Get the Girl You Like
Before you continue reading, forget you like the girl. She may be nice and beautiful, but there are thousands like her out there. Getting the girl is not about showing her how much you like her, it's about showing her that you're worth going after. Always remember there are lot of pretty girls but you need to choose the right one.
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Steps
- Remember the last time you fell in love. It wasn't when you were near the person, it was while you were away, thinking about them! So if you're constantly around her, she'll lose interest. Make sure you make her think about you while you're away.
- Always remain a bit of a mystery. This way she won't lose interest too fast. For example, if you just met her and she asks about your job, give a few details but don't go overboard because she will probably ask you about it some more herself; make her feel more included in the conversation.
- Don't be afraid to talk to other women in her presence. Show her she has competition. But at the same time, treat her just that little bit more special than you do them.
- Sub-communicate a balance. The balance is 'I want you but I don't need you' if you could successfully communicate this balance to a girl this is going to make you a lot more attractive. One way to incorporate this balance into your personality is to say the same thing repeatedly into your head when her thought comes to your head. The reasons for it are...
- Neediness. Women or girls find neediness Gross in a guy or a man. Think of it this way women are the one, in most cases and cultures, who are lead by men, but when a man becomes needy this is like role reversal, which is one of the reason why this is gross for a girl when a guy acts needy. Again Neediness is Gross, women don't like a guy who is insecure......Bottom-line.
- Scarcity. Its human nature, we are attracted to things which we can't have or are scarce. In the same way this balance can sub-communicate to the girl that you are scarce in the market, which in return would make you more attractive.
- Get to know the girl. Find out what she likes and dislikes and make a conversation out of it.
- Be aware of what you're doing. You may not know that you're going on and on talking about something you like. Some girls get bored to death really quickly!
- Always try to make her smile. Girls like guys that are sensitive and not afraid to crack a little joke every now and then. Marilyn Monroe once said that if you can make a woman smile, you can make her do anything.
- Always make sure she's OK. If she's sad, find a way to make her happy. If she's happy, help her stay that way, so that you both can have a great day.
- Don't let there be too much of a silence. She'll think it's awkward and instead of walking with you she might run off with her friends where she knows she can talk.
- Act naturally, without giving the impression you are actually changing yourself to make her like you.
- Be confident without being cheeky. Show her you can handle being the center of interest. To achieve this, you may want to work on your conversational skills.
- Stay away from cheesy lines like "Your father must have been a thief, cause he stole the stars and put them in your eyes".
- Show her you're interested in her by saying, for example, "I like your shirt". If you feel she may like you back then move on to complimenting her looks slightly - but not in a perverted way. Tell her she's beautiful or that she has nice eyes.
- Don't feel obliged to talk to her every time you see her. A simple greeting is enough, then get back to your business.
- During a casual conversation mention you'll be doing something fun this weekend, like going to a new club.
- Continue the conversation some 10 minutes, then say, "It was nice talking to you. Gotta go." Always put kisses (not an over the top amount though!) this will show her you like her and also hints at more than friends.
- Some girls however aren't into parties and such like, so perhaps suggest going for a walk together (if you have a dog ask her if she'd like to join you sometime) or maybe going into town etc.
- Girls like to feel pretty, so make SURE to compliment her. If it's her shirt, or her amazing eyes, it will make her feel better about herself!
Tips
- Pay attention to her body language: if she is facing you and looking you straight in the eyes while that means she's probably interested. But if half of her body is turned away or if she is messing on her phone then you are probably boring her, or she is nervous.
- When talking to a woman, leave when you're having the best time, not when you don't have anything more to say. This way she'll remember as the funny and pleasant person she had a nice chat with, not as the guy who she had long awkward silences with.
- Never be too shy to say something nice to her in front of her friends.
- Never stay too close to a woman when talking. Make her come closer by talking somewhat quieter than normal. This way she'll come closer to hear you, and when she does that, you know she's interested.
- Dress with style. Be slightly different than the others in your social circle. If you're a teenager in high-school and everyone is wearing baggy trousers and turned back hats, dressing in normal jeans and shirt will make you different and draw positive attention to you.
- Stay in touch with her even if she has a boyfriend, be there for her whenever she feels alone and unwanted.
- Tell her you like her, don't be shy. Girls always want to know if a guy likes her, because then they will like you.
- Don't ask "Would you like to go out with me next weekend?" Say, "Next weekend I'm going to place X. You want to come?" Make it obvious that you're going anyway, with or without her.
- If she says she has a boyfriend, continue the conversation. That is, don't show you heard her mentioning him at all.
- Always be yourself. No girl likes a guy trying to be someone he's not. Compliment her a lot but not too much.
- Be playful with her; including inside jokes shows that you remember her and are likely to make her laugh.
- If a woman does reject you, don't come back to her and keep trying. If she changes her mind she will send you signals to try again. Make sure to keep an eye for said signals.
- Always be yourself.
- When you come across her don't act tough girls don't like men showing how tough you are.
- Be sure to give the girl some place when needed. Realise that people do not like being around people all of the time and that constantly being with her, could possibly deter her from spending time with you.
- Sometimes it's good to use interesting words when you talk to her. That will get her more interested in you and your conversations. Instead of saying pretty, say beautiful, or instead of saying her house looks clean, say it looks immaculate.
- Make friends with her friends (don't flirt!). Girls always turn to their friends for advice.
- Catch her eyes as much as possible, she'll love the attention!
- Tell her that she has beautiful hair, or that she is really intelligent and interesting.
- Be yourself. If a girl doesn't like you for who you are then she's not the one and don't force it.
- Women will tell you what 'they want' or 'how you should be'. Remember: this isn't what they want and is not how you should be. They are actually testing you to see if you are strong or a pushover. Be your own man and make your own decisions. Many women may get upset with this at first, but it is part of the game (it's part of their subconscious so they often don't even know they are testing you).
- Don't be clingy and let her have time to herself and her friends, or else she will lose interest in you because you're around too often.
- Give her attention, but don't be around her incessantly. She may find it annoying.
Warnings
- Don't agree with her on everything. If she says she likes jazz, reply, "Yeah, it's okay. I like jazz, but it's just not my kind of music." Here she'll ask you what's your kind of music, and you have a conversation ready.
- Don't pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to or she may find you a little pressuring.
- Don't get all over her. Give her room to breathe.
- If a woman turns you down, don't call her names! Chances are she'll respect your handling of rejection, and next time it will be her who asks you out.
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