Kiss Your Girlfriend
Whether you're new to kissing people or a seasoned pro, kissing your girlfriend for the first time can be scary and even embarrassing at times. Never fear: wikiHow is here to turn your awkward first kiss into a moment worth the time. Just get started with Step 1 below.
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Steps
Kissing Like a Pro
- Set yourself up for success. You want to help ensure that your girlfriend is receptive to your kiss so take some basic preparation measures. Establish a good relationship and get to know each other a bit before moving on to kissing. This will make the kiss feel more satisfying. You should also time your kiss carefully. Don't do it when other people are around or in situations that aren't romantic.
- Get those lips nice and smooth. Okay, you can't exactly cover yourself in strawberry lip gloss like she can, but you should still aim for those moist, slick lips. This makes kissing more comfortable. Keep hydrated and use a lanolin-based lip balm like Carmex a couple days before you kiss. If the kiss feels imminent, use a lip balm that tastes better.
- Freshen your breath. Fresh breath is a big deal. Brush your teeth regularly (don't neglect the tongue!) and touch up with a mint, gum, or breath spray soon before the kiss itself. Go for a flavor like mint, as flavors like fruit or cinnamon can go bad very quickly.
- Get in close. Lean in and snuggle her, put an arm around her, pull her into an embrace, or get in the Kiss Zone.
- Cup her face. Placing your hands around her face, cupping that space between her jaw and ear, can help you keep aligned and give you more control over the kiss. It also makes it easier for you to guide yourself if you close your eyes too early.
- Lean in and then wait. Lean in for the kiss but hesitate and look at her lips before actually planting the kiss. It doesn't sound like a good idea, but you do want to give her the opportunity to stop the kiss before you kiss her. She needs to know what is about to happen. This keeps you from getting slapped later.
- Angle your head. Before you go full in for that kiss, angle your head just a bit to one side or the other. This will save you from a war of the noses.
- Kiss her. When you kiss, don't kiss with aligned lips like you'd kiss your grandma. Instead aim to have her lower lip hit in the space between your lips. Take her lip just a little in your mouth, making the same motion as if you were finishing taking a bite of a banana.
- Practice on your hand first. It's better for everybody.
- Breathe! You'd be surprised how easy it is to forget. Let your lips leave hers for just a moment as you move from angling from one side to another and breathe nice and deep. It's a bit like swimming.
- Keep your lips loose. When you kiss her, keep your lips loose. Avoid taut, puckered lips.
- Go slow until you're comfortable. Don't rush into that impassioned make out. Even the most experienced of kissers needs to learn the rhythm when kissing someone new. Take things slowly and sensually. Passionate kissing can be an experience for another day.
- Caress her cheeks. You know how you cupped her cheeks earlier? This is when you can bring that back into play and turn her into make her heart just about melt. With your hands still cupped around her face, use your thumb to gently caress her cheekbones, following the curved line of the bone. Gently is the key word here.
- Stop...but start again! Yes, you do have to stop kissing at some point...if only to get some air! Don't worry, you can always kiss more later but you don't want it to get awkward.
Learning New Skills
- Learn the ancient art of the Make Out. It's harder than it sounds to be really and truly good at making out, but you can learn how.
- Learn to French Kiss. This is often less complicated than it seems, so long as you do a little prep work and cover a couple of basic do's and don'ts.
- Learn how to kiss passionately. You don't want to be that terrible passionate kisser that basically eats the head of your girlfriend, so get some basic tips on passionate kissing before you totally gross her out.
Understanding Etiquette
- Emphasize consent. You do not want to pressure a girl into a kiss or do anything to make her feel uncomfortable. This shows basic respect and you shouldn't be kissing a girl you don't respect: you deserve to be with someone that you can see as an equal worthy of the highest respect and care! Pay attention to her reactions and the things she says, and don't feel like it's not okay to ask if she's okay. Make her happiness your goal!
- Avoid kissing in public. Serious public kissing is pretty gross for everyone that's not in the kiss, and in some places it might even get you in trouble! Save kissing for times that are private, no matter how hard you find it to keep your lips off of her.
- Exceptions can sometimes be made for a single, quick peck, however. Just don't go overboard.
- Don't leave evidence. If you haven't learned about hickies, you should do some research. Avoid leaving evidence of your kissing like this, as while a hickey can be a badge of honor for guys, it can spell trouble for girls. There is quite a societal double standard and for girls, hickies can mean getting harassed or even fired from their job.
Tips
- Brush your teeth or chew mints for the same reason- girls do not like kissing boys who taste like garbage cans.
- Do not forget or neglect basic personal hygiene (i.e., the use of deodorant, chap stick, cologne, etc.) when you are planning to kiss your girlfriend- otherwise, she may simply be revolted by you and refuse to let you get too close to her.
- When you are finished with the kiss, smile, so it doesn't look like they did something bad.
- Make sure that you are in a reasonable place to kiss someone- if she's a shy girl, she probably will not like it if you try to kiss her in the middle of a roomful of people.
- Make sure you both are very attracted to each other; otherwise, one person may feel hurt or used.
- It does not mean from kissing you are going straight to bed so, be careful you can tell when she is kissing you softly or passionately.
- If the girl does not feel comfortable French kissing, then lay off. She may just not feel comfortable doing it.
- If you have long hair keep it out of your face! No one likes the taste of hair in their mouth.
- Don't have your hands all over the place, be appropriate with where you put them. If you touch her inappropriately, she'll back off or push you away. During a first kiss, she won't be jumpy or too eager to be too touchy.
- Don't make it sexual, girls hate when guys are too sexually charged.
- Brush your tongue, your tongue is the source of bad breath!
- Make sure there's no food in your mouth.
Warnings
- Do not go for it if she isn't comfortable with it yet; remember, time is key!
- Do not rush kissing, it should be taken in a timely manners.
- Do not get too cocky or go too far, especially on a first kiss.
- Do not go for a French kiss on a first kiss. Most girls won't feel comfortable with that on a first date.
- If neither of you have kissed before, it should NOT be an open-mouth kiss! Keep your first kiss sweet.
- Do not be pushy or forceful when attempting to kiss your girlfriend. If she does not want to kiss or force is required, chances are that particular kiss is not going to be a very pleasant one.
- Don't force yourself to kiss if you don't want to, it is your personal opinion and nobody can judge you.
