone who doesn't believe in themselves. You will find that this will help not only get the girl, but in all aspects of your life. Here a some ways to look confident, even if you aren't.
    • Stand up straight. Slouching makes you look lazy. Pull your shoulders back slightly, this will fill your frame out.
    • If you're out of shape, suck in your stomach. Start exercising for long term benefits to your confidence and sense of self-worth. Even a few basic exercises a day, such as crunches and sit-ups, will make a big difference.
    • Make eye contact. Looking down or away makes you look passive, scared, and weak. Maintaining eye contact will show her that you are interested and engaged, and that you are not afraid.
    • Don't mumble. Speak clearly and form your thoughts before you open your mouth. When you talk, speak with a measured speed. Speak loudly enough to be the commanding voice in the conversation, but don't yell or overpower.

Get to Know Her

  1. Start talking to her. You can't know someone until you talk to them. Conversations won't fall into your lap; you need to make them happen. Try to sit next to her in a class. Comment on something she's wearing as you pass her in the hall. It doesn't have to be deep, just natural. Get her interested in talking to you. Here are some conversation starters:
    • "That last class was so boring!"
    • "What are your planning to write about for the paper next week?"
    • "Do anything exciting over the weekend?"
  2. Find out what she likes and doesn't like. Look at what colors she likes to wear. If she likes to read, ask her about the book she's reading. Ask her what TV shows she likes. Ask her friends, if they seem receptive to helping you. Finding common ground will increase your appeal.
    • "I see you're reading [a book], how are you liking it?" "I'm reading the same book do you want to read it together on face-time?"
    • "Been to any good concerts lately?"
    • ask her questions about herself and her friends/family, the more she tells you the more you can talk.
 As you talk more, ask about her future plans. Where does she want to go to college? What does she want to be? What motivates her? Showing an interest in her development as a person will show her that you care.
    • Be careful not to get too personal. You want to keep the conversations carefree in the beginning.

Read Her Signs

  1. If she blushes when you're around, that's a very good sign. You're not the only one who's nervous. If she likes you, the same worries are probably going through her head. She can also be really brave and experienced, so this doesn't mean she doesn't like you.
    • Don't start gushing about how much you like her. It will most likely scare her away. Instead, let her discover your attraction through your interactions. Drop little hints, and keep her wanting, don't always text first and be the last one to text bye.
  2. Pay attention to how she responds to you. When you talk to her, watch how attentive she is. If she is actively participating in your conversation, she is interested in what you have to say.
  3. Play to her unique qualities. Her personality has a lot to do with how the two of you will interact. If she is an outgoing person, you will need to be more outgoing yourself to get noticed. If she is quiet and reserved, a boisterous personality may drive her away. You don't have to change who you are, but you can adjust how you present yourself.

Tips

  • Take risks, and be willing to pick yourself back up if you fail.
  • Avoid talking about yourself. Make her feel important by talking about her. Wait until she asks you questions about yourself and even then, don't ramble on.
  • Be persistent, but not overbearing. And be ready to get rejected.

Warnings

  • Watch out for "angels with broken wings", because they will expect you to be a counselor and lover, which never ends well.

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