Get a Middle School Crush to Like You

You see her or him in the hallway every day, wondering if he or she notices you and/or likes you. The truth is that waiting won't change anything and won't enlighten you as to her or his feelings. You'll need to find the courage to start interacting with your crush and getting to know him or her better, perhaps eventually working up to asking him or her out. It may take time but the best experiences in life are those worth waiting for.

Steps

Preparing yourself

  1. Be yourself. Act the same way you do when your around your friends, don't act differently around them than the way you act around your crush. If you do, he or she will think you're being a fake.
  2. Be realistic. Realize that you cannot make a person like you. You can be persuasive and encourage a person by being charming, friendly and happy in their presence but you cannot force their interest to focus solely on you. As such, it's important to be realistic and accept that he or she may want to be "just friends" or won't even want that. However, that doesn't mean that you don't try. It means that you learn to read the signs and respect the decision they make, as hard as it may be if it doesn't go in your favor.
  3. Look good. Dress nicely and neatly. Show your flair by wearing things that represent your style.
    • Stay comfortable. There is no point looking good if you're suffering. Jeans that are so skinny you can barely walk will elicit giggles in sports class, not awe-inspiring looks.

Getting to know your crush better

  1. Spend some time around your crush. Do you both like the same things? Perhaps you play the same sport or do the same activity during lunch hour or after school? Make the most of things you both connect on.
  2. Help your crush. Has your crush been having some troubles in a subject you're just ace at? Hop in and offer some advice, and some tutoring help. What a great way to get closer!
  3. Loan things or share things with your crush. Show him or her your generous side by offering things when in need, such as a forgotten pencil or lunch, or a listen to your newly downloaded hit song.
  4. Make conversation. Talk about stuff that he or she wants to talk about. Talk about stuff that you would like to talk about. Ask your crush some fun questions, such as "when is your birthday?", "What is your favorite color?". Little by little you'll get to know her or him.
  5. Be nice and be kind at all times. There is no need to be rude or to show bad manners.

Showing your interest

  1. Flirt a little. Act the same but with a little bit of flirting and feeling this time. When he or she makes a joke, laugh genuinely. When you see her or him in the hallway, make eye contact and perhaps offer a wink. When you both are staring at each other, don't worry if either of you blushes a little––that just shows you that you're both attracted to each other.
  2. Compliment your crush. Don't offer too many compliments, just enough to make it clear that you don't mind noticing the good things about her or him.
  3. Break the touch barrier. Whenever you are sitting by him or her, angle your toes where he or she is sitting, then bump against your crush gently. Gently brush away a hair from his or her shoulder or even face. Gently hold her or his arm briefly. Be a little touchy-feely without overdoing it.
  4. Invite your crush somewhere in a group. Invite her or him to your house for a party or ask him or her to dance with you at a class party. Keep your friends around and your crush's friends around at first, to keep it light.
  5. Work up the courage to ask your crush out. When you have the impression that he or she is interested in you, ask him or her for a date. That is, if he or she hasn't already asked you.

Tips

  • Talk to your closest and best friends about your crush. They'll offer advice and maybe even support in getting the two of you together.
  • Eye contact is important for both friendship and love.
  • Try to be a friend first. More can grow from friendship.
  • Give your crush some personal space. If he or she doesn't want be around you, back off. Being insistent about your feelings out loud could make them uncomfortable.
  • Know when to back off so they will be craving more attention from you.
  • Laugh or at least smile at his jokes to let him know that you really pay attention at him.
  • Never ignore him because he isn't talking to you... he will start to think that you ignore him- say hello or what's up to start a conversation!
  • Let some other people flirt with you. This shows your crush that you are friendly and talk to other people. Just don't make it super obvious, because then they will know you're just doing it to make them jealous.

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