Tell Your Crush You Like Them

You know it's time to tell your crush how you really feel, but how do you do it? You may need to work up the courage to reveal your true feelings, but once you're honest and open with your crush, you'll feel better, no matter what happens. If you want to know how to tell your crush you like them without getting too nervous or making things weird, just follow these steps.

Steps

React the Right Way

  1. Don't be disappointed if your crush doesn't share your feelings. If they don't feel the same way, it's not the end of the world. You should feel proud that you had enough confidence to share your true feelings, and that you got the answers you were looking for, even if you didn't end up getting what you wanted. If your crush doesn't feel the same way, just say, "Cool, no problem," or "Thanks for listening to me anyway." Be polite and kind as you say goodbye -- don't make your crush feel worse by saying, "I knew this would happen," or "No one ever likes me back."
    • Remember that having the confidence to tell your crush how you feel will make you feel confident in your future relationships and choices.
  2. Don't be weird about seeing your crush if you know they don't like you. If your crush doesn't share your feelings, that's okay. If you are friends, then maybe you should take it easy for a while, but that doesn't mean you should run away or avoid them the next time you see them. Keep doing what you always do, and act happy to see your crush the next time you cross paths. Remember that your crush can't help how they feel, and just play it cool.
  3. Celebrate if your crush does like you. If your crush returns your feelings, then you should enjoy your feelings of giddiness and excitement. Be proud of yourself for sharing how you feel, and have fun hanging out with your crush or even dating them. You can take things slow and decide what you want to do next. Your crush will be impressed by your boldness and honesty, and will want to hang out with you as soon as possible.

Tell Your Crush How You Feel in Person

  1. Look your best without being too obvious about it. Sure, you should look good when you plan to tell your crush how you feel. Just don't dress up to the nines if you normally rock a casual look, or put on a brand-new outfit if you're always seen in cozy clothes. You don't want your crush to think that you're trying too hard to send them the right message. Just try looking a bit more dressed up and well groomed than you normally do -- this will boost your confidence when you share your feelings.
  2. Pick the right time and place to do it. If you want to get the best results, then you have to pick a time when you and your crush can be fairly alone in a stress-free environment. You may not want to do it between classes, when your crush may be caught off guard or worried about the math test they have to take next period. Instead, pick a time when you know you can be alone, like after school, or at a group event when you know you can pull them away to chat for a while.
  3. Tell your crush that you want to talk about something. Don't make a big deal about it -- make it sound like you could be asking for help with your homework or something. Let your crush know that you wanted to talk about something in a one on one setting, but that there's not a lot of pressure to have a serious conversation. The more casual you can be without making it sound too casual, the better. Just say, "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about something after school, do you have a minute?"
  4. Make your crush feel comfortable by laughing or making a joke. You shouldn't immediately spit out the words, "I like you!" because your crush may still be a little uncomfortable or confused about why you're alone. Instead, put them at ease by making a silly joke, poking fun at yourself, or laughing extra hard at something they say. Laughing will put your crush in a positive frame of mind, and it'll make them more receptive to whatever you want to say.
  5. Spit it out. There's no need to delay. Once you're alone and have made your crush comfortable, you should just tell them how you feel. The sooner you do it, the better, and the less likely you'll be to make yourself more nervous or likely to ramble on about something unrelated. Just be simple and direct. Say, "I wanted to tell you that I have a crush on you" or "I really like hanging out with you, and I want you to know that I have feelings for you."
    • When you tell your crush, look them in the eye and relax your body. Don't stand too close to them or look at the floor, or you'll look either too eager or too withdrawn.
    • Use your crush's name when you tell them how you feel. "Michael, there's something I want to tell you..." sounds more personal than just saying, "I want to tell you something."
    • Don't build up to the thing you have to say too much. This will only put pressure on yourself.
  6. Wait for a reaction. Don't immediately put pressure on your crush and say, "So what do you think?" It's likely that your crush is thrown off guard and needs some time to consider your words, whether they share your feelings or not. Take a few deep breaths, step back, and wait for your crush to respond. Your crush may immediately say that they return your feelings, but it's more likely that your crush may need more time and will say, "Cool, thanks for telling me," or "Can I have some time to think about it?" That's perfectly natural. If you want to increase the chances of your crush liking you, you should play it cool after you put your cards on the table.

Tell Your Crush How You Feel in Other Ways

  1. Tell your crush how you feel over the phone. Though telling your crush in person will make you look more confident and mature, and saying it over the phone is sort of the worst way to do it, if you're really shy about telling your crush how you feel, then calling them and revealing your feelings is the next best bet. Just say hello, make them comfortable with a joke or casual comment, say, "I wanted to tell you something," and then reveal your feelings.
    • Talking over the phone will make you feel less nervous because you won't see your crush face to face. Still, if you're nervous, you can pace back and forth to get rid of some of that nervous energy.
    • If you're determined to tell your crush how you feel over the phone, you can also practice by calling one of your friends and rehearsing what you'd say first.
  2. Tell your crush how you feel with a cute note. Putting a cute note in your crush's locker, textbook, or backpack that tells them that you like them can be a nice way to tell them how you really feel. Just write something like, "Hi, Mark, I just wanted to tell you that I like you." Having your crush find the note at the right time can be a pleasant surprise -- just make sure the note will be easy to find.
  3. by asking them on a casual date. If you're too nervous about saying, "I like you," you can sidestep the situation by just asking your crush to hang out. You can simply say you have extra tickets to a movie or a show and invite your crush along, ask your crush if they're hungry or want to grab a snack or coffee somewhere, or ask if they want to go for a walk in the park. Asking them to hang out solo will make your feelings pretty obvious, so you can let your crush do more of the work when he figures it out.
  4. Know what not to do. There are a few things you should avoid doing if you want to tell your crush that you like them and get the best results. Here are some things you should avoid if you want to look confident and mature:
    • Don't have your friends tell them how you feel. If you want to look mature, you have to do it yourself.
    • Don't do it over Facebook. This will make you look like you're not serious or confident enough to have the conversation in person.
    • Don't be too eager when you tell your crush how you feel. A simple "I like you" is far more effective and far less likely to scare them off than saying, "I've been in love with you since the second grade..."

Tips

  • Have a plan. (For example: At lunchtime, I'm going to tell Poe I like him.) Have the time, place, and what you are going to say planned out.
  • If you are very nervous, it might help to write down what you would say, and what you would say if they say yes/no. (For example: Well, Jonny, I kinda really like you. Yes: Oh shall we hang out on Thursday then? No: Sorry. It doesn't matter.)
  • Make sure you like them enough to ask them. If you don't, then get to know them better before making a choice to confess.
  • If you're nervous, try not to look too serious or smile too much.
  • Dress in any way that makes you feel confident. If you look and feel confident, you will act confident as well.
  • If you blush a lot, don't worry or try to hide it. Just breath deeply and stare your crush straight in the eye (just don't be creepy).
  • If you're shy, go ahead and communicate with notes or instant messenger; although it isn't as personal as face to face, they won't be able to sense your nervousness this way.
  • If you want to be romantic (or you're not very good in awkward situations) try writing a love note. Put your feelings for them on it, then slip it in their locker or somewhere they will see it. It would also be cute to possibly "steal" a book or something of theirs playfully, and return it with the note inside, ready for them to "accidentally" find.
  • Make sure you like them, and aren't going solely for looks or because all your friends are dating someone already.
  • Get comfortable in your environment. If you aren't, go somewhere else with them.
  • Make sure you have confidence, even if you have to fake it. There's a quote, "Fake it till you make it!" And it really helps. Your crush will know it took guts to go and say it, and will appreciate that you did.
  • Don't do it when their friends are around in case they make make fun of you.
  • Don't be the friend that pushes others to ask them out.
  • Be careful if sending a note because it could get into the wrong hands - you don't want to be teased or have another person thinking you have a crush on them!
  • Just act cool, like you're talking to one of your friends.
  • Don't be nervous about asking them. Just say simply "I kinda like you" and see what their reaction is.
  • Try to not text your crush,"listen, you may not feel the same way, but i have a crush on you. Please dont get mad..." and talk on and on. That just makes them uncomfortable and they won't respond back to you until they have decided the best answer. Just stay cool and talk to him out in the open, over the phone, or a note.
  • Don't make it a big deal if they don't reply, but if you ask them in person and they said they don't like you, just try to play it cool and reply to them in a mature manner like "it's fine and you can understand", instead of shouting on them - "I hate you " or "Why don't you like me, am I not enough for you?".
  • Do not ask someone else to find out if your crush likes you. It might make them suspicious and your plan will backfire.

Warnings

  • Don't spend countless hours afterward crying and telling yourself, "He was the only one for me." It may seem hard, but you will get over them with plenty of help from family, friends, and the other small joys of living. It just takes time.
  • If you get turned down by somebody, don't immediately ask another person, especially a friend of that person you just got turned down by.

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